• RE: Stranger Danger?

    @Ghost
    Its been said that the human brain cannot distinguish between imagination and reality. Seems fair, given that everything is in the brain, and we can fool ourselves or be fooled for a long long time.

    If you believe that people can have strong personal reactions for public images, or characters in a book or film, stands to reason it would be fairly common for there to be bleed. In a way, that IS the point, to have investment, sympathy.

    It's a question of self awareness, and managing that bleed.

    I'd like to suggest that even if a player is completely separate from a character, as we imagine an author or tactical player might be, there is still the reward of collaboration, and the ease of familiarity, which is still an in to a players emotions.

    Be aware, and manage it.

    posted in Reviews and Debates
  • RE: Stranger Danger?

    No idea who that is, feels like a bot, but I don't have the time or the patience for it so banned.

    posted in Reviews and Debates
  • RE: Stranger Danger?

    @Ghost
    Know, learn or guess what your personally vulnerable roleplay topics are.
    Don't do RP thats personally vulnerable.
    Dont' give out personal details like names, locations, job title.
    Don't share any social media, it's a network of places for you and others to make security mistakes.

    If there are questions about people you RP wiith, ask them. Ask others. You dont have the believe anyone and you need to remember both manipulative intent, and personal bias.

    Remember that these are people, with all the human traits, good and bad.
    Remember that you are worthwhile.
    Look up manipulation techniques, such as framing everything as what you owe others. Resist them. Discuss what you feel and walk away from those who are repeat offenders.
    In game events do not justify bad behavior as a player.
    If you are connecting romantically, sexually, or as companionship, it comes with all the risks of using an app to find someone for the same. Stalkers, grifters, users, abusers galore, entitled, jaded, etc
    You don't owe anyone your time.
    You don't owe anyone anything other than basic good citizenship.
    You'll be lucky to finnd some great friends you can suspend all this with.
    If you must use other media like discord, ideally create accounts per game.
    Do not go on camera.
    Do not expect staff to be more trustworthy. Being staff just means they get something done.

    They say that nicotine addiction after a certain point is about relieving the withdrawal. If someones "friendship" feels like you are in trouble and then when you do the right thing, it feels better, get away.

    Still make friends and delight in how awesome a lot of people are.

    posted in Reviews and Debates
  • RE: Anything Battlestar related still running?

    Sorry. 😕

    posted in Adver-tis-ments
  • RE: I owe a lot of people some apologies.

    @Hella

    You say this and then you end up with Dirty My Little Pony. Careful what you wish for.

    posted in Mildly Constructive
  • RE: I owe a lot of people some apologies.

    @Tapewyrm not much help, but there was a thread fairly recently (as in within a few months) where the status of some various game finders were discussed. It might be worth tracking down, but I do think the general news was many are static, but the ares one mentioned and maybe some others still had newer games listed.

    posted in Mildly Constructive
  • RE: I owe a lot of people some apologies.

    @Ghost

    It's probably fine. @Reimesu and I certainly find it suspicious that the specific questions being asked seem like they would come from the playbook of Andrew Tate, but the underlying point of 'are the rules enforced equally' is at least a fair question. Which is why I answered in the specific way I did, despite Tapewyrm's objections to the form of the answer.

    If this is part of a legitimate inquiry? Great! The questions have now been asked and answered.

    If it's some kind of setup for something silly, then I think that we've shown as admins that our tolerance for such games is incredibly low.

    We'll see! I'm optimistic but cautious.

    posted in Mildly Constructive
  • RE: I owe a lot of people some apologies.

    @Ghost just as an example, this is the sort of question I would normally ask.

    However the responses here have always included hostility and suspicion, so its never been worth the time.

    Just a data point.

    posted in Mildly Constructive
  • RE: I owe a lot of people some apologies.

    @Tapewyrm said in I owe a lot of people some apologies.:

    @Derp said in I owe a lot of people some apologies.:

    @reimesu

    Exactamundo. That's why I'm essentially asking you if you are sexist against men, as part of my assessment of this environment. I don't want to be among people who think it's okay to denigrate masculinity but won't accept any criticism of female behavior in turn. I don't want to have to listen to people whining about mansplaining, toxic masculinity, or male privilege all the time, especially as means to win an argument, as is the case I find in many online spaces. If that's not you guys, then all you had to do was say so when I specifically asked if you clamp down on gendered insults towards men.

    In short, we don’t allow serious insults to anyone, for any reason, in any context, anywhere. It’s a blanket statement of policy that applies to everyone equally. Hopefully that is clear.

    posted in Mildly Constructive
  • RE: I owe a lot of people some apologies.

    @Ghost Sigh

    DON’T MAKE ME TURN THIS CAR AROUND.

    posted in Mildly Constructive