The ADD/ADHD Thread (cont'd from Peeves)

Ominous

I find Carhartt jeans are among the best for consistency and long life. I can barely get a year out of a pair of Levi's anymore, because of how poorly made they are.

tek

Just a general ADHD peeve: RSD, the destroyer of social lives. So much of my therapy has been learning to manage that.

Too Old For This

@ominous I appreciate the heads up, but Carhartt is more expensive than I can generally afford for a pair of jeans.

Gingerlily

So I was reading this article a few days ago, which I can't find again or else I'd link it here.

It was talking about a service people with ADHD can subscribe to where they are matched with a partner basically, and they use checking in before and after tasks for accountability and motivation.

So like if you and your partner decide that you both have something you want to get done that you've been putting off and you want to do it for an hour starting at 4pm, you check in beforehand and say what you are planning to achieve (your partner can even help you break down the task if it seems too big) and then they do the same, and after the hour you check back in and share what you did.

I thought it seemed like a potentially helpful tool to have. Then I thought, why pay for a service when there are a bunch of people I know who struggle with ADHD on a message board. We could buddy up with one another!

If anyone is interested in trying it out, message me!

Wretched

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Wretched

This articulates my joy in talking to you other ADHD brains, if a bit sappily.

Macha

@wretched I second this. You guys have made me feel so much... Well, I guess - less freakish? It's really nice knowing people who have some of the same exact issues as I do.

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Macha

So, my boss and I had a 'talk' on Friday, and his boss joined us.
They complained that I 'get a slow start' (hello executive dysfunction), and in the afternoon I 'burn through work in hours'. Boss thinks I'm 'in a panic' when I get all that work done in a few hours.

I told my boss flat out. Mornings are slow with exec. dysfunction, and what he thinks is 'panic' is hyperfocus. Welcome to the world of ADHD, boss.

But you want to give me a Verbal, though I'm getting more than my fair share of work done, because you don't like how I use my time? ... Time to talk to the doctor. ADHD is covered by the ADA, and I'm tired of getting shit for disabilities I have. (I also got talked to about my sugar crashes, and how I need to talk to some dept about 'time' I can take in the morning, etc, to deal with my issues. Now, I've recently had some significant med changes, which effs with my sugars. I've let them know, I've kept them in the loop. But they apparently want to complain.

I love my boss. I know this warning was NOT his idea, he looked SO unhappy and uncomfortable. But I will come full force with all the medical documentation.

Ninjakitten

@macha #1 Ugh, that kind of micromanaging esp on things we can't help sucks.

But #2 wait is the slow start one of the executive dysfunction things? Man I thought that was just me. >_>

Ganymede

@macha said in The ADD/ADHD Thread (cont'd from Peeves):

Mornings are slow with exec. dysfunction, and what he thinks is 'panic' is hyperfocus. Welcome to the world of ADHD, boss.

This was my friend when I was in law school: he sucked in the morning and then did between 12-14 hours of coding in the afternoon. Didn't need or want much sleep; he just wanted to wait until the hyper-focus kicked in to get his work done.

He was super-productive.

And no one was stupid enough to think that was a problem in a productive-focused industry.

Macha

@ninjakitten Yep!

The following six clusters of executive functions tend to be impaired in individuals with ADHD:

Activation: organizing tasks and materials, estimating time, getting started
Focus: finding, sustaining, and shifting attention as needed
Effort: regulating alertness, sustaining motivation and processing speed
Emotion: managing frustration and modulating feelings
Memory: using working memory and accessing recall
Action: monitoring and regulating physical activity

Ninjakitten

@macha Y'know, the rest of that line I knew (organizing, which I'm not so terrible at but it has to be its own Thing I Am Doing, and estimating time which I am virtually incapable of) but somehow not the 'getting started'. It makes sense. I just never put that one together.

(Similar situation with seeing 'sustaining processing speed' there in 'effort'; that hits me right in the RP and I really want to smack the 'I'm in this photo and I don't like it' image here now.)

Macha

@ninjakitten My problem is that I tend to read too fast and skip over things, or things just read differently to me. I've had to learn to stop and look over the poses I'm responding to

Carma

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