Also, it bears saying... I actually have it written down in a policy file (because I do have a policy file for everything, almost properly-used-literally) that people should feel free to bitch and gripe and complain and smack-talk the shit out of me, any place I run, etc. on the forum here, without fear of reprisal.
Reason being, if I am actually fucking up, I want somebody to call that shit out. If they don't feel comfortable bringing it up privately -- and if they think I'm fucking shit up out of malice or sheer stupidity it's reasonable to expect they won't be super inclined to bring it up with me privately -- this might be the only way I ever find out, and I'd rather find out than let the problem linger. Explanations can be offered or action can be taken as needed to rectify the problem at that point, but I feel it is seriously better to know so it can stand a snowball's chance in hell of actually getting resolved somehow.