@greenflashlight said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:
I'd rather blot the carpet than be constantly chasing cat hair tumbleweeds with a broom, but that's my personal preference.
I have two short hairs, so that doesn't seem to be an issue.
Otherwise, I have two kids who seek my approval and will do what I say, no matter how futile.
Furry tumbleweeds provide hours of amusement for me.
@Auspice said in What game system would you prefer for a big-tent nWoD project?:
If you have only 1-2 days a week you can RP and you know Bob over there, RPing daily, is hitting the XP cap every week and people are making it really obvious ('yeah you'll need like, 20 dice to be able to manage this PRP') that you NEED MORE XP......
Why the hell are you worried about Bob?
I used to be a huge advocate of flat advancement, but it was because I didn't want to fall behind XP-wise. No one likes to feel that way. But when I came to the conclusion that the disparity in XP is largely unimportant on most games, I stopped worrying about it.
XP did not help Wes get the Seneschal spot in Las Vegas. XP did not help Maddy take over a chunk of Portland's night scene. XP did not help Cai become Hierophant on RfK.
I did that.
@Coin said:
Did you also date a girl who ended up leaving you for another dude who ended up running a RuneQuest game and killing your character with a fucking Jack-o-Bear because he was still at odds with you even though he "won" (ugh, he actually said this to me) and just wanted to be a dick about it?
No. I didn't date girls back then.
P.S. I totally schooled him in Magic, though, so it's all right. #highschoolpriorities
I played Magic for about six months before I discovered Jyhad, later V:TES, which is infinitely superior.
@Jaded said:
I had a few guests over tonight and each time one showed up the dog would sit at the bottom of the stairs to his apartment and bark at the door. The dog would do this for about 10 minutes. Then each time one went outside onto the patio to smoke, the dog would come back. This guy had the nerve to ask me to not have people over after 8pm because he works 2am to 10am and he's trying to sleep at that time.
People ask me why I don't want to have a dog. This is why.
I like my cat because he leaves me the fuck alone most of the time.
@Admiral said:
Odds are she won't get in trouble, though. Like I said, it's my word against hers and she's a conservative-christian church lady. Hell she might lie and say I was the one threatening her and get me fired. We'll see how it goes.
That's the great part about smartphones and recording events with it surreptitiously. It may not be admissible evidence, but it's certainly good enough to get the EEOC snooping.
@eye8urcake said in Model Policies?:
I disagree with this statement in that I believe the only way you can really quantify the performance of staff is by whether/how policies are implemented.
While I cannot argue against your beliefs, I will again restate my opinion that all policies are inherently arbitrary and that the quality of staff's performance is more dependent on the quality of staff than the quantity or quality of the policies they devise or implement.
This is why I continue to believe in the value of this forum where, constructively or not, we are all open to being vilified as deserved.
@dontpanda said:
If my libertarian slant didn't preclude me from insisting children be vaccinated by rule of law... damn my conflicting principles.
If you take advantage of a government service, you should not be surprised if there are rules related thereto.
I see nothing wrong with the public education system requiring vaccinations, even from a libertarian perspective.
@Auspice said in Firefly - Still Flyin':
They can be logged and reported (just like people can in other programs like, say, reporting someone on Twitter for harassing DMs), but I should be able to login and feel comfortable that no one's gonna creep on what I'm doing 'just because.'
And what makes you think this is not already happening on the games you play on?
I have said it before: everything rests on a staff member’s reputation. No policy is sacrosanct; no expectation will never be broken. All you can do is trust your staff or not trust them.
That’s really all it comes down to.
And if that is so? There’s no need for a policy.
And before anyone thinks I will spy on them whimsically, I ain’t got time for that shit.
@Arkandel said:
I just don't know how to help. What kinds of things should I be looking for? What am I missing? When does this happen? How? What forms does it take?
How to help:
To figure out whether a behavior is right or wrong, don't ask yourself whether or not you would react similarly if subjected to the same. Instead, ask yourself: would I feel uncomfortable if someone that I found very unattractive would did the same to me?
It's a good start. Nothing is perfect. There will always be some amount of harassment. The best thing to do is to stop it, if you notice it.
@Seamus said in Image Attribution & Creative Commons:
I do understand that there is no real 'damage' but with their 'reputation' might qualify?
This would only be the case if the content of the page were to insinuate that Ms. Blunt was actually a rabid serial killer. That would be more akin to defamation, which is where the line of cases related to "unauthorized use of likeness" draws most of its inspiration from.
I selected her because she has a rather 'disney friendly' image in some of her movies.
Do you remember when she was washing blood off herself in Sicario?
Anyhow, what I mean is, yes, I understand why an artist might be concerned, but there's something to be said about free publicity.
A public figure, which these subjects may be considered, may sue for the value of the use of their image. Given how the image was found online at a public site, one may easily argue that the value is zero because it was obtained for free. If the image had some value, like a nude photo, then there may be some sort of price tag attached.
