Posts made by surreality

@Ganymede I forget where I saw it now, but there was a hilarious post a few years back re: 'my wife wanted to RP being a mermaid and sailor in bed' and it all spooled out to be something something not 'sailor ravishes mermaid' but 'mermaid deposits eggs in a nest and... ' that comes to mind here, and dammit, I wish I knew where I'd found it now, because it was just as funny as you probably imagine. (It was a joke post, not an actual kink, so this is not random kink-shaming. If (generic) you wanna lay eggs somewhere as your fetish, you do you.)

@Auspice I pretty much injured myself laughing when I saw the rock one. Pretty + Snarky + Mermaids = win.

@Macha Will be keeping my fingers crossed for you. Ideally they will have some kind of consideration here, since this is a health concern, and reasonable measures can be taken here.

I had issues with one of the schools I attended, in that they always had the elevators 'under construction' half the time and all the classrooms were on the 4th and 5th floors. They expected us to haul the HUGE amount of supplies (3x 24x36 art pads, a shit ton of paint and other supplies, etc., all heavy and bulky and awkward) up minimum 4 flights of stairs for a building with super high ceilings for each floor. With permanent spinal damage? Guess who missed classes half the time. There was just NO way.

@Auspice You need to see this. https://peacockandfig.com/product/mermaid-tales-stitchalong/ (Warning for general audience, not politically correct by miles, but oh gods I will order these some day because I laughed so hard and they're awesome to me. The struggle and rock ones are definitely the best.)

@Bad-at-Lurking said in Firefly - Still Flyin':

"Okay, in this sandbox sex scene, we're going to be Cthulhoid merfolk, working our way through the Cephalopod Sutra. But I'm going to narrate in the voice of Bob Ross. Annnd go!"

...I kinda want to see this now, because it sounds like it could be hilarious.

@Ominous My dad is verrrrrrrrrrrry much a classic diner-or-mom's cookin' sort of person. (And by 'mom', I mean my grandmother made him lunch still every day until about 6 months before she passed, when she became ill, not my mother, his wife!) He was in his 50s before he ever made himself a single lunch (a sandwich, he's since managed canned soup as well) for himself. It's less that he's a brat about it and more that his mom was my classic Italian granny that would look at me today and still tell me I'm too skeeeeeeeennnnnnnny (which I'm so not by miles). After she passed and mom was still working before she retired, he had no idea what to even do with himself, leading to a lot of flaily calls mid-day asking if I wanted to get lunch somewhere, but it's always a sub place, burger place, the diner, and similar. (Still happens when my mother's out of town sometimes.) He was a sportswriter before he retired, so his hours were usually 'work dinner -> late night', so he was alllllllways home for lunch.

He could probably find 100 things he liked on it -- because that's reeeeeally not hyperbole at all -- but they're all pricey and fancy and dammit it feels so FRENCH to him. (He did not come to actual France with my mother and I, either. Sucks to be him!) He wants to go to a diner and get huge servings of meal + the default big bowl of soup/big salad + two or more sides for the price of, say, that tiny plate of six mushrooms I got.

Yeah, I think documenting patterns of behavior is different than documenting 'we will observe during the hours of 3-6pm Tues-Fri if the wind is coming from the north'. That said, I do think an idea of what would trigger monitoring is a good idea.

Using the examples from before: 'We reserve the right to observe and monitor players in event of a complaint of stalking, harassment, or other serious infraction as determined by the staffcorps.' -- just to make clear it's not a 'well it's in policy and we just felt like it so you can't complain if we do it' sort of situation. There is definitely some middle ground here with means of allowing for unforeseen circumstances.

...so after surgery followup foo yesterday, since my mother had to take me (and we didn't have my eat-machine husband in tow), she insisted on going to The Cheesecake Factory. My father hates it, so she never gets to go, and I had been craving stuffed mushrooms anyway, so I figured I'd wince through it.

I managed to eat a whopping 3 stuffed mushrooms, but she insisted that I order a slice of cheesecake to bring home.

Ohgod. If you have a chance to try the chocolate cherry cheesecake, y'all... (We're calling this 'dinner' and it probably has a whole day's worth of calories in this slice, so... )

@Macha ...dammit, I am out of everything but the (also sticky) whipped cream kind. I will still so gladly take this excuse to get more.

@Rinel FWIW, I would send you all the glorious crazy wigs if I had managed to get to the 'making lace-front wigs' part of it all, if you wanted 'em. (I know the theory, but I've only made them for dolls, not people.)

I realize this is super OT, but... fukkit, I reserve the right to tangent.

As of yesterday it's confirmed I have to get a lot of breast tissue removed due to crazy hormone hell destroying internal tissues. I'm a boob person. They are huge, literally each the size of my head. They have been huge since I was 10-11, when they went from 'nada' to DD in a year, I'm a JJ/M now. They are officially part of my personality at this point, and long time forum members probably recall them as a running joke in ye olden WORA days.

