Posts made by DareDaemon

I've met people from MU*ing but like...

At neutral places everyone I was meeting was going to anyway. Like cons. Cons are great places to meet people, so long as you don't do risky things like share rooms or the like.

@Auspice said in Potent Potables:

@DareDaemon said in Potent Potables:

and bourbon instead of anything worth drinking.

Look, you're allowed to be wrong.

@Ghost said in Potent Potables:

Because I was dared.

And because we also need a place to talk about and share intel on quality booze like Pepsi and bourbon.

Well, if you're going to waste soda and booze on some unholy mixture; good on you for going with Pepsi and bourbon instead of anything worth drinking.

Ehn. Part of being friends is also knowing and respecting lines. Stuff doesn't stop being creepy just because you're now friends. For example, the fellatio alarm clock thing is creepy unless you know the person you're saying it to is on board with that kind of joke.

Now if you're good friends you do likely have a better instinctual sense of other people's lines. And people frequently have different lines when it comes to people they trust and know when compared to the ones they have for people they only slightly know; but that doesn't mean it magically becomes OK to go full-on dudebro once you're friends.

@faraday said in Punishments in MU*:

@Ganymede said in Punishments in MU*:

Faraday is from Venus; Thenomain is from Columbus.

C’mon, I made ARES. At least give me Mars.

No.

@Tinuviel said in Punishments in MU*:

@DareDaemon said in Punishments in MU*:

don't hand out exceptions for any PC

Why not?

To be clear. I'm not saying your rules have to be equal opportunity, if you reserve some stats for specific things that a lot of players won't qualify for? Might be thematically appropriate, I don't know your game, you decide.

But your rules should be consistently enforced, and unless you have a very good reason not to; transparent.

Once you start breaking rules like that, it will undermine player trust in the systems you have in place.

@Derp said in Punishments in MU*:

Sure, Status is one thing. But then we talk about things like Renown. There is no way I'm letting your slobbering spirit-eating locus-destroying werewolf have Wisdom 5 just because you have the xp for it. Sorry, no. Also fuck you.

So long as the policy for getting a stat such as that is applied consistently and transparently. Cool.

That's the important thing with hoops and stats, consistency and transparency. Tell people what the hoops are and don't hand out exceptions for any PC. (NPCs, of course, can have whichever stats their role demands. So long as the NPCs are actually NPCs and not just staff alts with an excuse.)

(Also people who hold positions of power should have them for thematic reasons, and in general that isn't 'because they have better stats than you' unless the theme is explicitly one where the strongest leads or something like that. Even then, stats should never be replacing RP, only supplement it.)

So here's the three important things about staffing.

1. Clear communications between headstaff and new staff as to what the job entails; whether that's admin work, player management, code, building, plotrunning, etc.
2. Clear communications to the playerbase as to what the job of a specific staffmember is. If you have Smithson the Coder, Bookend the Admin and Dramateuse the plotstaffer; the players should be able to quickly figure out whether or not that quick question they have about some plot related stuff will be something that Smithson can answer.
3. Don't pile jobs on staff that aren't about what they signed on to do without good reason and the communication about it. Sure, maybe Bookend the admin is a tax accountant and it's tax season and they don't have time to do admin work until that's over; and ,maybe that means you'll need to ask Dramateuse to help with admin for that time. But ask and explain, don't just dump it on them.

@Lemon-Fox said in Punishments in MU*:

@Arkandel said in Punishments in MU*:

Punishment isn't about control. No one controls everything; hell, most people (especially trouble players) barely control themselves.
To me it's a primarily a message: "This is what we will not tolerate. This is how much we're prepared to do to stop it."

That may be the message conveyed, but the goal of punishment is always correction, all the way up to permanent removal of that problem. It's always about control, but trying to control something isn't inherently a bad thing.

In fact. Staff trying to create a cohesive, welcoming community that creates a healthy RP environment for their game and pruning those who are consistently making that more difficult is pretty much one of the most important roles of staff.

That said, the goal of punishment isn't always correction. In the hands of a good staffer it is, but we all know that some staffers are shits who cannot be trusted where the goal of punishment frequently isn't correction, it's coercion. (Once you realize that such staffers are on your game, make a judgment call; either try to get that staffer removed or if you don't think that's plausible, bail. Don't play on games that let abusive staff run rampant.)

@Packrat said in Whatever Happened To Star Wars MU*s?:

@Tinuviel I do not remember any sexy shirtless werewolves in Star Wars.

Chewbacca.

Also in some cases a player is a perfectly good player in 90% of circumstances and can simply be made not to do the remaining 10% anymore.

Like that guy who was a great roleplayer but whenever he ran a PrP it was awful and created staff headaches.So eventually he got told in no uncertain terms that we appreciate him as a player but he wasn't allowed to run PrPs anymore.

