RL Anger
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That shit's cruel.
Yeah. Between poor facility condition, barely acceptable health code practices, massive overcrowding, and stuff like excessive heat/cold, I really feel like there's an 8th amendment claim brewing at over half our county jails. And truth be told, I would cheer that on. Most of them are being held pre-trial, but the dockets are backed up so far they might be there for a month or two. It's kind of bullshit.
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@aria sorry, that really sucks. Especially if you were working on growing it out, suffering through the weird inbetween stages, and having to be patient for so long.
I’m in the stage of life now where I tell my stylist “do whatever the fuck you want, just make me look better and less like a dowdy trainwreck.” But I have had a situation where a stylist misunderstood me, gathered my hair into a ponytail and cut off 10 inches in one fell swoop while my brain was still going “what—“
Hairshock is a thing. I hope after it wears off a bit you’ll like your cut a bit better.
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@tnp -- Sadly, it doesn't work quite like that. Mostly because -- with the haircut I was aiming for, most of what determines the length is the back of my hair. And with my head tilted down, it's really hard for me to see in the mirror. With my head tilted down and her cutting the back of my hair, it's impossible, mostly because of that whole not having eyes in the back of my head.
And in this case, in an attempt to get the back of my hair to lay the way I wanted it to? She was apparently having problems getting it to do that. She didn't tell me that, though. She just kept cutting. And cutting. And cutting until it was short enough to lay that way. By the time she was coming around to the front and I could see where the scissors were and going "Uhhhh, Katie, why is there a giant lock of cut hair on my shoulder? What are you doing?" my options at that point were let her finish the cut or stop and have what would've basically been a reverse mullet -- party in the front, business in the back.
So not me, but basically my hair now:
On the upside, I've realized over the last two days that is an objectively cute haircut and does look nice on me. In fact, it's exactly what I wanted for shape and style.... just much, much, much shorter. Like, I can't even pull it back short. And as @mietze said, I was trying to grow it out, so losing that much hair all at once means it's going to take about a year to grow back. If this -- and the other fuck up that happened while my regular stylist was on maternity leave -- had not happened? My hair would not be chin length right now. It would be several inches past my shoulders, which is what I was hoping to have eventually, and had just gotten it to the 'slightly past my shoulders' point.
Super frustrating.
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So I was going to write up my city from the Masquerade MUSH that didn't pan out for Storyteller's Vault.
Only to find out that they do not allow fictional cities to be written/sold for Storyteller's Vault. And that it came up during a facebook discussion but hasn't been added to the guidelines yet.
How fucking asinine.
Plus I can't even find the original discussion where they talk about it to see the why of it.
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I have been seeing the same stylist since I was 13 (and I'm now 45, y'all) for exactly this sort of reason.
(She's only like... 5-6 years older than me.)My standing orders are: 'we dye it whatever wacky colors we're gonna dye it, and just trim off what can't be saved'. It has no style to speak of, and is just a long mop that eventually layers itself while shit breaks because I live in ponytails, but once it's rainbow green, too much 'style' just confuses the issue anyway.
If it got hacked to chin length, I would likely murder someone, because I would look like an extraordinarily grumpy five year old chainsmoker or something, and that's just all the nope in the world.
I'm sorry, y'all.
(@Aria, I think(?) you're localish, so if you want the name of the lady I see, I'll pass it along; she's awesome and literally right over the state line by less than a mile if that helps any.)
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Years ago, I had a falling out with a friend. It was over such petty shit, too. We worked similar jobs. Me, tech support at Zoomtown (Cincinnati Bell's DSL branch). He worked tech support for Time Warner, in Columbus. We'd hang out on weekends (I was renting a house in Cincy from his mother, so he'd drive down, crash there, we had a D&D group...).
And then I got a job with Clear Channel as a sys admin.
The first sign something was up was when he was supposed to pick me up for game night (my then-SO needed the car for work) and... never showed. And when I got in touch with one of the guys we gamed with, he went 'Oh, K said you weren't coming tonight.' So he ditched me, then lied about it to the group. Lovely.
He began avoiding me altogether. Then, one weekend around when I moved out of the house, I was in the kitchen with him and his father. I finally broached the 'wtf man?' subject. He then proceeded to rail on me about how it was unfair I got the job I did and he didn't.
Even his father pointing out: a) you're not qualified for it, b) you never applied in the first place... got nowhere. He was just so angry that I, someone a few years younger than he, had a better job.
I moved on. Kept contact with his father for a while. It hurt, but what could I do?
This was 2005.The next time we had contact was, oh, probably 2012-ish or somewhere in there. I was on a game. Suddenly had a bunch of people come to me and share pages he'd sent them. See, he figured out I was there. I had no idea he was. But he went around paging people things like: 'Don't believe anything she says about me! It's all lies.'
Now, considering I'd never said a word about him, had RP'd with him, and obviously had no clue who the fuck he was... no one fell for it, thankfully, but it made my time there incredibly uncomfortable (until he left upon finding out that no, people weren't going to turn on me based on his say so).