I feel you on 'this has always been here and is part of how I look (mixed bag reactions notwithstanding) and it is going away/changing in a way I feel is negative and I feel ugly/not right with myself because of it'.

I don't know what I'm going to do yet, but it will be something I find gorgeous/funny/meaningful in a decorative way, and trying to turn it into an opportunity for that.

Just know that if I had some awesome wigs that weren't full of costumey yarn/crazy dreads/glitter, I would happily send you all of them if you thought that'd help along the same vein.

@Auspice There was a really good trick re: using a thing of cheap felt to rub over it to catch up the glue that made it easier to get it all off when you fingernail it off, but once that refused to come off entirely and I had a fuzzy container, so because of that ONCE I was just like: nope, never ever doing that again, which is overkill, but. BUT...

Minor but nagging peeve: sticky labels meant to come off that that don't entirely come off of things. Especially when the thing they're attached to is clear, and/or can't have goo-gone type chemicals used on it without a risk of screwing up the surface more.

<internal screaming>

The one issue I have with the suspect flag is that it's a double-edged sword.

On the plus side, you don't get other parties caught in the crossfire.

On the very non-trivial downside, you're going to see one half of a lot of conversations. You're not going to see if the reply to, say, a 'awwwwwyiss that PB is hawt I wanna TS!' sort of page is met with silence, a 'fuck off!', a change of subject (ex: 'I think they suit the look of this character and I've always liked the actor's work, but I didn't choose them because I want to TS with them with anyone ever'), or a 'fuck me now!'

This is often very relevant, and can be hazy as hell when you're only seeing one side of a conversation. Someone continuing to pursue under each of those circumstances has a very different interpretation, and it is not always going to be clear from just one side of the conversation.

Another might be, say, the innocent party saying, 'I have a scene with X but can meet you later' -- super common -- and an observed reply of 'I don't get along with them (notice lack of X being identified here), so I'll see you later.' Outside of context, this can look like a completely harmless exchange -- someone being live and let live re: someone they don't get on with and agreeing to meet up later as suggested -- or it could appear to be something more like 'I don't like that person so see ya later, I'm out'. The latter definitely has a very different vibe. (ETA: Also, with X not being identified, it could be interpreted as part of a bashing routine against someone who isn't even the person mentioned -- or, worse, missed as being precisely that for the same reason.)

So, while it's a handy tool, it is VERY important to be aware of this limitation. Those are just two examples, and I'm sure people could come up with plenty more. We already have a lot of communication issues in this hobby, so this is worrisome in a very real way.

I'm for them listing it; I think more games should if they'd ever consider this, no matter how extreme the circumstances that might trigger the need.

I can think of circumstances that would make me consider it, though ultimately I'd probably look into something more like using the SUSPECT flag or similar. (They're pretty extreme circumstances, namely: claims of RL threats being made, stalking (RL stalkers on the game, or online stalking), and stuff on this level.)

I'd still like to know what the circumstances would be that would bring this up, though.

@Rinel said in What do you eat?:

Yes, maybe if you were drinking water contaminated with feces.

In all fairness, this is not totally uncommon in many parts of the world even today.

If I'm being really honest here, one of the main ways I get food in me when depressed is that my husband notices (if he's home), or sends a text on his way home from work (he works out of state, and until recently that meant being gone a few nights a week) asking if I want him to pick something up on the way home.

If I have enough presence of mind to know I need to eat something -- or if the liver stones are getting rambunctious because I haven't eaten (this is spectacularly ow) -- I will send him a text with something like 'bring home a food'. It is rarely more detailed than that, and is usually just that or 'i need a food' or 'food plz' or 'wife requires fooding'/etc. (I forget where the shift key is at that point, because sending the text is enough effort. If there is no shift key, he automatically knows by now he needs to stick to comfort food or something mild and destined to be filling and put me right to sleep.)

I would also be lying if I didn't admit to 'emotional support vodka', even if I can't ever have much of it these days (again, liver stones I prefer to not agitate).

I've known two people in my life with a profound hatred• of cheese. I always chalked this up to a sense of self-loathing so deep that even in my most depressive states I can't comprehend it.

• Not allergy or lactose/other food intolerance problem, which I'd understand, obviously.

@moth said in Depression Meals:

emotional support cheese

I am stealing this phrase to shamelessly exploit when I get side-eye at the overkill on the cheese aisle at Trader Joe's, because this expression is a serious truth of my life.

@eye8urcake This is incredible news. I am so happy for all of you!

Not vegetarian, here. Have tried. Became brutally ill despite doing so under a qualified nutritionist's guidance.

Still avoid using animal products when there's a reasonable substitute, more evident in the work I do than what I eat: switched to dyework on cellulose fibers (rayon, tencel, cotton) almost exclusively, and appreciate that people appreciate that.

I live in an area where the organic versions of things/etc. are very much priced up outside of farmer's market season (typically 2-5x as expensive, sometimes even more). This is non-enjoyable. It's not as bad as a food desert, but for 2/3 of the year, it may as well be due to the cost factor.