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Kushiels Debut has been mentioned already, but I play there. Yes, it has lots of sex, which should be unsurprising considering the source material. If you like a sexually open theme, this is about as good as it gets without hitting Shang levels. Story can be slow, though, and depending on who you ask, closed off to people not in 'the group.' /However/ I haven't had any trouble making my own fun, using the tools I have to do my own stuff. The game is also crunchier than many L&L games, so if you want actual representation of how many troops you can field for an invasion rather than handwaving it completely, they cover that.
The other one I play is Arx, which is in alpha. It's being run by some former Firan peeps who also frequent these boards. It is definitely on the crunchy end, keeping track of troop numbers, organization stats, money, etc. It also looks like it will be story heavy too, with planned out 'tv seasons.' It has a well-done roster , but you are free to CG characters too.