It's always kind of sucked. At one time, I called him my brother. My chosen family. I moved to Ohio because he wanted me to, because he helped me get my initial job, etc.. I spent holidays with his family.
But the vitriol, I just couldn't anymore.
And then today, he wants to connect with me on a social media site. 12 years after the falling out. A handful of years after he was still being cruel towards me.
I'm trying to tell myself that it's because his father passed away a few months ago, which can make anyone rethink things... but I can't help but be really anxious about it.
Saying the quiet parts out loud since 1996.
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Is there any way at all you would be comfortable having this man as a part of your life in any way?
Think on that question. Because if the answer is 'no', then the only person who could possibly derive any benefit from contact is him. And if the only person who would derive any benefit is him, then.... you don't owe him forgiveness, or closure, or the assuaging of any potential guilt he may feel. That's his fucking problem.
I know that sounds harsh, but we as a culture -- and especially women -- are often encouraged to 'be the bigger person' and 'find healing through forgiveness'. And hey, if that would actually help you? Great. If all it would do is minimize other people's discomfort caused by conflict or drama, absolve responsibility, and stress you out by forcing you into interactions with someone who's treated you poorly? Don't do it. Just don't. And rest secure in the knowledge that no one can make you.
https://whatiswrongwith.me/Mia
There were never any good old days. They are today. They are tomorrow. It's a stupid thing we say, cursing tomorrow with sorrow. -- Gogol Bordello -
@auspice I am so sorry that this happened to you. It's always such a shit situation when someone you love (not romantic, though this should go without saying) turns on you out of the blue. I've had two situations like that myself, and... while one I'm thoroughly over, the other still actually breaks my heart to this day.
I still catch myself wanting to check in on him. He was a "best friend" of mine for 20 years, someone I called brother. He also has cancer, and was going through chemo when our friendship ended. But I told myself then that I couldn't do it anymore. I could not be his friend and I could not waste more time and energy on someone who clearly never felt the same way about me as I did him. So I don't.
I would suggest not responding to the request, personally. Yes, he may have changed. Or he may just be feeling nostalgic during his grieving process and trying to reconnect. My experience has been that, as soon as the luster wears off, the vitriol starts to rise again. But that's just my two cents.
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often encouraged to 'be the bigger person' and 'find healing through forgiveness'.
Pretty much my entire childhood right here.
And that may be a large part of it.I ended up letting my ex-husband back in my life for a while. He felt bad, wanted to mend bridges, wanted to play nice for sake of mutual friends, etc... (Supposedly) and against all feelings to the contrary, I agreed.
...only to find he was pretty much using it as means to get 'intel' to badmouth me and use me as a scapegoat for numerous things.
I just want people to be happy and copacetic, damnit. And this guy it's just... yeah, @ShelBeast, it's still hard sometimes. Because of how close we were. Because of how important he (and his family) were for me.
But no, I shouldn't reconnect. I don't really want to. Because it'd never be the same and that would be painful, too.
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Five weeks, this headache has lasted.
So I went to the ER today finally and got treated. And while the headache is considerably better (though not gone) at the moment, one of the cocktail of meds they gave me made me incredibly restless. So I'm exhausted/tired and yet very twitchy right now, which is a combination I'm not enjoying.
(Still, preferable to the headache.)
Second irritation, though, is that they have something they think might help which I should try, and my insurance has decided they don't want to cover it. Cost without insurance? Roughly $1100 per prescription.
a.k.a. Packetdancer (or "Pax" for short)
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Second irritation, though, is that they have something they think might help which I should try, and my insurance has decided they don't want to cover it. Cost without insurance? Roughly $1100 per prescription.
Uggggh. I hate that. So much. My insurance won't cover the main drug they think will help me, either. It's not nearly so much, but it's still way more than I could manage.
So I've been (well, not right now; haven't been able to afford it for over a month) on one where I take three pills a day, then I still have an emergency med on hand.
Migraines fucking suck. I'm glad the ER was able to give some relief, even if it sucks to have to go.
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@Sparks and @Auspice -- I used to work in pharmaceutical distribution. Little known secret about the industry: a lot of manufacturers have programs to help you afford their medication at very little cost if your insurance doesn't cover it and you make below a certain income bracket. If you know what said medication is, try looking up who makes it and giving them a call.
https://whatiswrongwith.me/Mia
There were never any good old days. They are today. They are tomorrow. It's a stupid thing we say, cursing tomorrow with sorrow. -- Gogol Bordello -
@Sparks and @Auspice -- I used to work in pharmaceutical distribution. Little known secret about the industry: a lot of manufacturers have programs to help you afford their medication at very little cost if your insurance doesn't cover it and you make below a certain income bracket. If you know what said medication is, try looking up who makes it and giving them a call.
My doctor actually gave me the info for the one for the medication I was on (trial packs). And a spiel of 'most people get it for free!'
