Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.

@Sparks said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

Finding a comfortable, durable bra is like finding a unicorn.

Sadly, I have not caught any unicorns recently.

Curvy Kate's Daily Dream bra is the winner for me. I'm waiting for some spare money and a sale to buy a new one, in fact.

I actually have one of those; it's the most comfortable of my current bras. Maybe it's just time to replace it, though.

Aria

@Sparks said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

Finding a comfortable, durable bra is like finding a unicorn.

Sadly, I have not caught any unicorns recently.

Ladies, ladies.

Herroom.com is the secret. Thousands -- yes, thousands -- of bras that you can sort by size, style, feature, brand, color, general taste (sporty versus sexy, etc). Also, they have a discount off your first order. Also, they sell discontinued colors from normally very pricey brands, which is how I have a drawer full of Wacoal, Natori, and Chantel bras at prices you normally see at Kohl's. And again, since I have boobs the size of an adult human head, that means I'm buying bras that normally range from $60-$100 for $30-$50.

Granted, my bra and my panties never come as a fancy matching set as a result, but I maintain that women who manage that without at least a week of carefully planned laundry are probably witches with some kind of hell-power, anyway. Like women who can do winged liner in one try. Or look cute in cap sleeves. It's not natural.

(To note: They do SELL the matching panties on the site, but fuck you if you think I'm shelling out $18 for a single pair of underpants. But I dunno. You may be willing to spend more on covering your butt. As the kids say, YMMV.)

ETA: I recommend using the "universal cup size" search filter if you're over a D-cup, since the States and Australia are the only countries that does this weird "D -- DD--DDD-G-H" nonsense. The UK does "D-DD-E-F-FF", which also makes no goddamn sense, and continental Europe does "D-E-F-G-H". Japan goes straight through the alphabet but skips the "AA" size, so it's like European sizes except they're all off by one. Just save yourself the nosebleed and use the automatic converter and it'll search their database all at once for the right size regardless of where the bra is made.

PS: Dudes reading this comment? Bullshit like the above is why your girlfriend is always angry about something. The more you know. <twinkling star arch>

Ghost

@Aria said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

PS: Dudes reading this comment? Bullshit like the above is why your girlfriend is always angry about something. The more you know. <twinkling star arch>

I thought it was because demons get in through that space in the ribs they got but we don't.

Learn summpin new ebryday.

surreality

@Aria said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

And again, since I have boobs the size of an adult human head, that means I'm buying bras that normally range from $60-$100 for $30-$50.

I am glad I am not the only person who has to use that descriptor to really get it to sink in. Also enormously empathetic.

In this context I present my RL peeve of the day, knowing that at least two other people on the forum will get it now: OMGWTF husband, stop putting things on the edges and corners of a table I have to walk past while carrying stuff.

Or at least stop asking me why it keeps getting knocked on the floor.

Worse than cats. So much worse.

jibberthehut

@Aria that site combined with i think the site is "a bra that fits" that has you do a bunch of measurements laying down, standing up, bent over, etc etc. They produce a pretty accurate sizing and can also via those number tell you if you have shallow boobs etc etc and what to look for.

Those two sites keep the ladies in style and comfort and not frumpy and matronly and all on budget! Especially for us larger bust gals.

Ghost

The more you all talk the more it's becoming apparent to me that my SO is the dude in this relationship.

I'm constantly putting away her electronics because she thinks they'll be fine on a countertop next to a half empty glass of water. She's lost about 20 novels and 2 expensive gadgets because the cats like to play FUCK THAT GLASS OF WATER when it's next to something meant to keep nice.

No, baby, it will NOT be okay for the night. No I'm not being anal retentive. I am protecting you from your folly.

Auspice

Sometimes, breakoutbras.com will do a 'grab bag' sale where you pay like, $20 and get a random bra (from their overstock) in your chosen size. If you aren't picky about brand, it's a good way to build up your bra collection. Heck, can be a cheap way to try out new brands.

They also have really really really good sales on swimsuits after the season. I got mine for $12 (tankini top, usually $80). Because homg buying swimsuits by bra size is so much easier.

Aria

@jibberthehut said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

@Aria that site combined with i think the site is "a bra that fits" that has you do a bunch of measurements laying down, standing up, bent over, etc etc. They produce a pretty accurate sizing and can also via those number tell you if you have shallow boobs etc etc and what to look for.

Those two sites keep the ladies in style and comfort and not frumpy and matronly and all on budget! Especially for us larger bust gals.

Yep! I did one of those tests and discovered that with my particular shape, buying the lined bras I was used to wearing was actually making my fit significantly worse than buying unlined ones with stretchy elastic along the top edge of the cup and double seams to avoid that weird pointy-Madonna-boob vibe that some unlined cups have. SO MUCH BETTER.

silverfox

I feel bad being a woman and having zero concept the conversation going on.

Ganymede

@Ghost said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

The more you all talk the more it's becoming apparent to me that my SO is the dude in this relationship.

Oh, honey, I could have told you that long ago.

Ghost

@Ganymede said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

@Ghost said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

The more you all talk the more it's becoming apparent to me that my SO is the dude in this relationship.

Oh, honey, I could have told you that long ago.

I have chosen to take this as a good thing

Ganymede

@Ghost said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

I have chosen to take this as a good thing

As you should.

Macha

bookmarks new bra sites My problem lies in finding anything NOT a sports bra that doesn't irritate my fucking ribs that will never effing be right again after surgery and shit.

Auspice

@Macha said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

bookmarks new bra sites My problem lies in finding anything NOT a sports bra that doesn't irritate my fucking ribs that will never effing be right again after surgery and shit.

https://www.breakoutbras.com/collections/sports/products/panache-underwire-sports-bra-5028?variant=8289647657063

This is my favorite sports bra. The last one I had (been waiting to find it at a price I can afford again :P) became my daily bra because it was the most comfortable bra I owned and the girls did not move at all during activity.

Thenomain

Every time I complain about wearing ties, I remind myself: I could need a bra instead. Then I stop complaining.

jibberthehut

@Macha Contemplate trying on a longline bra. Also, if it's a matter of the inner materials, find a bra you like that fits, and then take it to a seamstress with some soft baby flannel etc etc, and have them sew it to the inside of the fabric if it's a matter of texture.