@l-b-heuschkel I think usually they are but mental health issues and other factors could make them forget. So, when deciding someone is 'bad' I think that should be factored in. I'm not on board with the 'X thing excuses their behavior' but I am on board with taking that in as a factor when trying to decide if the person is unintentionally or intentionally doing something. Obviously, no one needs to share stuff wrong with them, expecting them to is dickish to me. But, if you are aware, it should be taken into account.
Note, I'm not talking about the people who are like 'You can't get mad at me for doing X thing! I have Y thing!' I mean the people who genuinely think they are doing things expected and making a joke that is funny without fully getting they are doing the opposite than intended then when corrected, listen, but potentially repeat it. I've seen both of these types. The unintentionals /usually/ stop when made aware. Sure, they might do it again, but rarely do I see them try using their mental health as a full on excuse to get out of trouble. The intentionals, use their issues as a shield against getting in trouble and sometimes people accept that, some don't.