The pharmacy tried. The poor girl spent about an hour on the phone system for it after trying on the computer.They got the cost 'down' to $250.
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Why am I paying $89.95 a month for so-called business class cable internet that is so slow and unreliable that it's not even suitable for MU*ing most of the time?!? I don't even have the choice to switch providers, because there is only the one >.<
Monopolies are fun.
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@rnmissionrun said in RL Anger:
Why am I paying $89.95 a month for so-called business class cable internet that is so slow and unreliable that it's not even suitable for MU*ing most of the time?!? I don't even have the choice to switch providers, because there is only the one >.<
Monopolies are fun.
I hate this shit. I've worked for DSL companies and I hate this shit.
The poor quality of connection and the limited options. Thankfully in most parts of the US, you can choose between DSL or cable, but when they both suck...?
All I can suggest is to keep complaining at them, RMR.
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@rnmissionrun said in RL Anger:
Why am I paying $89.95 a month for so-called business class cable internet that is so slow and unreliable that it's not even suitable for MU*ing most of the time?!? I don't even have the choice to switch providers, because there is only the one >.<
Monopolies are fun.
Hey, I don't even have one. I tether through my phone. Feel grateful you don't have that nightmare!
But seriously, that sucks.
Racism isn't Tinkerbell. It doesn't need you to believe in it for it to exist.
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@rnmissionrun said in RL Anger:
Why am I paying $89.95 a month for so-called business class cable internet that is so slow and unreliable that it's not even suitable for MU*ing most of the time?!? I don't even have the choice to switch providers, because there is only the one >.<
Monopolies are fun.
Hey, I don't even have one. I tether through my phone. Feel grateful you don't have that nightmare!
But seriously, that sucks.
I would be so happy if I could do that! Unfortunately, I have Sprint and my neighborhood is inside a so-called Sprint 'dead zone'. I can't even get 3g here.
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@rnmissionrun said in RL Anger:
@rnmissionrun said in RL Anger:
Why am I paying $89.95 a month for so-called business class cable internet that is so slow and unreliable that it's not even suitable for MU*ing most of the time?!? I don't even have the choice to switch providers, because there is only the one >.<
Monopolies are fun.
Hey, I don't even have one. I tether through my phone. Feel grateful you don't have that nightmare!
But seriously, that sucks.
I would be so happy if I could do that! Unfortunately, I have Sprint and my neighborhood is inside a so-called Sprint 'dead zone'. I can't even get 3g here.
Sprint will actually give you an 'extender' in your house (it does use your internet, so unfortunately it might not be of benefit for you
) if the tower doesn't reach you.My parents had to do this because their house is in a dead zone, too.
Saying the quiet parts out loud since 1996.
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@rnmissionrun said in RL Anger:
@rnmissionrun said in RL Anger:
Why am I paying $89.95 a month for so-called business class cable internet that is so slow and unreliable that it's not even suitable for MU*ing most of the time?!? I don't even have the choice to switch providers, because there is only the one >.<
Monopolies are fun.
Hey, I don't even have one. I tether through my phone. Feel grateful you don't have that nightmare!
But seriously, that sucks.
I would be so happy if I could do that! Unfortunately, I have Sprint and my neighborhood is inside a so-called Sprint 'dead zone'. I can't even get 3g here.
Sprint will actually give you an 'extender' in your house (it does use your internet, so unfortunately it might not be of benefit for you
) if the tower doesn't reach you.My parents had to do this because their house is in a dead zone, too.
You know, I applied for one of those and was denied. They told me to call the center to discuss other options. When I called and talked to them, the other options consisted solely of suggesting that I turn on WiFi calling.
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@rnmissionrun said in RL Anger:
@rnmissionrun said in RL Anger:
@rnmissionrun said in RL Anger:
Why am I paying $89.95 a month for so-called business class cable internet that is so slow and unreliable that it's not even suitable for MU*ing most of the time?!? I don't even have the choice to switch providers, because there is only the one >.<
Monopolies are fun.
Hey, I don't even have one. I tether through my phone. Feel grateful you don't have that nightmare!
But seriously, that sucks.
I would be so happy if I could do that! Unfortunately, I have Sprint and my neighborhood is inside a so-called Sprint 'dead zone'. I can't even get 3g here.
Sprint will actually give you an 'extender' in your house (it does use your internet, so unfortunately it might not be of benefit for you
) if the tower doesn't reach you.My parents had to do this because their house is in a dead zone, too.
You know, I applied for one of those and was denied. They told me to call the center to discuss other options. When I called and talked to them, the other options consisted solely of suggesting that I turn on WiFi calling.
All I could say is keep at it. I think it took my father a few tries to convince them to give him one.
Verizon, when I worked there, did a lot of the same BS. The 'Oop sorry no,' and as an agent it was because I wasn't approved to issue out things like that. It had to go up the line. But getting it up the line was a pain in the ass.
