If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:
If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:
If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’
If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!
@too-old-for-this My dad was also never home for YEARS after my mother passed (I was 4 when she passed), I honestly think if she'd lived, even just a handful more years, I would have been far better off, in so many ways.
But, as a female, they just wrote me off as lazy when I was a shining star in class, and never did the homework.
I seriously wonder if going back to college classes now on Adderall would be different.
ETA: Stupid spelling mistakes in the wee hours.
I'm late to this comment - sorry.
I was like a 2.5 gpa high school student. I never turned in my daily work because I'd forget. I tested off the charts. I was intelligent, I was just bored.
In college I found things I adored doing and other classes that I had to force focus, but I was a 4.0 college student. I have full faith if you want to go back, you'd be a rockstar at it. With the added help of medicine to help you think and concentrate better, even more. So good vibes to you if you are going back.
Once upon a time on a game far, far, away... I had a RPing partner on a MU*. They were giving off all the indications of something being off about their patterns. They were partying harder, they were depressed, they were angry, etc. We would touch on it. I wasn't sure what to do for the longest time for many of the reasons already listed here. Then I just one day went -- Hey, are you really okay? Seriously? -- Then I went through and talked about medication and how I don't view it as something that had to be hidden. I shared a bit of my own personal story and that person ended up seeking help.
Now, it is not your JOB to do this. Please understand that. Not everyone is the same. -- My thought on it (which is personal) is that if someone is put upon my heart, then I should reach out. I would rather lose a friend with a show of concern then stay silent. HOWEVER that is just my thoughts and your choices are valid how you end up handling it.
On top of every shitty thing going on in the world are the sometimes-reminders that there's still normal, everyday shitty things happening.
My son had a close friend. Said friend rolled their car off the highway and died. It's the first time he's lost anyone close to him. He's dealing with it very well, but I'm finding that my normal anxiety about him getting hit by one of the idiot drivers around here has ramped up considerably.
(Editing to add:) He's got an auntie who's a hospice nurse and I've dealt with death on numerous occasions, so he understands he's got resources on how to deal with it and support. And the option of therapy if he decides he wants to give it a go.
@hella Oooh, thanks for these. I'm super burnt out on writing fiction (other than MUing) right now but I didn't know about any of these and will want them when my heart and brain and mind stop shying away from such things.
I'm known to use wikidot, still do for some things.
As has been pointed out to me - if anyone is worried about anything too personal and they have an account not tied to a burner email, now might be a time to consider changing to one. Whether the hack was just some attack at Poland to stop the spread of what Russia sees as 'disinformation' about them in Ukraine (most likely) or not, it has shown others, who might be more malicious to individuals, that there have been insecurities found in wikidot.