Jan 16, 2015, 7:10 PM

Maybe the difference is "really wanting to participate" (which I now read as "happy to be entertained and to be involved") vs. "wanting/capable to put in the work to keep things dynamic and active." They're two very different things. I think most people really want to participate. The number of people willing to put in the real work involved are very few.

These days I'm always happy to participate but leery of joining up with a group where there is not at least 1 other person who's willing to put in the work OOCly.