Dating in the 2020's
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OKC is pile of jokes in the city I live in. It's mostly PoF, Tinder, and Bumble around here, even though of these three Bumble seems to be the worst of the three. The theory behind that is because Bumble only allows women to make first contact, it seems to be some kind of gilded invitation to show me your dick because I said: hi.
I have no problem talking to people in bars, personally but the bars I tend to gravitate towards are the kind where everyone is hunched over their drink with a look that threatens death if you talk to them. I travel a lot for work so I got over eating by myself at restaurants and it's actually kind of nice to be able to zone out and scroll through your phone while you stuff your face. For the record, I prefer going to the movies by myself, too.
The last few people I've dated - I met through volunteering at the USO Reception Room at the airport or hobbies. Honestly, the USO Reception room has been kind of fun in terms of unearthing the military people who are relatively well adjusted, into cool shit, and not xenophobic MAGA weirdos.
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@Ominous said in Dating in the 2020's:
As for dining out alone, I do it all the time. I usually sit at the bar, since it's quicker service and it's not too weird to strike up a conversation with others at the bar, unlike talking to the table across from you.
Apparently I've been RPing social interactions wrong my whole life. Shit.
Is this why I'm single?
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@Kestrel Nah, might be a regional thing! I have people strike up conversations with me everywhere, in the grocery line, at restaurants, in the ladies' room, on the bus, at the naked spa, on the metro train...it doesn't bother me, but like...where I grew up people do that ALL the time, or did (military bases and country-ass Florida and West Virginia)
Where I live now, people will probably either run away, ignore you, or like shoot you (depending on what side of the mountains you're on) if you try to strike up a conversation with a stranger, it seems like. Hell, I have even had parents pull their kids away from mine on the playground while telling them loudly in front of me "we don't play with people we don't know." But I must have a "talk to me" invisible stamp on my forehead because people who ARE NOT from around here (or they also are of country-ass stock and can sense it in others or something) will totally strike up a conversation with me out of the blue. I would do it more proactively (I'm a people person) but I don't really want to scare people or get shot, so.
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People don't talk to me. Largely this suits me just fine because the people that do talk to me are of the weird sort. And not the nerd geek our crowd weird
I mean like my neighbor who stood outside my car door until I got out so he could ramble at me at length about hooligans and the atmosphere lowering at night forcing pollution into his apartment to make him sick.
It's never a hot guy or girl wandering over to my table in the Cafe to ask what I'm reading (even if I've set the book down as I eat). The movies lied to me.
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I'm single.
I have 3 packs of McDonald's Szechuan sauce.
And this baby:
DMs are open.
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@HelloProject said in Dating in the 2020's:
I have 3 packs of McDonald's Szechuan sauce.
jealousy intensifies
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I should go and read while I eat. That never occurred to me. However, which of the three books that I'm currently reading seems the less scary?
How to Unfuck your life
Healing the Child Within
The 4 Disciplines of Execution (which is a business book not a murder book)
Or like one of my random fiction books on my bookcase that just sit there sad because I'm reading these sorts of books.I feel like maybe no to the book thing now.
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@RightMeow said in Dating in the 2020's:
The 4 Disciplines of Execution (which is a business book not a murder book)
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I know. I know. Me too.
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@RightMeow said in Dating in the 2020's:
I should go and read while I eat. That never occurred to me. However, which of the three books that I'm currently reading seems the less scary?
How to Unfuck your life
Healing the Child Within
The 4 Disciplines of Execution (which is a business book not a murder book)
Or like one of my random fiction books on my bookcase that just sit there sad because I'm reading these sorts of books.I feel like maybe no to the book thing now.
All of these sound awful. I recommend Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind, or Art of War for a bit of light reading. Both of these will look good on your dating résumé. Avoid Dan Brown or Harry Potter.
I also want to take this opportunity to thank @Jealousy for understanding the joke, presumably. Being British on the internet is hard, hard work.
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@Kestrel
I don't get the joke, but I have already read the Art of War and I would probably read the Sapiens one. I might have a problem with reading all the books. I could do the Court of Rose and Thorns, or something along those lines? Maybe. I have a lot of books. Like a lot of books. -
I think she's pretending that only British people do sarcasm or dry humor.
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@Auspice said in Dating in the 2020's:
Also the sex. I miss sex.
Sex is over-rated. Settle for someone who can cook.
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@Darren Look, I can always get take-out for dinner. So.
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Have you considered...https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CzpVmyzbYLg
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Wait are you getting in on our group thing? I don't know if we are ready for 'labels' yet. Laundry (minus putting away), Dishes, Outside work, and some other things are already taken care of.
I'm down for you to join. We should just make a sign up list. It might look like a chore list, but love is work.
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You can do that for sex too, you know.
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@Herja said in Dating in the 2020's:
@Darren Look, I can always get take-out for dinner. So.
This.
Also, I can cook.Look, 'someone who can cook' was once top of my list and I ended up with an abusive husband. It's less important now.
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@Herja said in Dating in the 2020's:
@Darren Look, I can always get take-out for dinner. So.
I don't know how I feel about this given you salivate over everything I cook.
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@SinCerely said in Dating in the 2020's:
@Herja said in Dating in the 2020's:
@Darren Look, I can always get take-out for dinner. So.
I don't know how I feel about this given you salivate over everything I cook.
I imagine she just thought ‘I have @SinCerely so I don’t need to-‘ wasn’t appropriately helpful commentary, since she is being stingy and not cloning you so we can all have one.
