May 24, 2017, 1:51 PM

@surreality said in A Constructive Thread About People We Might Not Like:

There have been times I have not been self-aware on this front, and while it was a hell of a long time ago now, I certainly wouldn't fault anyone for an instant for hating me hardcore if they only knew me from back then, or that was their only experience of knowing me/etc.

Yeah, I get you. And if it helps there have been times when a critical mass of disgruntlement and indignant butthurt had turned me into an (even bigger) pain to be around. Sometimes a break helps; and I assume by the fact I haven't heard again from people I know who were in assorted similar situations that sometimes those breaks are permanent, too.

But we've had this conversation before in private so you already know what my ultimate response is... you need to take care of yourself first, because no one else is. We all have our shit, our agendas, our perspectives - but none of us lives in your head or walks in your shoes.

In the context of this thread that means if there's someone we might not like we need to know how to deal with it, first and foremost. Staff won't necessarily do it, our friends won't necessarily be able to buffer us, and our emotional capacity might not be as inexhaustible as we'd like; we need to own this shit ourselves.