I have not always protected myself well, but the MU community at large does not often inspire confidence in potential camraderie, and often when it does, you pay for engaging it anyway. Distance and time are my only weapons left and anyone begrudged and dedicated enough could easily put pieces together to harm me, if they really wanted That said, I haven't managed to keep from setting my hand on the stove burner for too long. Mostly because there are charming and intelligent people who just draw me in. It's entirely my own fault for coming back every time. I'm sure this is not a unique experience. As for the rest, I have no use for demographics or identity information and as such I don't volunteer it beyond the most obvious bits. As such, friends come and go from my life. I wish them well unless I don't.