@Darinelle said:
When every scene becomes centered around the same person because they min-maxxed and I didn't, that's going to make me take my ball and go home.
I think this is actually a separate issue, if seemingly related, and has more to do with people than sheets at all. Some people walk big. There are players who just walk big. This is something which is hard to define. Some players want to be the center of attention, and really the sheet can be a tool for that kind of behavior, but it isn't wholly necessary. They can take over the RP in the blink of an eye just by virtue of walking big. It becomes about them, because they choose it to be about them. Most of us don't try to walk big, and when we encounter someone who does, we sometimes feel like we're just the audience to their moments.
Feeling like the audience to someone who is being larger than life is a real, tangible thing that certain people dislike-that sense of being overshadowed. We don't need to so much qualify it as we need to understand that it happens. I wouldn't lay blame on the sheet, however. While the sheet might be a helpful tool in that scenario, really, it's just the take no prisoner's attitude of the person walking big that is the real challenge to be overcome - how to approach them about sharing the light, so we aren't always in their shadow.
The truth is, if you are feeling overshadowed, then a change of scenery might be in order, because certainly there is RP somewhere that would lead to feeling more or less important, certainly. Your Storyteller could hear your feelings, obviously, and try to include more ways to share the light. You could point out to the big person that they're being big, and wielding a cudgel wildly, and you would appreciate sharing the light a might.
Even something as simple as, "We feel like our RP is being impacted here, and you're being a bit disruptive, can you tone it back some so we can finish up?" One person'll scream at you like a child and stomp a foot. But the average person is going to go, "Oh, oh, sorry, my bad," and take it on the chin without a flinch.