@derp said in Dabbling, Mastery, Dunning–Kruger etc:
If you stalk your attorney after work and they look stressed as hell with a drink in their hand?
Those are probably the good ones.
Amusingly, this is how I picked up my weekend job. I was just standing around drinking, waiting for my turn in karaoke, when I started to clean up tables and helping the bar staff. Now I'm the bar-back / door-person.
Huh.
@Auspice said in Personal Agency for Personal Boundaries:
tbh, for casual RP between two players? I wouldn't want any sort of special commands.
We're adults. I'd like to treat my players as adults who can communicate between one another what they're comfortable with.
To pull the conversation back to where we started, though, I thought we were mulling over commands that may assist people in communicating the breach or existence of a personal boundary.
I will admit to being lackadaisical in following this discussion.
I hear you.
And HR is wrong.
And if they don’t change, they gonna get fired when I tell a higher up.
Because good lawyers are assholes who protect their clients.
Not people.
@Derp said in Firefly - Still Flyin':
I mean, realistically this has been an unspoken policy on every game, thus far. We all know that staff can do this, and we know that staff have done this. Yet we still keep playing.
This wouldn't give me pause. I say kudos to them for being willing to put it on the table in the first place and talk about what steps they are willing to take in a transparent way.
I concur.
@macha said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:
Had to replace the laptop, upgrade the internet so roommate and I could both WFH.
Sounds like a company expense and a reasonable accommodation.
Had to change up my cellphone plan, because former roommates were 'worried' I'd use all the data ( I make calls, nothing else for work, but.. whatever).
Sounds like a company expense and a reasonable accommodation.
They sent me a cheap ass headset that's less comfortable than the 10 buck bluetooth one I bought from five below.
Sounds like a company expense and a reasonable accommodation.
I mean, your HR and accountants understand that all of these expenses could have been covered with the PPP money and expensed out? If not, you should tell them to go talk to actual tax professionals. Paying business expenses and writing them off minimizes taxes and will probably raise your productivity as your employees work comfortably at home. It's not like you asked for a company car which is also a business expense.
I'm sorry you work with stupid people.
@wizz said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:
I have always been extremely empathetic whenever he gets hurt and have never tried to tell him it's not ok just to be upset or cry or anything like that when he's in pain, and I am as attentive as he lets me be when something happens (usually he wants space immediately after he gets hurt), but the screaming is so over the top.
Obviously, I am not the most empathetic person in the world, but I have told my kids, one of whom is neuroatypical, that it is okay to be upset and cry, but that the best thing to do is to try not to make a scene about it. When they do, I hit the casually-downplay button. But if they shrug it off, I hit the reward-heavily button. This has helped prepare my daughter for shots, which she hates.
I don't know you or your kid, but maybe you could flip the script that way. Let him scream and cry it out at a distance, but reward toughing it out. I know how awful that sounds but my kids' speech pathologists say that this is an okay way to re-program my kids' brains.
@Scissors said in The Savage Skies:
Not just IN, I'm bringing people! Definitely come play. It's a nice sandbox.
I'll be there shortly. I'm not 100% and have worked piled up. Plus, I unfortunately got back into Total War: Empire.
Don't ask me why, but the Prussian Empire is now in possession of Rupert's Land.
@macha said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:
Sadly, they're smart enough to avoid putting bullshit in writing.
This isn't about them putting it into writing; it's about you putting it into writing. What you put down? Is evidence for an attorney to use. Because people who are looking to commit fraud don't usually create a mountain of their own evidence to use. That sounds like a person who is tired of taking shit.
I didn't get my promotion I should have this summer because of my 'talking to' In January - which was about my ADHD.
Under the McDonnell-Douglas test, you bear the burden of showing that you suffered an adverse employment action connected to your disability (pardon the word, it's just what lawyers call it). The burden of proof then shifts to the burden to demonstrate a non-discriminatory reason for not giving you the promotion. Chances are, they did not document the reasons for which you did not get the promotion. So you have the advantage if you put into writing what happened, and later testify to the same.
@Groth said in Tips for not wearing out your welcome:
@Ganymede said in Tips for not wearing out your welcome:
I am repeating because I was probably lost in whatever the fuck just happened a couple of pages before.
Why have you chosen online text-based games as a way to stave off insanity from your isolation?
Online text-based games are one of the more accessible means to learn to become better at communication and social cues.
Not everything is about you.
I was asking A-B.
@faraday said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:
That sounds shady as heck.
It is. And I'm fairly certain it violates the ADA.
@too-old-for-this said in The ADD/ADHD Thread (cont'd from Peeves):
Yes but the school system isn't actually set up to prepare children for life after school.
I concur, and that's why I qualified the statement by saying: "[i]f one of the goals of school is to prepare children for the real world ... ."
@faraday said in The ADD/ADHD Thread (cont'd from Peeves):
The dropped the mid-morning snacks because they didn't want the kids taking their masks off while eating, and apparently it's too much trouble to coordinate taking them to the cafeteria or auditorium or whatever where they can space out more.
My kids go to a Catholic School, and they have a mid-morning snack. If the fucking Catholic Church can do it, with how archaic it is, then I'd like to think that a public school system can get it done too. Then again, where I live, masks are only recommended.
My kids wear them anyway because if they don't I will beat the fuck out of them.
(Actually, I wouldn't, and don't, but if you ask my girl whether she'd rather lose dessert or get a spanking, she'll take the spanking.)
(That said, I guess I'd better make sure she doesn't make an OnlyFans site or something in ten years, what with how much she likes spankings.)
@BroadStreetBully said in If you work hard, son, maybe someday you'll RP:
It isn't so hard to find RP, but most of it is found elsewhere. The MU* world is kind of petering out.
