The ADD/ADHD Thread (cont'd from Peeves)
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But seriously yes on all.
I put sticky notes at eye level sometimes to remind me of shit. Do this. This thing is in this place. Don't forget the.
And I always thought it just made me an anxious needy bitch that I felt like people didn't care about me when I hadn't heard from them not that hey there are things out of whack in my brain that do this to me.
(Also that other people feel the same about this stuff makes me feel less like a crazy person??)
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Yes as well. "Out of sight, out of mind" is definitely a big issue for me. I never knew it could be related to ADD. I can't rely on calendar apps. I need one on the wall of my kitchen, at eye level, in a place I pass multiple times a day. And I also need sticky notes plastered over everything.
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@faraday We need to invent glowing flashing dry erase that speaks to get your attention.
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I live by phone notices. I have alarms for everything and calendar notices that ding me 1 day out, 12 hours out, 3 hours out... >.>
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I have, over the years and many fuck ups on my part, trained myself to stop and ask myself "What do I need to do?" and run through my mental to-do list, which I have gotten pretty good at keeping accurate.
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@Wretched said in The ADD/ADHD Thread (cont'd from Peeves):
@faraday We need to invent glowing flashing dry erase that speaks to get your attention.
Somebody get right on that.
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Hey, I'm eating something other than lunchables or delivery! ...I'm eating spaghettios.
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@Rinel said in The ADD/ADHD Thread (cont'd from Peeves):
Hold on.
So like, wandering to the refrigerator and staring at all the things you could make but not having the energy to do any cooking so you eat a spoonful of peanut butter and hope that's enough protein for the night...
...that's a thing? It's not just being so lazy you starve yourself?
No, no. That's a thing. Welcome to the club.
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@Rinel said in The ADD/ADHD Thread (cont'd from Peeves):
Can someone explain hyperfocus to me because I'm not sure I have this, unless it happens super rarely. Like, I read Gideon the Ninth in a single night instead of sleeping because it was one of the best books I'd read in a long time, but that is the sort of thing that happens, like, every few years. I can't think of anything I do where I don't notice the time passing, outside of stuff like games that are literally designed to put you into that state of flow (or, again, books that grab me every few years).
I got'chu, pimp.
Hyperfocus is Flow, which is also Mushin. We engage constantly, and we pop in and out of it. We do it so often that sometimes? We don't even recognize it's happening and so a whole day can disappear, two days, more. People think we are psychotic.
Meanwhile: Neurotypical peeps do it so rarely they FEEL Flow, and usually it is like unbuckling the belt in a roller coast because your brain is like: lolol, welcome to the party I'm driving. That is rare for them. For us? That's everyday.
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@Wretched said in The ADD/ADHD Thread (cont'd from Peeves):
Is this that thing where I end up staring off into the distance and I know I am but I like literally cannot move my head and it's like welp guess this is what I'm doing for the next ## minutes
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Yep. For me I do it high on rooftops, staring out over everything and I recognize I am doing it, mentally shrug and say, "Eh. This is nice I guess."
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Oh look. Another lunchable. ...at least I ate something?
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Do any of you ever find that you can't focus on a big picture because you're hyperfocused on one part of it? Like, if there are two people on a screen I'm looking at, I focus on one of them. If I'm trying to hold eye contact, I have to focus on one eye. Stuff like that. Does it sound familiar to any of you?
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@GreenFlashlight said in The ADD/ADHD Thread (cont'd from Peeves):
Do any of you ever find that you can't focus on a big picture because you're hyperfocused on one part of it? Like, if there are two people on a screen I'm looking at, I focus on one of them. If I'm trying to hold eye contact, I have to focus on one eye. Stuff like that. Does it sound familiar to any of you?
I'm not sure it is possible to look at both eyes but I wonder if it is and then I stress out about it so I look at peoples noses instead
In interviews I tend to look at a point over their shoulder but I had someone tell me this is probably why I don't get hired because of the lack of eye contact but which fucking eye do you look at?!
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After forgetting four separate times to bring up a new pack of toilet paper from the basement, I put the empty toilet paper pack wrapper in the hallway so I would literally trip over it to remind me. Then one of my kids was like: "Why is this in the hallway?" and moved it. :facepalm:
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@faraday SABOTAGE! I know where my shit is stop moving it... damned cats.
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@Auspice The left one.
No but pick an eye and look at it.
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