Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.
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I just witnessed a whole bunch of people being shitty to other people while praising the importance of not being shitty to tech support people.
If only that tech support guy woulda told Auspice he was an MSB user, then maybe he would have deserved the lack of patience and general civility, eh?
Keep on keepin' on
ETA: @Auspice, tech people who waste my time (and theirs) walking me through a script despite me having already done the initial troubleshooting is annoying. I get it, I do, but if they're citing backed up energy in the coax then you're probably better off doing their job for them. Which sucks because unfortunately you need them to run the flow tests.
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@Ghost We come here for the shitty. It's like a sewer, but one of those old Victorian sewers with the nice brickwork, but it's still coated in shit.
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@Tinuviel said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
It's like a sewer, but one of those old Victorian sewers with the nice brickwork, but it's still coated in shit.
what is this monstrosity of a sentence
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@Auspice said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
@Tinuviel said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
It's like a sewer, but one of those old Victorian sewers with the nice brickwork, but it's still coated in shit.
what is this monstrosity of a sentence
Shuddup, Meg.
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@Admiral said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
If the only way you can think of to do your job is to lie to people, even though it's not technically required by the company? You are liar. You are a shitty fucking liar. Period.
Well, there goes my line of work.
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I think my student lured the English language down a dark alleyway and beat the crap out of it.
This is not English as we know it.
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@JinShei said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
I think my student lured the English language down a dark alleyway and beat the crap out of it.
This is not English as we know it.
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Yesterday morning I woke up to a text from my sister asking where in Austin I lived. I told her, asked Why.
Hours later, my dad called (about something unrelated) and as I hadn't heard back from her yet... I asked if he knew why she was asking.
Turns out she'd talked to our mother the day before and she's planning a trip to Austin with her best friend and had asked our mother if I would host them.
Like, wtf child.
Why the everloving shit would you ask our mother if I'd host you and not ask me?
You think our mother can dictate that? I am now LESS LIKELY to say yes.To our mother's credit, she did tell my sister to ask me.
To our mother discredit, she told my sister I'd do it if they offered to pay for food.I'm leaning towards being willing to do so because while my sister and I had a terrible relationship through her tweens and early teens (holy shit she took bratty teen to a new level and even when I'd try to do big sister stuff like take her shopping, to get her nails done, etc., she'd just be catty and mean to me)... we've had a few text convos over the past year that have been OK.
But man.
I'm peeved she'd ask our mom instead of just being adults and asking me directly.just gotta remember she's not yet 21 and still p much a child.
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@Auspice said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
just gotta remember she's not yet 21 and still p much a child.
Unsolicited comment: you're enabling the behavior.
Don't.
Please, don't.
This will not turn out well.
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@Ganymede said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
Unsolicited comment: you're enabling the behavior.
Don't.
Please, don't.
This will not turn out well.Well, so far I'm teasing it out.
She asked where I live.
I told her and asked why.
She said she just wanted to know because she and her friend want to visit Austin.I haven't offered. I haven't said I talked to our folks.
I AM making her ask. And if she asks, I WILL set stipulations (must provide their own food, must clean up after themselves, must provide own vehicle, etc.).
But I'm seeing if she can at least get to the point of actually asking.
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Word of warning.
If she has a history of being a bratty sis, then NOT BEING 21 might quickly turn into "she's drinking at my place and living the SXSW lifestyle at my expense, and now I have to keep track of her."
My little brother is notorious for being a motherfucker like that. While I was house sitting for my parents he just...invited 30 18-20yo over for a party. I made the mistake of trying to be a cool older brother and made an agreement that I'd keep it on the DL so long as everyone cleaned up and there was no drinking.
That was naive.
Ended up with a trashed place and bottles everywhere, and when I told him he needed to clean up, he said "I'll just tell mom it was you. Who's she gonna believe?" (my parents ended up believing it was him, but not punishing him for it. It took about 10 years for them to even admit that they knew he did wrong)
Hes done stuff like this so regularly over the years that I've learned that if he isnt specifically looking to spend time with ME, then I'm not going to accommodate him using me for his own purposes.
I would be very wary that this has less to do with wanting to be around you at all, but preferring not to spend money on motels.
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Few upsides:
She IS probably trying to come for SXSW (she mentioned cheap plane tickets 'after her birthday' and SXSW is right after her birthday), but SXSW is ridic expensive.
My apartment complex is gated. To get in the gate, you have to put in a code that dials my phone. That'd be hilarious if she tries getting people to come over for a party. ('You're what? For the who? In the when?')I am HOPING that the fact that she already drinks heavily/regularly at bars (go, go Charleston, SC and your wonderfully stringent (NOT) carding policies) will keep her from going stupid after she turns 21... I was NOT a heavy drinker, but I drank sometimes and didn't go wild once I turned 21.
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@Ghost said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
I would be very wary that this has less to do with wanting to be around you at all, but preferring not to spend money on motels.
