Feb 4, 2020, 4:43 AM
Irk: having an otherwise good day diminished by a harassment campaign.
Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.
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@Macha That carriage house looks like it fell out of a storybook. (And it's probably bigger than my current house.) I think that's one of the coolest things about it, really! I am a sucker for Arts&Crafts/Craftsman/Prairie/Mission era architecture, and it hits a lot of those notes, which is funny since the house is so different, but it somehow still blends.
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Irk: having an otherwise good day diminished by a harassment campaign.
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This heat can go get fucked.
I'm moving to Antarctica.
My body is ready.
Wake me up when it's cold.
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Irk. Being tired, come into work and find 30 emails over the fact someone doesn't know how to do their job. So a client escalates an issue, that can be fixed by them clicking one button that says exactly what their issue is.
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Watching someone who knows they are guilty of level 7 offenses against their own "friends" (airquotes) gripe and bitch and seek consolation as a victim because someone committed a level 2 offense against them.
It gets so hard not whistleblowing and throwing the whole thing into chaos as a point of ethics. Because fuck what people who do this feel.
Delete the Hog Pit. It'll be fun.
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Watching someone take the word of a known liar and crow all over about how it makes them morally superior for doing so. It’s irritating now, but my god it will be satisfying to watch it explode later.
Oh no, of COURSE this time is different. They’d never lie to YOU. Those other people just (insert excuse of the week here).
ETA: Whups, wrong reply button.
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@Sunny Hah. Yup. I feel ya here.
I have to balance my desire for ethics/justice with that sweet little devil on the other shoulder who agrees with my ethics/justice but wants to see someone get their comeuppance.
Lifes little dilemmas
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Going to what I think is going to be a quick checkup and going through 2.5 hours of 'nobody expected this' bone grafts.
Oh fucking well.
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@surreality said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
Going to what I think is going to be a quick checkup and going through 2.5 hours of 'nobody expected this' bone grafts.
Dude, like, wut? That's not cool.
Hopefully your health is fine.
“It is better to live doing the things that you like. It is foolish to live within this dream of a world seeing unpleasantness and doing only things that you do not like.” -- Yamamoto Tsunetomo.
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@Ganymede They had to pull two of the implants last time, and hoped the bone would regenerate. It... didn't. Just filled in with gum tissue again, preventing the bone from growing. It wasn't totally unexpected the first time, since the extraction went VERY badly initially; it ripped out large pieces of bone along with the teeth.
So we figured this might be necessary... I just thought this was a 'check to see on next steps' and then schedule this if needs be, they just decided to do it then. Which is super cool of them to do -- it really is, since this is already a very long process, and this guy is fantastic -- but it was not something we were prepared for and now it's 'omfg ow ow ow' and not being to eat solid food at all for two weeks, which we kinnnnnnda try to shop for ahead of things when we know when it's comin'. The novocaine hasn't even worn off yet and the pain level is at a solid 'my eyes are tearing up' five.
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That part of me that gets mad when people are talking about their end of the world problems that seem petty and stupid to me in comparison to what is on my plate. It isn’t a competition. I win nothing by being the biggest failure/pain feeler. And yet it is so. Damn. Grating. to listen to. I am myself a huge proponent of ‘if the worst pain you have ever felt is a hangnail, that hangnail is TERRIBLE’ school of thought in my daily life, so my brain is just outright being an asshole.
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@surreality I feel you. I just went through a 2.5 hour root canal and novocaine doesn't actually work well on me. We had to stop three times so he could numb me up again. At one point he was literally bathing the inside of the tooth with it. The nerve blocker they had lasted 1/4 the amount of time it should have. And they had a hard time finding all three canals because and I quote "Your tooth anatomy is really weird. Really weird."
At one point another dental technician walked into the room, gasped, and said, "That is a sick tooth!"
I'm pretty sore right now, but could eat anything since I'm NOT AT ALL NUMB.