That fixed the problem. Sure we had no code to back this restriction up, but we didn't need any.

In general proving that someone is not a minor is so burdensome that the law does not expect you to do anything but ask politely for someone's age. If they lie, that's up to them.

IIRC some jurisdictions have rules surrounding real money gambling that are stricter than that; but I've never heard of such for porn.

@Coin said in The ethics of IC romance, TS, etc:

@Tinuviel said in The ethics of IC romance, TS, etc:

@Coin There's a big difference between being upfront and painting it in neon colours on the door, though.

We play in a hobby where people routinely choose not to read news files and, for example, things like Gray Harbor's 'don't you dare spoil Game of Thrones' had to be put in bright red in the connect screen.

Many if not all of these games have the tools to monitor specific players built-in. They are valid staff tool and it's one of the most reliable ways to get conclusive proof about rule-breaking behavior.

The reason people put spoiler policies so big and red isn't to help the person who is thinking of spoiling something. It's to make it less likely people get spoiled.

The only person who get hurt when staff makes use of an explicit policy that they will use additional monitoring if they have good reason to; while that person wasn't aware such an explicit policy, is the person who didn't bother reading the rules. At which point, well you should've read the rules.

The fact that people more likely to break the rules are also the ones more likely not to read them (can't follow rules you don't know exist, after all) is unfortunate, but that's all it is, unfortunate.

@insomniac7809 And in general staff can also selectively spy when they suspect rulebreaking behavior may be occurring. And so long as that's done with proper care that's also fine.

@Tinuviel Ok, sorry for misunderstanding you.

@Sunny said in TS - Danger zone:

@DareDaemon

No, this is you twisting someone else's words to imply what you want to imply so you can sound like you're being oppressed.

Fuck off with your self-righteous spiel.

@Sunny No it's not. But this is not a difference of opinion. This is someone effectively telling me to suck it up in respects to sexual harassment.

@Tinuviel You have a really weird definition of constructive, then. Because I just saw you repeatedly argue that me wanting to have my boundaries respected was enabling sexual harassment. And doing this while knowing that I am a victim of that specific kind of sexual harassment.

That's not constructive. The reason I haven't gone into detail in response to you because there is no constructive response to such a statement.

@Tinuviel said in TS - Danger zone:

Well it looks like we have a fundamentally different view of our roles in the world, so I think we can leave it at that.

No, you don't get to argue that staff is wrong for being unwilling to deal with TS and then pretend you're not someone with massive disrespect for other people's boundaries.

@Tinuviel

@Tinuviel said in TS - Danger zone:

@DareDaemon said in TS - Danger zone:

@Tinuviel said in TS - Danger zone:

@DareDaemon said in TS - Danger zone:

@Tinuviel said in TS - Danger zone:

@DareDaemon said in TS - Danger zone:

And, presumably, the game doesn't explicitly prohibit TS. (I've encountered people who wouldn't let such a rule stop them.)

I absolutely don't let such a rule stop me.

If you don't like that a game prohibits TS, don't fucking play there. It's fucking gross to violate such a clear boundary.

Well, yeah. Did you not read the whole post?

You edited it while I was responding.

Yeah, well the page updates when posts are edited.
My overall point is still the same. Anti-TS policies are stupid and will always, always be violated. If I really, really want to do something (TS is not actually on that list, by the by, but it does illustrate my point) people are going to do it. And so long as it remains underground, people that engage in it and then have to deal with negative consequences from that don't have anyone to report it to.

TS is like prostitution in that way. Make whatever law you want about it, it's not going away only being driven underground. You can either be sensible, and treat your adult players as adults (naturally none of this applies if your game is catering to children) that want to and will do adult things, or you can be stupid about it and assume that because it's written down it's going to be obeyed and then make anyone that needs to report something too afraid of punishment from you to report it.

You don't have the right to tell staff that they have to adjudicate textfucking if people have some gripes about what happened during their textfucking. Insisting that as staff that's part of my job, is fucking disgusting.

Everyone has a right to opt out of anything to do with TS, and that includes staff. The only way for staff to opt out of that is to prohibit it.

If you want to take your characters textfucking, feel free to go to one of those places dedicated for textfucking.

@Tinuviel said in TS - Danger zone:

@DareDaemon said in TS - Danger zone:

@Tinuviel said in TS - Danger zone:

@DareDaemon said in TS - Danger zone:

And, presumably, the game doesn't explicitly prohibit TS. (I've encountered people who wouldn't let such a rule stop them.)

I absolutely don't let such a rule stop me.

If you don't like that a game prohibits TS, don't fucking play there. It's fucking gross to violate such a clear boundary.

Well, yeah. Did you not read the whole post?

You edited it while I was responding.