@thenomain said in Hello MSBites! Grade your administrators.:
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Sometimes I will publicly praise my friends but privately admonish them. Others I will praise and admonish publicly. For me the distinction depends upon our relationship.
For instance one of the things I love about the marraige of @emmahsue and @helloraptor is how they are comfortable enough in their lives that they will say the other has messed up, or is wrong, and itโs never in anger. When they praise each other itโs never looking cliquish or suckuppery. They say these things because they believe it, and think it needs said. Thoughtful and respectful. Who doesnโt want this kind of relationship?
But not everyone is this way, and not all mistakes or wrongdoing is created equal. Not all rightdoing is created equal either, but if there is no harm in the praise then we could use more of it.
Precisely.
One of my best friends, we call each other out regularly. Sometimes it is couched in teasing. And sometimes it has been a full sit-down-come-to-jesus talk. But our friendship is solid enough that each and every time? We have been able to move right on into our usual chatting and bullshitting right after.
Because that's who we are. We are both the sort of people where we prefer to just move on after an argument. We both know this about each other. And we both know that to us, a friendship is the value of what has come before. That 'this' (the fight) is fleeting. We talked it out. We sorted it out. Neither of us needs to sit and brood in it. It's done. Let's get back to sharing videos, discussing what matters, etc.
We've gone from arguing right back into stupid videos within moments.
But praise is good, too. We should totally give kudos to people. Maybe not always in the open (since, well, we're obvs. gonna praise our buds more often than anyone else; nature of the beast), but sometimes. Make people feel good, yo.