MU Sads and Glads

[Macha]

Glad: Seeing a game someone started, really seeming to have some healthy growth.

Sad: Wanting to offer understanding and some sympathy to another someone because theirs didn't, but.. it would be AWKWARD.

[Juniper]

It is a little uncomfortable when somebody chooses to make a big show about quitting a game but then have trouble following through. They hang around, announce to their friends, give away their stuff, make a few more announcements, then stand outside looking in the windows hoping someone will miss them when everybody has already gone back to playing.

Like, please. I wish they would stop making this so uncomfortable for everybody involved. Just go. We'll be fine. I promise.

[Ghost]

@Juniper The shit part about when people do that, is that it clearly wasn't about quitting.

People who want to quit something just walk. You quit. You go do something else.

Whenever anyone (in any group setting) does something like this it just comes across to me as some undignified child shit. That they wanted to quit was a sham. What they really wanted was to cause a scene and hope that people rush in with praise and support to convince them not to quit. It's pretty awkward and vulnerable stuff. You see this a lot in online gaming, especially with mostly anonymous people (I've had it happen multiple times in RPGs and VTTs).

It's no different than threatening to leave your partner to see just how much they don't want you to leave, only the person doing it isn't smart enough to calculate how doing it will damage their relationship as a whole.

[Misadventure]

Best way to quit is to take a week or two break.
See how you feel then.

If you still arent sure you want to stay, look for other places and take breaks of days to weeks.

Repeat until you decide.
Probably good to keep up with any necessary administrative stuff if you have responsibilities to other players along the way.

No one needs to know a thing until you go away, and even then only if there are questions etc that really need you to answer.

Literally staff and your fellow players can write you out as they need without you.

[Juniper]

@Ghost said in MU Sads and Glads:

@Juniper The shit part about when people do that, is that it clearly wasn't about quitting.

It's not. In this case, it's clearly about some sort of childish protest in an attempt to punish the gamerunner for decisions. And from the outside it looks so petty and so ridiculous. We can all see right through this behaviour, and it's frankly embarrassing on their behalf. Especially when it becomes apparent how many people are in support of said decision, and are having tons of fun without them.

[reimesu]

@Juniper That's kind of the best resolution to that kind of petty stomping out. "Ok. Bye." sounds of fun being had without them.