@Macha If I were reading Reddit, and this was AITA thread, you might be right. You might not be the asshole here. Having dealt with Ruiz player at one point, I can very well agree that they are very toxic and have a way of twisting the truth to benefit them.
Having said that, the few times that I have dealt with you on different games has made me wary of having you anywhere near any game that I play or staff, and from what I have heard, others have the same opinion, despite what happened in this instance. I get that you are upset about that, but your reputation makes people wary, and that's just something you're going to have to deal with.