Posts made by Ganymede

@Auspice said in Why We Don't Make New Friends Anymore (Or Creepers Do Creepy Things):

are you a robot cat or a trash panda make up your mind woman

can't i be both like aubrey plaza

@Auspice said in Why We Don't Make New Friends Anymore (Or Creepers Do Creepy Things):

This goes for raunchy humor, for teasing people, etc. And it's taken me a long time to learn that re: teasing people tbh. I do it often out of nerves or wanting to fit in but I always struggle to find the right tone.

I have found that the best way to signal to people that I'm okay with teasing and raunchy humor is through self-deprecation. Not everyone's comfortable with doing that. I think that showing people you can make fun of yourself to entertain others makes them feel a bit more comfortable about their own vulnerabilities.

For example, this is me:

@Cobaltasaurus

Sometimes, my sense of humor completely misses the mark.

I have a theory that a lot of people who do or say creepy things are actually trying to be friendly. Their problem is that what passes as "friendly" between actual friends is a lot different than what another person might find to be "friendly." In your example, the dude who be like 'wake SO with blowjob ha ha' might actually think that he's trying to be "casual" in a very "bro-tastic" way. In several other examples presented, I just don't have any excuse for them.

Let's take a more concrete example: are we friends? On many levels, I'm not entirely sure. We've chatted via PM, we've yik-yaked on games, and I'm pretty sure you know more about me than many people here. I can say with some certainty that if we ever had the pleasure of actually meeting (and thus violate my Prime Directive) we would probably have drinks and you'd find me to be a borderline narcissist alcoholic. (As opposed to lawyer, which may be synonymous.)

But, let's suppose we're friends, yeah? We met through games. I'm guessing at first you didn't care who I was or what I was about, and the feeling was mutual. Over the years of casual acquaintance and occasional argument, I've built a healthy respect for you and what you do and what you have to say. And when you've needed a hand or something, I think I was respectful with how I stepped in to do something. So we started with indifference and, over time, built it into what it is now.

Going back to your example, the fellow that suggested you give your SO a fellatio alarm clock just rushed into "bro-tastic mode" rather than, as I said, starting with indifference and building from there.

I've found in my (now years of) karaoking experience that the friends I've found (and now care deeply about) started off as singers. You appreciate them, they appreciate you. But did we give a fuck about each other (really) immediately? I don't think so: I had no agenda, no plans, nothing, so shit built up over time. I started with indifference.

I also have enough self-respect to hide my lack of human decency by treating other people politely. Much like a Spina, though, being polite does not always mean being nice.

@Roux

If you just used the handle “sibermaus” ...

... welcome!

I make plenty of friends on a regular basis because I just stopped giving a fuck about people.

What a difference a little indifference makes.

@RDC said in NOLA: The Game That Care Forgot:

I mean, it's a lot more like "whoever's willing to be the next to be murdered and also does something the Triumvirate likes more than the next person" than a vote, but sure.

It becomes harder and harder not to shout at a grown-ass adult when they undermine your attempts to discipline your child, and then act like nothing happened.

Like, I get that you are a PA, but I’m the one with the psychology and teaching degrees. You stick to fixing them when they are sick and I will raise them into responsible adults that aren’t entitled fuckheads.

White people.

@Sunny

Were you on Denver by Night when I ran the changeling sphere? I look back at that as a good example of where narrative buy-in kept activity going.

We had titles. We had intrigue. We had letter-writing. And it would have been a lot easier if we had +requests to track rather than using a combination of @mail and +bbposts.

@RDC

Everyone vote for Salty.

There will be booty.

@Tinuviel said in Punishments in MU*:

According to this map, they usually argue in Arkansas.

That explains everything including the incestuous feel of it, but excluding their seemingly-incessant desire to remain.

@Lotherio said in Punishments in MU*:

@Thenomain said in Punishments in MU*:

(For the audience: Faraday and I don't get each other about 95% of the time.)

Lies, that estimate is far too low.

Faraday is from Venus; Thenomain is from Columbus.

@Ghost said in Punishments in MU*:

And on your birthday? The sandbox.

When we do it the special way

@Tinuviel said in Punishments in MU*:

Oh, so they're fighting in the Hog Pit?

No.

That would be this:

@Coin said in Punishments in MU*:

You wish people would pay money to see you two slapfight.

@mietze said in The ethics of IC romance, TS, etc:

The woman who stole pictures of my twins sonograms and baby pictures (I'd created a website/blog for family m) so that she could pose as a mother of twins on a message board and create a dramatic story of one dying (there were some medical pics on my site because my boys had ttts and one almost died from a hospital acquired infection)....later got caught posing and soliciting private interactions as a 14 year old cancer survivor, including trying engage people in romantic communication.

There's a special place in Hell for this kind of person.

@RightMeow said in MU Things I Love:

So I had a horrible day yesterday. I'm not going into it because no one cares (I'm totally okay with that btw). However, I pulled myself out for RP. I camped down and the people made me laugh so much. It made my day better. They didn't even know I was having a bad one.

I usually have nothing but hate for people who idle in the OOC Lounge waiting for RP to come to them.

But I have come to realize in my old age that many folks are idling there and not waiting for RP to come for the reasons you mention above.

Some people are just damn funny over channels, and laughing at them can be therapeutic.

@Coin said in Punishments in MU*:

If you're making an exception to a rule, then it's an exception. If X gets to have a stat at 8 and no one else does, that's an exception. If it's because you trust them with it, then 1) what's so important about that ONE STAT that staff needs to TRUST THE PLAYER for them to be able to have it? and 2) why do other people get to buy it later on if they spend XP on it, if it's so important they couldn't be trusted with it at cgen?

On this issue, I concur. Excepting positions of power and boondoggles that arise therefrom, I believe that all PCs should be coming out of character generation with the same access to skills, traits, and the like, barring systems where traits are supposed to be somewhat unique, like a superhero game.

@Tinuviel said in Punishments in MU*:

You never let me get away with spelling errors, so I'm not letting you either.

I wouldn't expect you to.

@Tinuviel

I edited it because I spelled "perspicacious" incorrectly.