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  • RE: Ruiz

    @Cobalt said in Ruiz:

    I’m really tired of this particular community using the fact that I engaged in sexual RP in the past to shame me or question my judgments.

    To be clear, it's not slut shaming. I don't give a shit who you get down with, or don't. I actively encourage people to bang it out with whoever they want.

    My question wasn't about sex. It's about boundaries and using positions of authority to gatekeep RP and leverage your own desires, sometimes crossing into territory that the community has a whole has considered unethical for some time.

    So fly your freak flag high. Nobody is slut-shaming. But dipping your toes into a situation as an admin that your PC has a stake in? Not a good thing to do, and something that we should all be questioning more. The fact that, in my experience, you do it more with romantic situations is really entirely tangential to the point, not the focus.

    As for playing on one of your games, I haven't done that since Darkwater, and don't plan to. Ever. Not only for the reasons Reimesu mentioned, but also because I respect you as a player and a coder, but think you're a garbage decision maker. I'm sure you have even less respect for me than that anymore, so it'd be foolish to pretend that we were ever going be copacetic in any scenario.

    You do you. I'll do me. We'll both continue living the same as before.

    thumbs up

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  • RE: Ruiz

    @Cobalt I haven't played on any of your games in years. Not worth my time to get attached to a character when you're going to close it in three months anyway.

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  • RE: Ruiz

    @Bessarion

    Logs that were very selectively provided, which were later proven to be only a partial picture wherein he actively continued to engage her for sexual RP while she was concerned that he was harem building?

    That's based on logs too.

    Not that the existence of this evidence has exonerated @Macha in the eyes of her accusers, naturally. She's surely done something else equally abhorrent so she's still just as guilty.

    I hypothesize that there might be more to then story and I'm 'writing fan fiction' and 'making up crimes out of thin air', but they can ignore actual exonerating evidence while continuing to decry her as the devil.

    Kind of like that same group did to you, what. Last week?

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  • RE: Ruiz

    @hobos

    That's not how conjecture works. If I had proof of something happening right now then I would simply post that and it would no longer be conjecture.

    Then it would be an accusation.

    But I did not make an accusation. I said, based on my past experiences, that it would not surprise me if there were an alternate explanation for the situation that went something more along the lines of the hypothetical scenario.

    Which is why it's conjecture. It might not have gone down like that. But based on who is involved, my own personal knowledge, and the actions of everyone all around? I won't rule it out.

    Players can come to their own conclusions. They're going to anyway regardless of what gets said or what evidence is presented, as we can see from the community response to this situation even after exonerating evidence is presented. But being made aware that there are possibly other motives involved is hardly News at 11 for MU-land. That's our standard playbook.

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  • RE: Ruiz

    @Cobalt

    I said that it was conjecture. But that conjecture is based on past experience, wherein you did this to me, personally, twice. (Or three times. I suppose it depends on whether you count 'twice at the same time across different games' as one incident or two.)

    I didn't say that's what you did here. Maybe you've changed. It was a long time ago. I said that it would not surprise me if the actual events were more like what I described in the, again, statement of conjecture.

    That said, you have done it. Repeatedly. Pretty shamelessly, I might add. It's a pattern that I've personally witnessed, and in fact been on the receiving end of. So I'm perfectly allowed to wonder, and even hypothesize, that maybe you had a personal stake in this incredibly hasty and rash action that, from all evidence so far, was based on exactly the kind of weaponized accusation that I repeatedly warn against.

    Perhaps, in the future, consider digging a little deeper before doing something hasty. This one seems to have come back to bite you a bit.

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  • RE: Ruiz

    @Cobalt Thanks for your opinion, I'll continue to go by my own. I have not weighed in on my opinion about your actions, or indeed, anyone's. I'm fairly sure you wouldn't want my unvarnished opinion of any of this.

    That said, I do think you need to learn the difference between calling out an action and calling someone a name. There is, in fact, a difference.

    Have a good night!

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  • RE: Ruiz

    @Cobalt

    It's calling out an action, not a personal attack. Do you really not see the difference?

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  • RE: Ruiz

    @Macha said in Ruiz:

    I have no idea what DARVO even stands for, but you go on and do you.

    Apparently, it means "deny, attack, and reverse victim and offender." It's the sort of term that pops up often at Title IX hearings.

    As for the 'homophobic shit'. As someone who is part of that group, I have seen is used fairly often by those of the LGBTQ+ community. Including on the Pack wiki page, for a business open to all identities and sexualities.

    To me, this is sort of like the black community using the n-word. I don't use the term because it is meant to insinuate that LGBTQ+ members have some sort of illegal or unspoken agenda with the aim of taking over communities, like a criminal organization. I think this is a harmful term to play around with loosely.

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  • RE: Ruiz

    @Bessarion said in Ruiz:

    And I'm done giving your dysfunctional ass attention. Just stop.

    (Bold is mine) That's a personal attack. Please stop.

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  • RE: The Pack Discussion

    @kk said in The Pack Discussion:

    I need to make some major changes.

    I don't think so. I mean, you meet a lot of good people too. It's not how you go about your business as much as setting limits. I've faith.

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