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@betternow said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

I mean, Everyone ELSE involved with Buffy, Firefly, the Avengers, Angel, Dollhouse, Cabin in the Woods, etc, etc, don't deserve our disdain for his attachment to the projects. If anything they deserve MORE of our love for making something great in SPITE of having to deal with him.

This.

For me, the issue is always knowledge. If I knew an artist was a raging misogynist, but still lumped love on him, then I am part of the problem. And if the artist took responsibility for what they did, I would have less of an issue with that lingering affection.

But if the artist remains a defiant asshole defending his inexcusable behavior, yeah, hard pass.

@Coin said in Punishments in MU*:

But here's the thing: that exception should either be lauded by the players or go completely unnoticed.

My dissent is premised on my belief that this is not an exception.

Your issue is important, but it is not dichotomous. In my opinion, the choice should be noticeable. If a player asks: "why did staff pick <X> to play <important PC>?", the answer should and must be "because staff trusts <X> to play that character due to his/her/its history." Anything else is a sham.

There's nothing wrong with picking a particular person to play a perspicacious pugilist to perfection. I only have an issue when someone tries to pass the choice off as being part of some impartial selection process.

@wizz said in RL Anger:

Three of my son's school friends today told him they will no longer be his friend because he doesn't believe in God, and when he went to his teacher for help and explained the situation, she refused to intervene and said that it's their choice and that it's okay.

Frankly, I wouldn't intervene either.

I would just tell your son that his friends are assholes.

@RightMeow said in MU Things I Love:

So I had a horrible day yesterday. I'm not going into it because no one cares (I'm totally okay with that btw). However, I pulled myself out for RP. I camped down and the people made me laugh so much. It made my day better. They didn't even know I was having a bad one.

I usually have nothing but hate for people who idle in the OOC Lounge waiting for RP to come to them.

But I have come to realize in my old age that many folks are idling there and not waiting for RP to come for the reasons you mention above.

Some people are just damn funny over channels, and laughing at them can be therapeutic.

@wizz

I am from the school of people who believe kids are assholes, but we give them a pass because they are kids.

If a bunch of adults pulled the same shit on me, I’d call them assholes, even if they were parroting the shit their parents believed.

I warn my kids all the time: if I find they are excluding another kid for liking a different TV show or wearing different clothes, there will be severe, life-altering consequences.

One time they asked me why and I told them, simply, that excluding another kid based on what they believe or have is just as life-altering.

@Roux

If you just used the handle “sibermaus” ...

... welcome!

@derp said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

Because you're now seeing what everyone else on Facebook sees regardless of your political affiliation.

I don't see right or left articles or stuff, but I have elected not to repost a lot of political stuff like I used to. Instead, it's mostly kitty videos.

Unsurprisingly, I have a lot of recommended cat videos only.

So, maybe avoid politics on Facebook?

@Auspice said in MU Things I Love:

even if her character is the literal worst

He's only a villain because he's grading your paper.

@betternow

I concur.

It is yet another example of the unfairness of life, a lesson that I still can't describe to my kids even after 15 years of legal practice.

@Tinuviel said in How to Approach (nor not) a Suspected Creep:

This, I believe, is where you went wrong. The person you were paging had already taken action against the harasser, so it was quite evident that they were not okay but were also quite capable of handling things themselves.

How was GreenFlashlight to know this prior to paging that player?

Partner: I was thinking of cooking tonight. You deserve a break.

I do love to cook, but I also cook because I like to eat and I learned very early on in our relationship that, as smart and wonderful as she is, she'd make Anne Burrell cry.

How do I gently tell her that I'd rather cook for myself without making it obvious that I fear for my life?

@GreenFlashlight

We do have CPS. If you suspect abuse, report it.

This ain’t CPS.

@sunny said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

There's a first time for everything.

A public orgy it is, then.

It doesn't sound like there's a way to avoid making a choice between eating the bad food and hurting her feelings.

She knows how I feel about her cooking.

If it helps, I always ate the bad food, and it never killed me.

There's a first time for everything.

(Note: I know there is no good solution, but I'm mostly grousing and laughing at this point.)

@deathbird

“Children.”

Ha.

@too-old-for-this

@Pandora said in Personal Agency for Personal Boundaries:

Of course it bears keeping in mind that oftentimes it'll be someone in no position to be making threats that's hitting the abort mission button.

Granted.

If I recall, the command also triggered a message on a channel for staff indicating when the command was used. And I think the command also stated that such a notice was sent to staff. There was also a command that would initiate a timestop and notify staff. If you wanted to continue, you had to go into the timestop and wait for staff. The combination of the two was an effective deterrent, I think, for people that wanted to prey on anyone ICly.

I mean, it's been a long time since that game. We're in a culture that shies away from PK as a method of resolving IC conflict, which is fine. And I may have been sheltered from a lot of the predatory behavior because I have the online presence of being smashed in the dick with a hammer.

I'm just tossing out another suggestion based on observations.

@too-old-for-this said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

A lot of women have a poor understanding of how the female body works. Bible Belt sucks for having an extra level of 'your body is sinful and you should do everything you can to never acknowledge it', but it's bad everywhere.

Look, if I can't make a sex joke here, where can I make one?

@Arkandel said in What game system would you prefer for a big-tent nWoD project?:

XP is not the problem. It's a paper tiger. It's idleness that kills game after game. This cannot be fixed via systemic changes, it requires active recruitment of STs and promoting those plots aggressively.

I concur in part and dissent in part. A game should focus on how it will keep the players occupied, first and foremost, but your advancement system is important to its longevity and continued success.

Double-posting because of something Aria said months ago.

I read a post on Facebook complaining about how Turning Red was objectionable, but Luca, which has a young male protagonist that rebels against his parents, was not. The post insinuated the misogynistic spirit in a lot of the criticism leveled at Turning Red. That observation isn't off-point, but it really does not do either movie justice.

Turning Red is a movie about the trauma families inflict on one another, particularly among women. This runs contrary to the unconditional love Mei's friends apparently have for one another. But it is important to point out that, unlike many films, the antagonistic force isn't male or phallocentric; it is wholly "feminine."

Luca is a movie about parental alienation. Luca's parents alienate him by refusing to understand him; Giulia's parents alienate her because of their own alienation as divorcees; and Alberto's parents simply leave him. That trauma motivates their actions: Luca seeks freedom; Giulia seeks approval; and Alberto seeks parental love.

In Turning Red, parental love is seen as a destructive force. Even when Ming is a monstrous red panda, she's still the "parent": she criticizes the 4*Town crew, shouting guilt slogans, and being judgmental. But in Luca, it is something healing -- something all the children are really looking for. They are two different movies with different themes, and it would be nice if people recognize this.

If you haven't seen Luca -- it was also a straight-to-Disney-plus Pixar film -- you really should. It is beautifully understated and quiet, and brilliant in construction. Once you see that, go watch Ciao, Alberto and cry some more.

Pixar is really hitting hard with its films.

For a MUSH, I don’t really mind if the Aspiration system were pulled, but you really have to have Conditions for CoD to work properly.