This is twice I have seen this statement with no reason to believe it.
@groth said in The Work Thread:
I think being assigned tasks outside of your job description solely based on your gender is discrimination.
I agree, but what I read was that such tasks fell to her because her boss didn't do what he was supposed to do. Still, yours is a fair reading in context.
I have read articles similar to the ones you posted. I understand what is being said. In many ways, my suggestions follow; in others, they don't. Norm criticism is no different than what I would call "regularly checking in with people" or "keeping my eyes and ears open." And master suppression techniques are what I consider "being a fucking asshole."
I suppose I see things differently than most because, in my office, every member of support staff is a woman. On top of that, half of the attorneys and partners are women. And you still see the regular hierarchical shit happen because, well, some people are just shitty leaders no matter their gender.
I think I'm a pretty good boss to work with. Staff have told me this; but am I really? I mean, I do shit no other partner does, like: (1) upload my own e-mails into our online cloud storage system; (2) print out my own e-mails; (3) input all of my hours; (4) field cold calls and referrals; (5) spend more than five minutes every day with the associates to train them and make them feel comfortable; (6) get my own coffee; (7) make coffee for the firm; (8) handle my own discovery requests and responses; (9) file my own briefs, motions, and notices when I can; and (10) create my own notebooks for hearings and trials. And I do all this because, in my vision of how to practice law, this is shit that lawyers ought to be doing on their own.
But my administrative assistant always seems like she's walking on egg-shells. It's probably because people who are so damned independent in the workplace might not need you in the future. Maybe she's worried about job security. Maybe she's worried she's screwed up. One time, we missed a brief deadline: we got a continuance filed, and everything was okay. But she was near-tears because she felt like she fucked up. And she went to one of the senior assistants and asked if I was pissed, and was told: no, that's just Ganymede, you're fine, and they'd tell you to your face if you fucked up.
Like, I don't know how I'm doing. I don't. But I hope that showing that I want to be part of the workplace and I don't mind doing things they do or I don't expect you to make coffee and get me a cup if I come to work before you do, and all of that. Leadership's a tricky thing, I think, and what matters is the effort.
But what happened to Juniper is straight-up bullshit.
I just won an award (thank you) for my extensive pro bono work, so I decided to hold a firm event for it. I got the food; I helped set up; I helped clean up; I helped put all the food away; and I did it because it was my party and I felt responsible for it. And I think that's a feeling that's sorely missed in Juniper's boss, and in a lot of leadership positions in a lot of workplaces.
It’s real hard to teach social skills, especially in an environment that caters to the non-social.
@macha said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:
In a fantasy world, I would eventually be able to quit the rat race and make nice smelling things all day long, instead.
Well, I mean, you won't get there unless you start.
But if you get your gear and want to market your good-smelling stuff here, I would not object.
Because, y'know, we're so fucking toxic.
(I mean, Derp is, sort of, if we're talking about scent.)
(He's from Indiana; they smell.)
Let me make this clear: none of this was ever mietze's fault. I have taken and will take full responsibility for the choices I made and the actions I took. Don't put words in my mouth.
As for the rest of what you wrote, I'm not sure what will happen. We will see. Who is this place for? Whoever remains, I suppose. The people who've in the past come to me with complaints about stalkers or abusers visiting this site know my position on people who do that and how I deal with them.
Gany's Chicken Tikka Motherfucking Masala
First, you got to marinate the chicken in a yogurt and spices before you cook it. You probably don't need to marinate for more than 2 hours, but I did it for 24 hours because I was lazy and took the family out to Bob Evans last night.
How much chicken? A couple of breasts, of course. HAW HAW HAW. Go for two pounds. Breasts are fine, but thigh meat is better.
Here's the marinade:
1 cup plain yogurt
1.5 tbsp minced garlic
1 tbsp ginger powder
2 tsp garam masala
1 tsp ground turmeric
1 tsp ground cumin
1 tsp ground red chili powder
1 tsp salt
You'll also need to make this sauce and keep it simmering while you cook the chicken:
2 tbsp vegetable oil
2 tbsp butter
1 large onion, diced finely
1.5 tbsp minced garlic
1 tbsp ginger powder
1.5 tsp garam masala
1.5 tsp ground cumin
1 tsp ground turmeric
1 can of tomato puree (14-16 oz.)
2 tsp ground red chili powder
1.25 cups of heavy cream
To make the sauce, stick the oil and butter in a saucepan, melt down, sweat the onion and garlic in it, then pour the puree in with all the spices, stir, and add the cream. Let it simmer while the chicken cooks.
After marinating, heat a cast iron pan (yeah, motherfuckers) in the oven at 450 degrees. Pull it out, oil the pan, toss the chicken in (yes, with the marinade on it, but not too much) and then stick it in the oven for 10 minutes.
Take the chicken out of the oven, stick it into the sauce, and let it finish in the simmering sauce for 20 minutes. Serve on rice or whatever.
Easy as shit. Ingredients may be found at your local Kroger's.
@faraday said in RL-Friendly Game Design:
If it's planned, people can adjust their schedules around it. If it's (reasonably) short, they know they're not going to be at it all night.
And we come back to a discussion on TS. Again.
(Just kidding: I concur that planning important get-togethers and keeping them short is a good policy to keep for non-sexy-time RP ... and sexy-time RP.)
I am offended that you would not use chorizo.
Offended.
But this sounds like some smashing shit and I'mma stealin' it.
As a GM, I prefer scenes of no more than 5. If I need a big event, I’ll split the scenes up, knit the events together, and then announce the aftermath.