@Roz said:
Unwanted behavior is unwanted behavior and plenty of women have plenty of experiences receiving it from guys they would have found physically attractive otherwise.
This is what I would have said if I wasn't deliberately trying to bait you.
... I think Ganymede was trying to offer a sort of mental shortcut to help you better understand the feeling.
I used the word attractive to goad you into thinking that it was about appearance. I'm a jerk like that.
A woman can find someone attractive no matter what they look like, so the word attractive should not be limited to physical appearance alone. And if a woman is, in fact, attracted to someone, they may find the witless insinuations charming or cute. But the way to figure out if your witless insinuations will have the desired effect is to treat them like a normal human being, and get to know a little more about them by engaging in casual, respectful banter.
Coincidentally, the same may increase the likelihood that your witless insinuations will be seen as just that, and not a warning that they may end up tied up and gagged in a basement.
@mietze said:
Would you really stand up for the 13 year old especially? How would you spot her? As was said to me in "defense" when I ripped a man a new one who was making my daughter uncomfortable "how was I to know she's 12, mom? She's tall and has tits".
Perhaps we should not just stand up for 13 year olds especially, or young girls, or women. We should also stand up for the openly-gay cosplayer, and the bi-racial couple. Fuck, we should stand up for anyone regardless of size, age, sex, or whatever against people who think it's okay to all someone a fag, queer, nigger, spic, nip, or some other derogatory term.
"Boys will be boys" is a comment to motive, not a plea for leniency.
I concur with this. Be flexible. There are a million reasons why the team composition would change between episodes, so roll with it.
@Derp said:
And remember, the Civil Rights movement was settled in courts too, with notable cases like Brown II, so when people start talking about Social Justice, it's not unreasonable to think in terms of legalities and evidence.
The Civil Rights movement wasn't settled by Brown v. Board of Education. Not even close. It still isn't settled.
The issue of whether or not black Americans cannot be excluded from public education institutions was determined by that decision, but, as has been said, a decision is only as good as its efforts to comply with it. Which is to say that, in the wake of Brown, there were few efforts in the southern states to comply with the decision.
At a time when legislatures are passing laws calculated to permit gender identity and sexual orientation discrimination, it is really ignorant to say that the Civil Rights movement has been settled.
@Ghost said in The Game Game:
I think it's very polite to say that it isnt competition, but each game wants to be a player's MAIN game and the only way to secure that is to compete with other games.
I have literally never staffed or run a game where the main purpose was to become a player's main game.
I have rather staffed or run a game with the purpose of providing players with an enjoyable experience.
If my game is providing an experience so enjoyable that players are deserting other games, that's out of my control and was never my purpose.
I really wouldn't call that "competition."
@Derp said:
What I read here:
Men doing nothing and being permissive of these situations is what causes the problem.
Men doing something and being active against it, thus not permitting it, is not a solution to the problem.
So basically, that read:
Men are a constant problem. They're wrong, and there's nothing they can do about it, because by doing something or doing nothing, they're still wrong.
That's not an unfair assessment. Let me re-state what I think the activists are getting at:
Don't think for a second that there aren't women who think "oh, that girl deserved it" or "boys will be boys" or "oh, you, tee hee!"; they exist, and they also aren't helping anything. Also, don't think for a second that every accusation is 100% true; there are people who exaggerate, or who falsely accuse.
But the question is: what can I, a white man, do? And the answer is, as I've stated above.
@Ghost said in The Game Game:
Popularity is not the reason.
Your attempt to distinguish "closing due to overpopularity" from "closing due to a lack of staff support" is yet another matter of semantics and attempt to move goalposts.
@Thenomain said:
I'm not shaming anyone, here, but if someone offers to find understanding then telling them to GTFO is not the solution.
You're right. It seems absurd to tell a responding male police officer to not get involved with the rape case he was assigned to.
Still, I'm glad you recognize why some people's initial reactions may be to tell you to go away.
That said, telling people that you will go away at their request but that you will never stop trying to understand their injustice is a kind way of telling them that they need to re-think their position.
I understand your perspective. Sometimes, you have to check your language to see if you're conveying what you want to convey.
Most of the time, when someone says "you are part of the problem," they are likely trying to convey "your attitude/stance/action/inaction is part of the problem." Saying "you are part of the problem" is a shortcut, but it's a devilish one. Any of those sorts of false dichotomies -- "if you're not part of the solution, you're part of the problem" -- is the very sort of oppositional, shallow, narrow-minded thinking that fuels the Trump campaign, and, unfortunately, Sanders' campaign.
As has been said, if civil rights were simple or issues related to them were simple, then we would not have this discussion. They are not. And, to be fair, we are entering into an era of human history where humanity has become acutely aware of civil rights, and information has been at its most free. So, we have to tread carefully, lest we find ourselves in some rhetorical or legal trap that prevents us from rationally discussing civil rights policies.
Clan Jade Falcon? The Federated Suns? The Draconis Combine?
Please.
