Posts made by Ganymede

@Quinn said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

But as someone who recently filled out 26 fucking hand written invitations how the fuck are you supposed to write on them because pens don't work due to the fucking wax covering or whatever they have on there, sharpies wipe off and oh my god, I'm so glad to hear it's not just me.

This is me seeing the same fucking kind of invitation for the third year in a row:

If my partner pulls this shit again, I'm just going to print some off and send them out on my own.

(Note: there are ~15 kids in each of my kids' preschool classrooms and daycare classrooms. That's ~30 per kid, and they are twins. We have 9 RSVPs, 5 of which confirmed attendance.)

@Pondscum said in If you work hard, son, maybe someday you'll RP:

I did enjoy letting loose that piggy on you.

I enjoyed the shit out of that too, but the premise -- spontaneous event in a public place -- isn't very different from "bar RP."

@Ghost said in Incentives for RP:

Because the horse ultimately wants the carrot, and not the stick.

Get out of here with your kink-shaming, commie.

@Ghost said in If you work hard, son, maybe someday you'll RP:

You can do a lot with bar/coffee RP if you think about it.

I get a lot of mileage over random scenes.

• Erin meets girl. Gets concussion bashing her head on a bunk.
• Daithi is in the market talking to someone when a boar runs through. Attempts to wrestle the piggy to the ground, gets injured in the groin.
• Maddy is playing pool. Gets into argument about how shaken milk does not bring young men to playgrounds.

And so on.

@Lotherio

+Events were a great innovation that I think helped people get engaged. So group events are popular and should be.

We can think of other tools, and have, but I think this is a worthwhile topic to bandy about.

@Ghost said in Incentives for RP:

One thing that I think is fair (though doesn't seem to work; I can only theorize why) is to incentivize the players who are welcoming and inclusive with leadership positions. The last thing you want is to hand a faction over to a player who only RPs with two of their friends and a close TS partner. No, you want people who are inclusive in those positions (faction heads, primogen, Lord or Lady, etc).

I presume you mean voluntary positions of leadership.

Even so, it's redundant. Players who are welcoming and inclusive often fall into positions of leadership because other people notice how welcoming and inclusive they are. It is better policy to withhold or remove positions of leadership from players who are neither welcoming nor inclusive.

If you keep the awarding voluntary, I believe you can avoid the problem of losing RP-spreaders.

@Tinuviel said in If you work hard, son, maybe someday you'll RP:

The personal touch. Ask a person you know, or a staffer, for help in finding RP. People are much, much better at dealing with social issues than any 'tool'. This is what we do in real life, is it not? "Hey, I don't know anyone at this party, can you introduce me?" Hell, have official "first contact specialists" that someone can more comfortably page - because it is expected, encouraged, and rewarded - to get the ball rolling and get them used to things, start a little scene for them and invite a few others.

The personal touch isn't a great strategy for those who suffer from social anxiety. I believe that is what started this topic.

In the past, you could walk a grid and bump into people. Games appear to have shifted away from this method, or such "spontaneous RP events" are less common these days. For people with anxiety, bumping into people IC on the Grid was an easy way to get RP without having to have direct contact with others, either via channel or page.

Tools can alleviate that stress, but only if people take advantage of them.

When I look for RP, I make it a point to see if anyone's got a RP Flag up and appears to be not engaged. I don't always engage such players, but I sometimes do. That's a matter of personal touch, yes, but I do not suffer from anxiety issues.

That's why finding RP is easier for me than others. And that's also why we need to keep thinking beyond what works for us personally.

@egg said in If you work hard, son, maybe someday you'll RP:

I'm used to it. Doesn't mean I have to like it...

Of course not. But some people do.

Yesternight, a player and I were discussing how to bring another player's character into the sphere, and we came up with an arrangement that made IC sense. Was it a breach of the old "OOC BAD FOR IC STUPH" doctrine? Sure, but it will likely result in another player getting more RP in-roads, and I think this is a good thing.

