Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff

Tinuviel · Oct 15, 2018, 1:26 AM

I'm possibly in a minority here but I really prefer having "work clothes." Even without a dress code, I wear business casual clothes to work, and I exceptionally rarely wear them at any other time. It really helps build up a big strong wall between 'work' and 'personal' time that I'm otherwise terrible at maintaining.

Macha · Oct 15, 2018, 1:48 AM

I work in a call center style environment, with a supposedly business casual dress code. I rarely see anyone of consequence. The IT guy breezes in and out in slogan t-shirts, which I envy. But some of the women I work with, in my department (we all started the same time, and we're super small) show up in yoga pants, flip flops, slides, tank tops, etc. I don't wear that stuff to WALMART, let alone work, and I can't understand it. Jeans and t-shirts, I miss, but.. sweatpants and tank tops?

Auspice · Oct 15, 2018, 2:02 AM

I am somewhat on the spectrum and one of the things I flag hard on is fabric aversions. Some days, what I might have been totally a-OK with yesterday... I am not today. I have had days where I will get dressed... and have to run back to the bedroom fifteen minutes later to change.

I keep a change of clothes in my car. I have to pack extra clothes when I travel (which annoys the hell out of me because I like to travel light).

I can handle business casual. I'd really suffer if I had to work a job where it was business/pro. I'm glad my current job lets me roll in in yoga pants and tank tops. We do have to dress up if clients are coming into the office tho.

KDraygo · Oct 15, 2018, 11:58 PM

@aria Yeah, I fall into that latter department when it comes to dress code at the company. I always wear button up shirts and slacks, sometimes a suit jacket if an important meeting is scheduled. The only difference between business casual in the summer and regular dress in the winter is whether we have to wear a tie or not. Though over the years, I've preferred this requirement.

Sunny · Oct 16, 2018, 3:21 AM

I started out trying to wear slacks and fancy shirts at this job, because it's what I had worn in the job before and government job and blah blah.

The first time I crawled back out from under a desk and had a gray stripe down my leg for the rest of the day, I conceded that jeans would do. It's actually vaguely irritating, in that I have a lot more business casual clothing that fits my current (smaller) size than I do lazy clothes. All of my lazy clothes want to fall off.

Ganymede · Oct 16, 2018, 3:21 AM

@sunny said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

All of my lazy clothes want to fall off.

Sunny · Oct 16, 2018, 3:32 AM

@ganymede

omg that is not what I meant. NOT WHAT I MEANT.

surreality · Oct 16, 2018, 3:33 AM

@sunny It is still a pretty awesome thing -- even if it's a pain in the butt re: finding comfy stuff handy.

Ganymede · Oct 16, 2018, 4:39 AM

@surreality said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

It is still a pretty awesome thing -- even if it's a pain in the butt … .

Pain in the butt, you say?

Macha · Oct 18, 2018, 12:36 AM

So, Monday the doctor finally got me off the high sugars train... by crashing me in their office. Hard. So Tuesday, I got to go back to work - and at lunch, got a text from my sister that my dad is in the ICU at one of the local hospitals, and in a bad way. I went and sat with him, though he's sedated and on a breathing tube, and has no idea I was there. - But now my sugars are back sky high from the stress, and the high sugar headache is back. I can't win for trying, and all I want to do is crawl off and cry. I can't wait until they take him off sedation, so I can snark at him and feel like things are okay.

Macha · Oct 26, 2018, 1:41 AM

And now, Dad is no longer in the ICU, which is nice. I don't know how much better he is. Then on the tail of good news.. "Oh hey, you have four needed markers for lupus. but you also have symptons of ankylosing spondylitis. So you need MORE tests, because they don't present together often. headdesk

Auspice · Oct 30, 2018, 8:36 PM

Anyone know if you can quit a job in TX and still collect employment?

I'm on the verge of tears and fucking miserable today. I mean I have been for a long time but I think I'm hitting my breaking point. I want to just hand in my notice and walk out the door. I'm afraid if I go too much further I'll risk fucking up and ending up fired.

7.5 years. No disciplinary action. Regular praise for my performance. Supervisory experience.

But they hire some guy from the outside and promote him to be the manager for our team after just a few weeks.

mietze · Oct 30, 2018, 10:02 PM

https://twc.texas.gov/jobseekers/eligibility-benefit-amounts

So maybe, maybe not, depending on the case you make.

The only people I personally know who have had no issue at all with being granted benefits are military spouses, in that state. Though in most states they'll do their best to deny you.

Auspice · Oct 30, 2018, 10:21 PM

I'm just miserable.

I've made it clear I'm unhappy about the lack of any defined promotion path. I had a discussion about this and the sexist behavior of one of my managers with the client manager and HR.

HR gave the "are you sure he was being sexist?" spiel. I've only once before reported such. And that as the dude who pulled a "if I had my way,I'd force all women here to wear skirts" at Verizon.

And then today when these promotions were announced, I made it clear I had concerns. But that I wasn't comfortable discussing them in front of everyone.

So who did the client manager tell me I have to discuss them with?

The guy they promoted over me and the guy I filed the complaint on.

Kanye Qwest · Oct 30, 2018, 10:32 PM

@auspice well, that's TERRIBLE

Pyrephox · Oct 30, 2018, 10:49 PM

@auspice That's awful. I'm so sorry.

Ganymede · Oct 30, 2018, 11:11 PM

@auspice

You could look into a sex discrimination case or an ADA case.

Auspice · Oct 31, 2018, 1:04 AM

@ganymede said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

@auspice

You could look into a sex discrimination case or an ADA case.

I honestly wonder if that is the reason for them hiring this new guy.

I am fully qualified for the role. I have been with this company for years. I have supervisory experience for a technical team! Which is the reason they gave for hiring him. "Oh he has supervisor experience of a technical team."
So do I. It's on the resume you all have.

Like. I have tenure in the company. Experience. The client likes me.

I feel like this is either gender related or one of those bs situations of "we need you where you are because you get a lot of work done"

Which I hate even more because it means bad hours and low pay. All for just.....doing a good job.

Livia · Oct 31, 2018, 12:41 AM

@auspice The old being so valuable they can't move you to somewhere else

Tinuviel · Oct 31, 2018, 1:04 AM

@auspice Low pay, client satisfaction, and you do a great deal of work?
Yeah, that certainly sounds like the company is simply keeping you where it gains the most. I'm not entirely sure it's a sex discrimination so much as it is capitalists being shitty (tm), but it's definitely worth looking into.