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  • RE: Stranger Danger?

    @Misadventure said in Stranger Danger?:

    Know, learn or guess what your personally vulnerable roleplay topics are.
    Don't do RP thats personally vulnerable.
    Don't give out personal details like names, locations, job title.
    Don't share any social media, it's a network of places for you and others to make security mistakes.

    These four points are always good to follow.

    I thought I had made friends over my past 25+ years of doing this, but I misjudged how firm many of those friendships were.

    Last suggestion:

    It's okay to let it all go.

    And I have.

    posted in Reviews and Debates
  • RE: Stranger Danger?

    There's one guy who was on The Network and then on another game that I was on who would vault over boundaries. The second time he did it, he did it while not using his normal Ares handle so I wouldn't know it was him. (I figured it out on my own, anyway. He had very noticeable patterns.)

    To quote a friend, "Consent that you have to lie to get isn't consent." Frankly, I don't understand how anyone can leave MUshing due to bad experiences and distrust and then complain that those of us who stayed want to be able to know who we associate with on a regular basis. That's a pretty big disconnect, thinking that it's OOC drama to ask for that information. It's not, it's called informed consent. If someone is on the receiving end of the question, that's not OOC drama, it's someone being self-protective due to past incidents, or actively trying to avoid OOC drama.

    Hell, I know there's a number of people who don't want to RP with me. I do my best to respect that. I'm an acquired taste and I get that I'm not everyone's cuppa.

    posted in Reviews and Debates
  • RE: Stranger Danger?

    What I do is try to find the person who's a RL friend who wants the same kind of RP. Either come into the game with an established "relationship" or map out what the two of you want to happen in RP and actually stay in communication. Then we both have a shield from predators. This has worked on numerous games.

    For meeting new people, there's always networking within the friend-group you have. "Do you know who this person is or know them from another game?"

    But really, you are 100% in control of the information you give out, so be very sure before you give it out. Predators will stalk even without the personal info, so don't jump in with both feet the first time you chat with someone OOCly. If they're giving you their life story before you've even said hello, it's a red flag.

    posted in Reviews and Debates
  • RE: Stranger Danger?

    No idea who that is, feels like a bot, but I don't have the time or the patience for it so banned.

    posted in Reviews and Debates
  • RE: Anything Battlestar related still running?

    Sorry. 😕

    posted in Adver-tis-ments
  • RE: RL tips, cheats, and hacks

    @Macha What are co-work streamers?

    posted in Tastes Less Game'y
  • RE: I owe a lot of people some apologies.

    @Hella

    You say this and then you end up with Dirty My Little Pony. Careful what you wish for.

    posted in Mildly Constructive
  • RE: I owe a lot of people some apologies.

    @Ghost

    It's probably fine. @Reimesu and I certainly find it suspicious that the specific questions being asked seem like they would come from the playbook of Andrew Tate, but the underlying point of 'are the rules enforced equally' is at least a fair question. Which is why I answered in the specific way I did, despite Tapewyrm's objections to the form of the answer.

    If this is part of a legitimate inquiry? Great! The questions have now been asked and answered.

    If it's some kind of setup for something silly, then I think that we've shown as admins that our tolerance for such games is incredibly low.

    We'll see! I'm optimistic but cautious.

    posted in Mildly Constructive
  • RE: I owe a lot of people some apologies.

    @Tapewyrm said in I owe a lot of people some apologies.:

    @Derp said in I owe a lot of people some apologies.:

    @reimesu

    Exactamundo. That's why I'm essentially asking you if you are sexist against men, as part of my assessment of this environment. I don't want to be among people who think it's okay to denigrate masculinity but won't accept any criticism of female behavior in turn. I don't want to have to listen to people whining about mansplaining, toxic masculinity, or male privilege all the time, especially as means to win an argument, as is the case I find in many online spaces. If that's not you guys, then all you had to do was say so when I specifically asked if you clamp down on gendered insults towards men.

    In short, we don’t allow serious insults to anyone, for any reason, in any context, anywhere. It’s a blanket statement of policy that applies to everyone equally. Hopefully that is clear.

    posted in Mildly Constructive
  • RE: I owe a lot of people some apologies.

    @Ghost Sigh

    DON’T MAKE ME TURN THIS CAR AROUND.

    posted in Mildly Constructive