Just Thoughts before Departure
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I am not a fan of these sort of posts. I find a lot of the time it is people wanting to guilt trip people or get people to beg them to stay. That said:
I am not a fan of how things happened. Everything that has happened in the past couple weeks feels like it goes against the spirit of MSB. I don't believe MSB is the healthiest of environments and has some people who are (some where now) quite set on their views. However, in the culture that MSB cultivates, vitriol responses is part of it. It was (is?) a 'safe place' people can vent about their games, previous games, etc. I put 'safe place' in quotes because there CAN be a lot of piling on someone or over the top attack responses to certain things said. The claims that the dramas of MSB spreads outside the board, of course it does, friends talk with friends who talk with friends. That is the nature of people. However, I do think MSB kept MUSHes in a little better place than a lot of the other counterparts of mu*s because people could 'safely' express their discourse.
Now, I expressed to Gany that I did not think Derp is a good person to have as an admin. He might be the nicest of guys who advocates for the end of kicking innocent little puppies but his behavior and mannerisms have inclined me to think he is not a good leader type. When people were asking questions on his game and he had to repeatedly explain the same things to them he got very dismissive of people's concerns or thoughts very quickly. When people voice disagreement and upset feels about what he says that can be controversial or offensive he doubles down on what he says and insists that he is not saying anything that hurts the feels. His own friends have said he's not the best at social interactions. Which is fine, not everyone is. However, that is not a trait suited to 'leading' a group of people. No matter how hands off people claim to be on here (opposite has been shown for here) the admin/moderators are still the leaders and even if he is suppose to be just for code help (which doesn't seem to be the case any more?) Derp does not present a good face for some of the stuff that everyone here (and formerly here) wants as 'common' unaccepted and accepted stuff. He has more than once made comments that are very offensive and hurtful.
Gany mildly concerns me for if she is doing okay because everything that happened doesn't seem like it is in character for her. I get feelings were out of hand for everyone and it very much likely felt like a dog pile for Gany. More so after she said that Mietze is the one that needs to help solve everything that went down.Which I don't recall ever happening to Gany. I hope she is doing well, however.
With how a lot of the leadership here is I don't feel I can stay. I try not to subject myself to situations I don't feel safe or comfortable in anymore unless I have too. I know, that is a little ironic with how vicious talks in the Hogpit could get. That is expected discomfort and such, one that I accepted. The leadership stuff and the broken trust are not the 'expected discomfort' for me.
So, that is my ado.
