@Arkandel said in RL Anger:
@Coin said in RL Anger:
@Derp said in RL Anger:
@mietze said in RL Anger:
Maybe guys would feel scared in that way though, dunno.
I actually had a guy I knew 10 years ago show up where I work and start with the smalltalk. Wasn't no big thang. Dudes, we think in different ways, I think. I still hang out with that dude, we went and saw Batman v Superman this weekend.
Did he show up specifically to find you?
Also, it's not so much "dudes think in different ways" as it is "society teaches dudes that inappropriate things are okay", which is what was being said above.
It's also different on a physical level. Most guys either can take care of themselves - or at least think they can which for the purposes of being concerned amounts to about the same thing - if someone got weird.
For example I've lived in some iffy neighborhoods in the past, I never thought twice about going out in the dark to grab something from the convenience store or whatever. Or walking to a parking lot on my own, etc.
I have lived in some iffy neighborhoods and I have, though. I'm keenly aware I am not John McClane, man. I know that if someone comes at me from a dark corner my chances of surviving, let alone getting away unscather, are low. It's true that men are taught to be tough, but the real lesson they're taught is to believe they are tough. But we're not. Not really. Not in general. And I say this as someone who has gotten into his fair share of fights and can hold his own in a fist-fight. It doesn't matter. Once the piper or whatever hits you in the head, you're probably fucked, and that can happen to anyone.
Ill intent doesn't discriminate; it's just that society has also taught men that women are weak, either by telling them that they should be protected at all costs because they are special, fragile creatures; or by telling them that they can overpower them and get what they want because women are essentially commodities.
I sense this conversation veering back to previously heated subjects, so I will not quietly stop.