May 24, 2016, 9:32 PM

@Kestrel

Part of my question is: How do G & H know there's anything going on in the Town Square? With Bob's Party I'm presuming you were invited. How would you invite yourself to Town Square?

I ask this in part because you are framing a lot of this as "What Would Happen IC". In trying to help you understand the OOC culture, I'm pointing out that you already are acting on OOC information, which lead you to paging. You engaged in OOC behavior in order to find a scene to play in.

I call this "There Is No Such Thing As Purely IC". That doesn't negate your complaint, but is meant to aim at the argument that the people you wanted to interact with were not being IC, and that's why you feel pushed away. OOC was already engaged; you just skipped a bunch of steps by paging.

So lets keep it IC. You then say that G & H want to go to the Town Square because of a reason they invent, and show up and find out there are people there already. Oh happy day! If they're all busy with their own thing, then you and H pose around with each other some more, trying to negotiate yourselves into the scene.

Maybe people leave because it's IC because they hate G or H, fine. But maybe they leave because they themselves can no longer as a player negotiate the scene. What do you do then? You arrive and the scene breaks down and everyone moves on. This is almost the worst case scenario. Are you still okay with that?

If you are, then you don't page and just show up. You aren't your brother's keeper, and you can figure out how to negotiate into someone's scene a little better next time. This is 100% fine and how we used to do things in Mushes. Doing it this way isn't rude, it's engaging. Using IC to get engagement with scenes and play is okay. If anyone tells you that it's not okay, then it's part of their expectations and they can get over it.

Or as someone else said: Don't take the advice as set in stone. It's all just advice. Try it your way until you learn a new way. You be you.