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NOT MEANT TO TALK POLITICS. JUST A QUICK THING.
Shadow Incorporated.
If I wasn't busy trying not to laugh I'd be face-palming. What a stupid fucking decision that name was.
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@Quinn I send every empathy hug in the world. I would share my pudding and chicken soup if I could. I had an extraction that went like that, once. X-rays didn't show that the prongs curved in a certain way because of the angle of the image. I swear, by the time they were done, I was convinced they were bringing in props from Dead Ringers to try 'em. (Ladies with teeth that hate us, unite!)
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@Sunny said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
That part of me that gets mad when people are talking about their end of the world problems that seem petty and stupid to me in comparison to what is on my plate. It isn’t a competition. I win nothing by being the biggest failure/pain feeler. And yet it is so. Damn. Grating. to listen to. I am myself a huge proponent of ‘if the worst pain you have ever felt is a hangnail, that hangnail is TERRIBLE’ school of thought in my daily life, so my brain is just outright being an asshole.
Iunno, my ability to gaf about someone's minor-seeming pain feels directly proportional to how empathetic they themselves seem to be towards others, or more specifically, me.
I had a rich friend with a great family life once who would use me constantly as a shoulder to loudly cry on about the unfairness of her parents buying her brother an iPad when she can't even get a new laptop, and then show off the brand new car they bought her. She would call me up late at night to cry about her relationship with her parents, and then have the audacity to say to me, regarding my bisexuality, that she 'could never do that to her family' because they've done so much for her. (Specifically bragging about the lucrative bank account they'd set up for her.) She'd complain about the shitty relationships I repeatedly told her to exit, claim she'd never go back again, then go back and need someone to cry to again. Good lord that is drama I do not miss. She never once thought to ask me what was going on in my life, and if she had, she would have learned that I was going through a lot worse on every front. Listening to her whine about her comparatively minuscule problems so selfishly was infuriating.
I have all the time in the world for comforting my friends during silly relationship/work drama when I know they actually care about mine, too.
It's never good to belittle people's pain but also, why do you have that kneejerk reaction? Is it because they're being self-absorbed and making you do unchecked emotional labour without considering your current availability for it? Maybe that's also not so cool.
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@Kestrel said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
Is it because they're being self-absorbed and making you do unchecked emotional labour without considering your current availability for it?
This. So much this. So, so much this.
There's someone that I have known for a long time that only pops up once in a while to demand counseling and emotional support while being abusive, or simply to be abusive.
They became very angry when I said I was not available for that, and tried every angle of emotional blackmail to force the issue.
But I am not a therapist. I am so not qualified to be someone's therapist. I am super extra not qualified to be someone's therapist when the time they choose to drop in to demand attention is fifteen minutes after I get off calming my own shit down to 'will survive the night' on a crisis hotline at 3am. Even when they were told this, none fucks given, I'm such a monster for not providing them support because they want it! They want it now!
There is a very special hell for these people, so help me.
Oh fucking well.
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Stupid power being out again.
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My internet was out all morning. Which is fine, but going five hours over their self-allotted "planned maintenance" time is probably a bad sign.
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Woke up with a flat tire on my bike.
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@surreality said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
@Kestrel said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:
Is it because they're being self-absorbed and making you do unchecked emotional labour without considering your current availability for it?
This. So much this. So, so much this.
There's someone that I have known for a long time that only pops up once in a while to demand counseling and emotional support while being abusive, or simply to be abusive.
They became very angry when I said I was not available for that, and tried every angle of emotional blackmail to force the issue.
But I am not a therapist. I am so not qualified to be someone's therapist. I am super extra not qualified to be someone's therapist when the time they choose to drop in to demand attention is fifteen minutes after I get off calming my own shit down to 'will survive the night' on a crisis hotline at 3am. Even when they were told this, none fucks given, I'm such a monster for not providing them support because they want it! They want it now!
There is a very special hell for these people, so help me.
Okay, so, how exactly did you become friends with my mom?