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@Jaded I suggested to her that she tell him "Yes...it grows tentacles!"
Nonono. Not tentacles...
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Apparently he also asked another pregnant lady, "Do pregnant women use hormones as an excuse to be dramatic?" some time ago.
"Some might, but it's hard to imagine it's anywhere near the number of people that use a woman's pregnancy as an excuse to ask her rude, absurd, invasive, and disgustingly stupid questions."
(I work from home for a reason.)
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Well if you don't like questions about your pregnancy I hear a woman's body has a way of shutting that whole thing down anyways.
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@admiral Yup. Knee to the groin usually shuts down all questions.
He/Him
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@admiral Yup. Knee to the groin usually shuts down all questions.
Would that the misogynistic remarks could be responded to with a knee to the groin in my workplace.
"If you stand for nothing Burr, what will you fall for?"
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@surreality mine was me being asked by a customer if I really was pregnant after asking my assistant manager if i was in actuality, pregnant. Couldn't miss it. I was picture perfect beachball horribly pregnant.
"I am smuggling a chinchilla" was my answer. I was annoyed. She bought her new purse and left unhappy. Stupid question, stupid answer.
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@cupcake
Tentacles? Like an Octopussoir?
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Justice Anthony Kennedy is retiring, giving Trump another pick on the Supreme Court. After Neil Gorsuch's stellar performance so far, I wait with bated breath to see who Dear Leader nominates this time around.
Ceterum autem censeo Carthaginem esse delendam
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@ominous
And most likely to see Ginsburg and/or to Breyer step down in the next few years too, given their age. -
Trump will nominate Political Wunderkind Jared Kushner for the position.
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@admiral
I don't think anyone should be on the highest court if they cannot practice the law.
(He's not admitted to any bar in the country, to my knowledge.)
Harriet Miers was far more qualified.
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@cupcake
Tentacles? Like an Octopussoir?YES. But you know, a bit better trimmed.
"If you stand for nothing Burr, what will you fall for?"
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@cupcake "It's really amazing, too, you know? It's like there's so much pain, the body says, 'I'm just gonna grow myself some reachy-things so if this happens again, they can just duck in there and yank the lil sucker out right quick!' And that's the real reason we ladyfolk say it's easier the second time around... "
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This is so not a peeve, this is real anger.
So help me, I adore my mother, but she drives me crazy. She's well meaning. She is. Her intentions are good.
She just 100% lives for all of her church things in ways that are worrisome. She talks about things she reads in her bible study group and similar in the same way exactly, and with the same passion, as the people I knew back when -- and there was more than one group -- who were convinced they were the reincarnation of King Arthur's Court.
Religion is her escapism. Listening to her talk about it is like listening to the people in this hobby who are far, far too into whatever game they're playing because they can't handle reality for whatever reason. It is deeply upsetting. If she reads it in a book and it's about this or that saint, it's just plain true and such an amazing story! And she sounds like a giddy thirteen year old, not a rational adult.
I have a lot of weird as fuck beliefs. I do. But somehow I manage to keep that shit more or less to myself. I know she doesn't feel the same way about the universe as we know it, so I don't throw it in her face ever. But every conversation with this woman is like Sunday School. It's horrible.
I get it. That's her social circle. That's what she's used to, conversationally. I'm used to talking about MU* theory and yarn and jewelry and seashells. Somehow, I am able to not mention the things on that list she's not interested in around her.
Just, no, Mom. I don't want to hear about the recent adventures of your friend who goes to scream at women entering Planned Parenthood or hear her brag about how she made teenage girls cry with a smug fucking smile. I don't. I think your friend is gross and horrible. Somehow, I manage to keep that to myself, so just... yeesh, enough.
Oh fucking well.
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@surreality said in RL Anger:
So help me, I adore my mother, but she drives me crazy. She's well meaning. She is. Her intentions are good.
I hear this a lot. I tell my clients: if someone accidentally does something good despite their intentions or beliefs, that does not erase the contemptible reasons for which they did it.
“It is better to live doing the things that you like. It is foolish to live within this dream of a world seeing unpleasantness and doing only things that you do not like.” -- Yamamoto Tsunetomo.
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@ganymede My mother basically lives off the Kool-Aid of the fluffiest of all possible reads of Catholicism.
As an example, one of our biggest arguments in recent years involved her gushing wildly about a martyr. Apparently, said martyr was a princess, and some evil king wanted to marry her. She had 'promised herself to God', however, and even as this dude and his army plowed her country and her people into the dirt and killed many over this, 'isn't she an inspiring role model'.
No. No, she's really not an inspiring role model to me. Gross as it may be, back then, 'is a princess' means she had one job: marry some asshole for a political alliance. "Nah, I'll just let thousands of people I'm responsible for die because I'm way into this Jesus dude," being 'totally cool and inspiring' kinda overlooks those thousands of dead people who didn't get a say in any of this, and that's seriously horrifying to me.
"Well, they died for God!" does not make that shit OK.
She was egregiously offended and defensive that I even noticed the thousands of dead people in this tale, let alone considered them relevant in any way.
That's the level of 'fluff' and denial that's in every one of these convos. It's literally no different from talking to the people I used to know from a LARP group who were 1000% sure about the fairy realm and how they really belonged there, where everything was 'perfect'.
Oh fucking well.
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Well, if she wasn't going to let him plow her, I suppose her country and people were reasonable surrogates.
I'm not really horrified. And I don't think her people died for God. I just think it's wrong for people to go to war over bitches they want to bang. And if there's a lesson to be learned, it isn't that you should let yourself be coerced into a relationship because someone wants to stick their dick in you, even if that means thousands of people die.
That girl in Santa Fe did nothing wrong, even if it may have resulted in her death and that of her classmates.
That said, valorizing anyone for their religious beliefs is vainglorious, at best.
“It is better to live doing the things that you like. It is foolish to live within this dream of a world seeing unpleasantness and doing only things that you do not like.” -- Yamamoto Tsunetomo.
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@ganymede Pretty much. Ye olden days were gross. "I don't care what happens to my people because I'm into Jesus, not you," is also pretty gross. Dudes who kill thousands of people, also gross. I'd have to ask her on the specifics, supposedly it was some 'unite the territories' alliance more than bang-factor, as was ye olden days way in Roman times.
It may be gross that women didn't get a say back when, but we didn't get a say back when, and that exacerbates the level of 'wait, you're going to let everybody die because you're not going to do what everyone else is expected to do because Jesus and isn't that inspiring?' I'd be way more behind this if it was, "Excuse me, I am also a person with a say," but it's not, nor did it have anything to do with that. (We could have used more of that in the back-when; maybe we'd be better off now.)
There's pretty much zero lack of faces to punch in the story, really. Which makes it sorta the inverse of 'isn't that sweet and lovely?'
(Maybe it's super anti-feminist of me, but if I was responsible for 1000 people and some dick said, "Marry me or your people die," I'd marry the idiot to save the people. Not because I'm a martyr -- but because I have a talent for making people miserable with my company, and, ultimately, poison is totally a thing.)
Not familiar with the Santa Fe reference, link? It sounds like something to get pissed off about on some level.
Oh fucking well.
