Ethical Question
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Question...
IS IT ETHICAL to join a bunch of MUs and embed yourself in roleplay with people who don't like you as a means to repair your relationship with them by being cool with them...and then later reveal it was you all along?
...asking for a friend.
Delete the Hog Pit. It'll be fun.
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@Ghost said in Ethical Question:
IS IT ETHICAL to join a bunch of MUs and embed yourself in roleplay with people who don't like you as a means to repair your relationship with them by being cool with them...and then later reveal it was you all along?
Generally, I don't find myself in such ethical quandaries because I have neither the time nor the inclination to try and convince people who don't like me that I am likeable.
“It is better to live doing the things that you like. It is foolish to live within this dream of a world seeing unpleasantness and doing only things that you do not like.” -- Yamamoto Tsunetomo.
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@Ganymede said in Ethical Question:
@Ghost said in Ethical Question:
IS IT ETHICAL to join a bunch of MUs and embed yourself in roleplay with people who don't like you as a means to repair your relationship with them by being cool with them...and then later reveal it was you all along?
Generally, I don't find myself in such ethical quandaries because I have neither the time nor the inclination to try and convince people who don't like me that I am likeable.
Generally, it's for that reason that I've never moderated an online forum and have never been in a situation where I've trained to maintain my popularity in spite of.
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No, it's not ethical. And they won't like you after that.
Interactions on online roleplay spaces are largely transactional. People are going to like you for whatever enjoyment you bring to their experience. And they will very quickly dislike you if you destroy their enjoyment. Giving them space for character development, giving them fun stuff to roleplay about, nice writing, making them feel good about themselves, et cetera -- versus getting in the way of their intended plots, disturbing their fun, triggering them, emotionally burdening them in an OOC way, delegitimizing their character concepts in your roleplay, et cetera. They don't usually care about you as a person in real life; at most they are just trying to act ethically themselves while pursuing the enjoyment of a hobby that we share.
If you make them feel bad, that's stuck in their head now. The most respectful thing to do, ethically, is just leave them alone. And if you can't do that, because it's a small hobby... don't bring back the bad feelings to them in any way. Just play quietly and politely. The most ethical way is to be clear about who you are so they can avoid you. The second most ethical way is at least to let the game runner know who you are. The third is to just turn over a new leaf without bringing any attention to it.
Insinuating yourself in others' good graces and then bringing back whatever bad feelings you once caused, in an effort to pad your ego in some imaginary redemption arc, is honestly kind of a very lame plan that will backfire. They will feel betrayed and annoyed. And those are bad feelings, so all you've done is make things worse, because now they have even more bad feelings on top of the old ones.
At least, this is my opinion based of my admittedly not-great understanding of human interactions and basic ethics of integrity.
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@Ghost FUCK NO. That is creepy and stalkery behavior and fucking disgusting.
If people want nothing to do with someone, be fucking honest and ask for a chance. OR, fucking respect their choices. Consent based on a lie is not consent.
God, I'm just sitting here grossing the fuck out.
