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@faraday said in Stranger Danger?:

Where I've landed after all these years:

• I stick to friendly co-op games.
• I don't do PVP or TS.
• I enforce firm boundaries on IC relationships. (Though even that has proved exhausting enough that I am now leery of romantic RP with anyone I don't already know and trust OOCly.)
• I'm choosy about the games I play on - usually either my own or ones from people I trust.

I feel bad that you've had such horrible experiences, though, because I have made several life-long friends through MUSHing. Not just "oh they RP well so it's fun to play a game with them" but true friends. Yes, we must be cautious and sensible with any interactions on the internet, but I don't think we need to be so paranoid that we cut ourselves off from meaningful interaction.

All of the above, though one slight alteration. I enforce firm boundaries, period. IC, OOC, all the boundaries, everywhere. And if there's even the slightest hint of a red flag, I just say so and move on. It has led to a world of difference for me, and I can genuinely say the friends I've made, I feel honoured to have made.

@Derp said in I owe a lot of people some apologies.:

@Hella

You say this and then you end up with Dirty My Little Pony. Careful what you wish for.

No, please.

@faraday said in I owe a lot of people some apologies.:
That's not to say my games are happy unicorn utopias

... okay, but could you make a happy unicorn utopia game, pls? Asking for a friend.

@faraday said in I owe a lot of people some apologies.:

@Tapewyrm It largely depends on where you play. Good people still exist. I've been on games that were pretty chill. This is not to discount Ghost's experiences, which are wholly valid, but I think we run in different game circles and have had very different experiences.

I concur with Faraday. There are definitely still good people/games out there. For the past year-plus, I've been somewhere that has been amazing, with people who are some of the best people I've ever had the pleasure of playing with/knowing. They're out there. And when you find them? It's worth the rest.

Just checked my heartbeat! 75bpm, still seemingly alive. Welcome

@Ghost said in Bring back the Hog Pit:

But...and this is an important but...if the Hog Pit ever reopens and the floodgates open, letting the people who haven't had regular targets for a while now back at their old hunting ground, you can pretty much guarantee 10 more years of that behavior being normalized.

Can we just avoid fanning flames? Let others do what they're doing, and we can just do what we're doing without constantly calling back to the rift and categorizing some people as bad/evil? It's the same behavior, but from our side. Now, you're punching at them. You can make good points without doing that. I've seen you do it.

Maybe instead of a Hog Pit, we could establish a Log Pit, and we just post links to logs from scenes we've really loved being in. I'm only half joking.

@faraday said in The Case Against Real PBs:

Your points are often valid, but are presented in such an antagonistic manner that they get lost. People just end up reacting to the flames. So no, I don't feel that's constructive from a forum standpoint

I agree with this. There are some good points in what is presented, but they get buried under the antagonism, which is not restricted to just Ghost's posts. This whole thread has been a good representation of the general issue, which is that there's some interesting content and discussion that could happen, if it wasn't overshadowed. I've never thought about the issue of using celebrity PBs or not before and those posting in this thread have made some really good points that have helped me give the matter more consideration. I still don't know where I fall on the issue but it was helpful to read the various stances posed here.

Sadly, I have deleted this site from my favorites bar and will no longer be checking here for PMs and such, which was all I'd been coming here for over the past few years, anyway.

For those who wish to contact me, I can be found on Discord as Zombiegenesis on the Ares and MuHaven servers.

@Ghost said in The Case Against Real PBs:

"ridiculous argument about Sporty Spice"

This was posted as I was writing my post. I'll counter a ridiculous argument with another one, did you ask for consent from all the people you jerked off to in high school? Did you tell them you were doing it? No? Did it affect their lives in any way that you were doing it?