This is more of a presumption for me.
I'm fine with doing it, as long as we're on the table for our reasons, yeah?
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@Ganymede said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
@Ghost said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
I would be very wary that this has less to do with wanting to be around you at all, but preferring not to spend money on motels.
This is more of a presumption for me.
I'm fine with doing it, as long as we're on the table for our reasons, yeah?
And hey, I'm fine with that.
But it's part of why I'd make it clear that staying with me ain't a free ride. Wanna stay with me? Cool.
You don't get to use my car.
You don't get to eat my food.
You don't get to drink my alcohol.
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Yeah, I see where you're coming from, but my response would also include: you don't get to stay with me.
And when she asks plaintively for an explanation, promise to give it to her after she holds employment for ten years.
Sister, after work I ain't got time for your shit. If you want to go to SXSW, do what every other adult does and get your own room, food, and transportation. Otherwise, prove to me that you can do all of the above, and I'll reconsider.
Be advised I am in a ripe, hateful mood today.
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I would just be careful that she isn't being totally obnoxious in that 'well I said I was coming to the area you should have inferred that that means I'm coming to stay with you' bullshit, since it sounds like she may be the type to whine up a storm (of the 'even if the parents know she did wrong they may cave and grouse at you instead of her just to shut her up' variety) that would cause more angst and drama for you.
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@Ganymede said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
Yeah, I see where you're coming from, but my response would also include: you don't get to stay with me.
And when she asks plaintively for an explanation, promise to give it to her after she holds employment for ten years.
Sister, after work I ain't got time for your shit. If you want to go to SXSW, do what every other adult does and get your own room, food, and transportation. Otherwise, prove to me that you can do all of the above, and I'll reconsider.
Be advised I am in a ripe, hateful mood today.
To her credit, she does work. Which surprises me after she dropped out of college her first semester because she spent more time at festivals/parties than in class and panicked when midterms rolled around.
Mind, she just waitresses and hasn't tried to find a better job, but she's often worked at two places at once.
She's lived on her own since she was 18, same as I did, which is more than I can say for any of our brothers.
So I have to give her some credit.
It's just that she is very much a 'party girl' and ranks going to festivals/concerts and drugs/alcohol above most other stuff and that's a red flag (she dated a drug dealer for a while, for example).
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What irks me today, iRL is all the little hoops you have to jump through to get on the Dean's List. It's not like my Daughter can go to college any more than fulltime, and stay sane, and I don't think she could push for a bit higher than her 3.9 GPA. BUT apparently, even though she's in the running there is MORE BS she has to jump through. Ugh. Now I remember why I hate college.
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Hey, since we're on the subject of sisters.
I have a sister in law that's a trip. And man, I need to let off some steam here.
She was adopted and is considerably older than my husband (she's 51 now). We never knew each other well until she fell on hard time and we decided to open our home to her.
That was two years ago. She moved out shortly thereafter, and then had to move back in October, and she has just moved out.
But she is constantly trying to stir stuff between me and my mother in law. Among other things. Like being an alcoholic.
December just after Christmas she got drunk and wrote my mother in law a letter about how me and my husband were pieces of shit and then didn't talk to us for 3 or 4 days. She moved out, and then asked for money. Twice. Which we didn't have.
She thinks we do because earlier this month, we took out a small loan to redo our house and start our business. It's virtually all used up because we had our things in order to order and go. It was also my kid's 6th birthday, so she saw how we spoiled him. Our car was also broken into and the battery and spare tire were stolen only because they couldn't get our car started once they were inside it (surveillance footage).
And asked for money again.
Now, she popped in and saw all this and was ecstatic and over the moon and insisted on giving me a hug and told me how happy she was for us and then an hour later texted my mother in law about how distraught/distressed she is about something she heard while here.
She is absolutely incapable of feeling true empathy for another creature, human or otherwise. The world revolves around her. One of many examples: When she fell on hard times a couple of years ago (long before we extended our offer) she decided to put her two healthy labs to sleep because she didn't think they'd be able to handle being away from her instead of taking them to a shelter or a rescue.
Last time she lived with us, also, she decided to "surprise" me by picking my child up from school without my knowledge.
I was surprised alright. If she hadn't pulled into the driveway when she did, there was going to be a homicide right in front of the neighbors. Someone at his school was fired over the incident.See, I mentioned she's an alcoholic? She isn't allowed to drive my child anywhere. I don't even trust her to take a fucking pizza out of the oven.
Anyway, I want to tell her to not have any contact with me or my family any more.
It's come to the point where I think she's flat out possessed.
Being diplomatic isn't my thing, so this is going to go off like a nuclear bomb.
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@nyctophiliac said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
It's come to the point where I think she's flat out possessed.
Being diplomatic isn't my thing, so this is going to go off like a nuclear bomb.
Not to make lite of the situation but...