@derp said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:
If a person is 100 lbs overweight and goes on a super restrictive calorie deficit while working out well above the normal level we cheer them on because they must be making healthy decisions.
That's not why I cheer them on. I cheer them on because they made a conscious decision to lose weight, for whatever reasons they see fit. Maybe they are tired of looking the way they do; maybe a doctor recommended shedding some weight; and so on.
If a teenage girl does that we call it a dangerous behavior and admonish them to stop. Because we recognize that this is a dangerous, disorderly behavior, but only for people whose form we already approve of as a society.
If it isn't clear, I don't consider this to per se to be dangerous either. If a teenage girl is recommended by a health professional to lose weight, and she attempts to do so, I'll cheer her on.
I don't hear you denying that obesity is the cause of many health problems; I hear you saying that just because you're overweight doesn't mean you're unhealthy, and I agree. Similarly, you're suggesting that dieting to "look good" while dipping dangerously underweight is a bad thing, and I concur that being underweight has its own host of issues. I don't think we disagree on much, but it sounds like we are because I think we're talking in circles.
What I think you're getting at is what faraday said:
We have an incredibly judgey society that looks down on people with addictions, mental health disorders, etc. "If you were just a stronger person you could beat your <eating disorder / depression / ADHD / heroin addiction>..." is a common attitude that's appalling, untrue, and harmful. Sadly it spreads into the medical community as well, which is even more shameful since they of all people ought to freaking know better.
This, I agree with. But, like faraday, I would add:
Changing ingrained behaviors will always be super hard. A modest success rate means we (as a society) have more work to do, but it doesn't mean we should just give up and accept things as they are.
Which comes down to this: if others make choices related to their health, e.g., losing weight, quitting smoking, etc., I'm going to cheer them on whether they succeed or fail because they are at least buying into the idea of not giving up on a goal. It's not easy to do any of this. You say that the science is not yet certain on how to do this permanently and I agree; hell, I'll even go out on a limb and say that the reason why it is tough to lose weight through dieting is because the body gets wise to what you are doing and actively rebels. This makes sense to me because bodybuilders have to switch up their routines constantly because the body starts to get wise to avoid the constant injury and healing process that is required to bodybuild. And the body and mind are motherfuckers, which is why addiction sucks.
But, yeah, I'm not giving up losing these last ten pounds I want to because I want to.