Then, later, another player offered to RP with me for an hour, and I took them up on it. It was a bit of a struggle trying to figure out why my studious, introverted, Snape-as-a-lady character would interact with a mere mortal, and the scene wasn't what I'd consider up to a Gold Standard, but it was a start, and I enjoyed the struggle and notion that I might be helping another person into the game.

There are a good number of people who are RP facilitators, and every game has them. Those people will bend over backwards to try to get you into the game with minimal effort. These sorts of people helped me get into Requiem for Kingsmouth and The Reach. Finding them can be tough, but they are good to hold onto when you do.

I suppose my point is that if you're the sort of player who works all day, and wants to chillax at night, there are people out there who want to interact with you and bring you into the game. The work is simply finding them.

@Wretched said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

Where is my invite?!

I guess I am prejudging others by their lack of a response, but --

-- yeah, I begin to wonder how many parents are just too fucking lazy to take their kids to parties. Like, do they think I enjoy going to my kids' parties? It's not like I particularly enjoy talking to other adults with whom I would only get a chance to interact because our kids happen to be in the same class.

I just make the fucking effort to take my kids to these shindigs no matter how stupid I might think the party activities are going to be.

In this case? We're bringing in a naturalist with some reptiles, bugs, and other small creatures.

Parents.

When your kid gets a birthday invitation, you should respond to the parents of the child who prepared the invitation. Especially if it is hand-written because some dumb-ass took the time to fucking write it out by hand when their partner could have easily allowed her to type it up, but, no, there's something more personal about a hand-written invitation when the invitation is printed on a glossy fucking card that makes writing on it impossible unless by ball-point pen, and, even then you have to press hard enough to make a fucking diamond out of that ink.

I digress.

Is it just me, though, or are young parents lazy and inconsiderate? When I got an invitation to a birthday, my parents would bend their schedule around it. So, when my kids get an invitation we will move our schedules around to accommodate, unless an accommodation is either unreasonable or impossible.

I find it very hard to believe that a Friday birthday after 5:00 PM is an unreasonable or impossible time. And we sent out the invites a month ago.

Anyhow, I suppose I'm peeved because my partner just broke down into tears. She's afraid that our boy isn't going to have as many invitees show up as our girl, and that this will scar him. And while I know there's nothing I can do about it, when my partner gets upset-to-tears I become a holy fucking bitch-terror.

Like, seriously, folks, make time for other kids' birthdays or no one is going to show up to your monster's spawn-day, all right?

It's for your kids, their social health, and the social health of our community, you lazy dipshits.

@Derp said in If you work hard, son, maybe someday you'll RP:

'Does anyone want to RP' sounds like 'someone please entertain me'.

There are better ways of doing things.

I do fine with: "I'll be over <here>, if anyone wants to RP."

I make it a point to be ready with a set if anyone comes along, though.

If I don't have the ability to set, I will ask to join others.

That's how I've changed over the years.

When I feel like I am having a hard time finding RP, I find other venues in which to RP. My quest is often fairly short.

@AeriaNyx said in Good TV:

Deadwood was where I fell in love with Ian McShane.

Here's where I fell in love with McShane:

@Aria said in Good TV:

A++. Will watch for tank-bears.

It's gonna happen.

Detective Pikachu was so damn enjoyable. It's not a perfect movie, but it is a really good entry for non-fans, in my opinion. I know of Pokemon, but I'm definitely not in the "devoted fan" category.

And despite the reviews, Ryan Reynolds is perfect for the role.

@Arkandel

Put VanFleet on the floor with Green, Lowry, Leonard, and Siakam. Rotate Ibaka and Lin in. Make them work for each basket defensively, then run around them.

@Arkandel

Nurse doesn’t have enough confidence in his bench. Lin for the win!

@Warma-Sheen

It did not look good when Toronto couldn't close out the Bucks, no.

The second game will be the predictor. If Toronto takes it, they have a chance; if Toronto loses it, they are out.

I just hope it was enough to convince Leonard to come back.

@Wretched

Holy shitballs that looks good.