@saosmash said in Something Completely Different:
I think you need to look into the definition of your terms. For example, dictionary citations:
Bully (verb form): "seek to harm, intimidate, or coerce (someone perceived as vulnerable)."
You can't bully someone who is in authority over you.
I'm glad you brought this up, because it has slightly changed my stance on the matter by reminding me of a principle I am trying to live by despite it not coming naturally to me: that understanding isn't achieved by relying on dictionary definitions, but rather by trying to empathize with what motivates the other person to say something at all.
Is it possible to bully someone who has absolute, incontestable authority over you? I don't think it is.
Is it possible for someone who has absolute, incontestable authority over you to feel bullied by you because what you have said or done hurts them regardless of their absolute, incontestable authority over you? Yes. And in that case, I don't think quibbling over definitions is more helpful than addressing the feeling of hurt that exist on both sides.
But that's the whole problem here, isn't it? I've no idea how any of our overlords are currently feeling because they won't talk about it, so any emotion I assign to them is pure projection. Likewise, I can't talk to them about my feelings because I can't trust that if I do, it won't be declared a violation of the spirit of the law rather than the letter of it. I am more than half convinced that this is my final post on this forum because it will provoke the mods to feel defensive, which they will decide means my intent is to attack and is therefore a bannable offense. Is that assumption empathy on my part or projection? Hell if I know.
I don't know. I thought I had a point when I started writing this post, maybe something about how it would be really helpful if everyone could set aside their defensiveness to just talk to one another like people who actually want the best outcome, but like Prototart said, I'm not sure that matters any more. The most community participation in this site in the last week is people announcing they will no longer be participating in the community, and I can't even tell if pointing that out is a violation of the code of conduct because the code has been clarified until clarity is impossible.
So maybe this is the post I get banned for. If so, I'm not sure there's much left for me to mourn. I'll always be grateful to this site and this community for the support I found when I needed it most, and I'll regret everyone I hurt with my careless anger, but it doesn't seem like anyone I need to thank or apologize to is around to hear it anyway.
That's not a bad attempt to salvage a point from a pointless ramble, I guess. Yeah, I can be satisfied if it ends there.