Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.

surreality · Jan 23, 2020, 2:50 AM

People not liking jokes about real world pain or issues is not exactly uncommon. Maybe just don't, people.

If someone has a sense of humor about their actual real world suffering? They will open that door themselves.

Unless they do? Seriously, just don't.

Adding insult to injury' is a real thing; in a real world act like a fucking grownup thread, maybe don't be that person that piles more unwelcome stress on somebody this way. It isn't funny, and being an asshole to someone already hurting is seriously not cool; all it does is compound actual pain.

Macha · Jan 23, 2020, 3:27 AM

It's very true that joking about the pain etc when I'm venting about it after having it dismissed - it pisses me off.

But I thought the after my comment would make it obvious I was teasing about the clocking thing. I might make a mock swipe at someone in RL for being a jerky smartass, but hitting someone when I'm already in high pain? Not going to do anything but make pain WORSE.

Tinuviel · Jan 23, 2020, 3:29 AM

@Macha said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

But I thought the after my comment would make it obvious I was teasing about the clocking thing.

Felt more passive-aggressive, but that's my read on most emoticon/emojis in that context.

Next time I'll just talk to you about how great kale is and that you need to go outside more and not take 'chemicals' that you require to survive.

Ghost · Jan 23, 2020, 3:30 AM

@Macha Were we pals IRL and I made a joke like that, my arm would be prime real estate for a slug.

Sometimes I make jokes like that when one of my friends NEEDS to slug something, knowing going in I'm gonna get thwapped.

Makes the hug afterwards all the better.

Hang in there.

Macha · Jan 23, 2020, 3:32 AM

@Tinuviel You start kale and yoga talk, it may not be just me you piss off. (Yes, that's a joke, people)

Macha · Jan 23, 2020, 3:34 AM

@Ghost I appreciate the thought.

Tinuviel · Jan 23, 2020, 3:35 AM

@Macha Husbando and I both have various levels of chemical-imbalance brain-fuckery. One of the only ways we really cope, when we're both going through an episode, is to take the piss; so it's my default reaction.

My guilty secret is that I rather like kale when I cook it.

Macha · Jan 23, 2020, 3:36 AM

@Tinuviel I like it when I make 'chips' out of it. Parmesan garlic is pretty good.

surreality · Jan 23, 2020, 5:23 AM

@Ghost said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

@Macha Were we pals IRL and I made a joke like that, my arm would be prime real estate for a slug.
Sometimes I make jokes like that when one of my friends NEEDS to slug something, knowing going in I'm gonna get thwapped.

Pretty much this, yep. If it's somebody you know well and know they're cool with that sort of thing, obviously do whatever's cool with y'all.

Just... don't assume a stranger or someone you don't know really well is gonna be OK with that. I've been hurt by people doing this kind of thing and I have hurt others doing this kind of thing (so I am seriously not trying to be holier than thou here, I have screwed up this way with people as well) and my takeaway has been 'really unless you know for sure it's cool with somebody, please don't'.

Being able to keep a sense of humor about things that hurt is immensely helpful. (I know I'm in a very bad place if I can't crack a joke about whatever is happening to me, for instance -- it's one of my red flags to take something seriously and focus on resolving the thing.) It really is. It tends to kick in not right at the peak of misery, though, so, y'know.

(This message brought to you by 'shit that's gonna sound preachy even though I don't intend it to', and 'the good intentions paving company'.)

Tinuviel · Jan 23, 2020, 5:26 AM

@Macha For some reason, I cannot stand leaf vegetables crispy, and I think that people who add 'texture' to salads need to have paving poured down their noses.

Auspice · Jan 23, 2020, 6:11 AM

I like spinach and kale.
Both raw and cooked.

Come at me, bro.

Macha · Jan 23, 2020, 6:22 AM

@Tinuviel The only texture I want in my salad is croutons.

Auspice · Jan 23, 2020, 7:09 AM

@Macha said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

@Tinuviel The only texture I want in my salad is croutons.

I love/hate croutons. They're tasty.
But they crumble when I try to spear them with my fork.
Fuckin' bastards.

RightMeow · Jan 23, 2020, 5:46 PM

I use to love kale in all forms. Until I started juicing. Forgot my kale juice a might longer than I should have. Decided to drink it anyways. Now the smell of cooked kale and I gag.

Ghost · Jan 23, 2020, 5:49 PM

@RightMeow Oh God like those protein/meal replacement drinks.

Absolutely drink within 32 seconds of making them and slug that shit down ASAP or else.

Sunny · Jan 23, 2020, 6:04 PM

I was on an ensure diet for a few weeks once. Wasn't allowed solid food. It was the most miserable thing EVER.

Ghost · Jan 23, 2020, 6:55 PM

What. The. Fuck.

Court will NOT throw out criminal charges against woman seen topless in her own home...next to her topless husband who has not been charged.

Unfuckingbelievable.

Auspice · Jan 23, 2020, 7:01 PM

@Ghost said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

What. The. Fuck.

Court will NOT throw out criminal charges against woman seen topless in her own home...next to her topless husband who has not been charged.

Unfuckingbelievable.

There's been a few of these cases lately and it's been really disappointing. $:\$

The worst part of this one is the fact that it sounds like it's being done purposefully by the mother (the woman being charged is the stepmom of the kids) to try to win full custody. I hate hearing shit like that. Women who are trying to cut fathers / stepmothers out of childrens' lives, because its the kids who get hurt in the long run by that stuff (and not because they saw a pair of tits out of context).

Ghost · Jan 23, 2020, 7:04 PM

@Auspice Yea it very much looks like the ex-wife attacking her husband's new squeeze. This looks like some serpentine revenge bullshit.

Groth · Jan 23, 2020, 7:34 PM

There American lewdness laws are so absurdly specific. This is the Swedish law against public exposure:

10 § Den som, i annat fall än som avses förut i detta kapitel, sexuellt berör ett barn under femton år eller förmår barnet att företa eller medverka i någon handling med sexuell innebörd, döms för sexuellt ofredande till böter eller fängelse i högst två år.

[S2]Detsamma gäller den som blottar sig för någon annan på ett sätt som är ägnat att väcka obehag eller annars genom ord eller handlande ofredar en person på ett sätt som är ägnat att kränka personens sexuella integritet.

In English:

A person who, in cases other than those previously referred to in this Chapter, sexually touches a child under fifteen years of age or induces the child to undertake or participate in an act with sexual implications, is guilty of sexual molestation and is sentenced to a fine or imprisonment for at most two years.

This also applies to a person who exposes themselves to another person in a manner that is liable to cause discomfort, or who otherwise molests a person by word or deed in a way that is liable to violate that person’s sexual integrity. Act 2005:90

Notice how it manages to not talk about nipples or areolas?