Posts made by Ganymede

@arkandel said in Battling FOMO (any game):

But IMHO a lot of FOMO doesn't have as much to do with the game itself (although it's certainly been known to happen) as much as it does with players feeling socially insecure about being left out.

So, I go back to what I said: you are going to be left out of things.

It's an inevitability.

I understand that people may feel anxiety about falling out of loop, but, unless you are completely dedicated to being on a game all of the time, you are going to be left out of things.

It's going to happen.

Hell, even if you are? You can't be in every scene. You can't be in every little event that occurs on any game of any appreciable size. You can try to, or get the scoop OOCly, but that's going to lead to social ostracism because few people tolerate folks who have to be in everything, so you are going to be left out of things.

It's the nature of this hobby.

So, I don't understand why anyone with FOMO continues to play; how would you ever relax?

I have not understood FOMO for a while.

It is inevitable you will miss something online. Unless you are around 24/7, this is an inevitability. I have accepted that I will miss out on things all the time due to my schedule. And since my only other alternative is to stop playing, and therefore always miss everything, I acknowledge that I will never be at everything.

Or even many things.

So, I suppose I don’t even engage in the fight.

@wretched

For me, an explanation details why a person did something as an excuse details why a person should not suffer the full brunt of the consequences of their actions.

@greenflashlight said in RL Anger:

Now take a wild guess who is most likely to claim a person died of excited delirium rather than, oh, I don't know, a two hundred pound man kneeling on the back of the decedent's neck for nine minutes.

I'd chuckle if it weren't so tragically absurd.

@greenflashlight said in RL Anger:

My doctor has known the results of my MRI for two weeks but wasn't allowed to tell me about it before worker's comp gave him permission to, which seems just a wee bit fucked up that my employer's insurance provider is allowed to have information about my health before I am and can direct my healthcare provider to withhold that information from me until such time as they give him explicit permission to disclose my medical status to me.

There's more going on here. Physicians owe their duty of care to their patients, not to the insurers.

@aria said in RL things I love:

I said a man because we were literally talking about a guy ...

I understand.

What I meant to insinuate is not about gender; rather, it was that one should find someone resourceful enough to be useful. Because there's really no excuse not to be, in my opinion, for household tasks.

I recognize that replacing a water heater is a two-person job, but it's not a difficult one. (I helped my friend replace his with him.)

@aria said in RL things I love:

You're welcome for the solid life advice here, everyone.

A man?

I do the lawn mowing. The gardening. The furniture-making. The cooking. The plumbing. Cleaning, often. Washing and folding clothes. Putting the kids to bed.

Of course, my partner is also a lawyer-PA combo, so she be smart as fuck, but --

-- yeah, get you an anybody who will get off their ass and not be a helpless fuck. And for fuck's sake, I learned how to fix the washer and dryer through YouTube, along with changing oil, a car battery, and a flat tire on the side of the road.

THERE IS NO DAMN EXCUSE FOR ANYONE TO NOT KNOW THESE BASIC THINGS.

@arkandel

Which 'burb did you move into?

@sunny said in Good TV:

I love Invincible SO MUCH. I can't really do gore so it gets rough at moments, but gosh, the characters and storytelling are so good it keeps me watching despite my hangups.

I'm really digging DC's Harley Quinn, if only because it is really gory. (Like when King Shark bites people in half.)

But it's so hilariously vulgar that it's hard to take too seriously, and all of the decapitation and uber-violence only adds to its absurdity.

Plus, like, Lake Bell is my totem Hollywood voice, so.

@derp said in The ADD/ADHD Thread (cont'd from Peeves):

I have the LSAT scheduled for Saturday.

Side note: I wish you all of the luck and blessings and shit for this. Kick ass and take names.

@chibichibi

I think there was a game called Modern Nights that opened up briefly. You could use their code; it was adapted to V20 Vampire.

@derp

@faraday said in A healthy game culture:

No, my point was that certain systems and themes bring out the worst in people and can contribute to a toxic game culture. Which I think is the same point you're making?

Then I clearly misunderstood; thank you for clarifying.

My point, succinctly, is that Vampire is a toxic game. Knowing this, it is important to go above and beyond in order to tamp it down and make it playable as a MUSH. Requiem for Kingsmouth is an excellent example, where the game was enjoyable for most but it required almost-unprecedented levels of staff involvement and restriction, all of which likely contributed to its shutdown.

So, if RfK is the level of supervision and maintenance necessary to make the system and setting "work," then the system and setting are the culprits for the failure of games based on it.

@faraday

Your point was how community is the primary factor. You used your own experience in TT as an example of a competitive WoD game working well.

My point is that community has little to do with it. The combination of the system and the medium turn a great TT game into something horridly toxic. My years of experience with the systems and the medium guide my perspective.

You have to wrestle and purge the shit out. It takes a lot of work to do. And frankly I don’t think it is worth it.

@faraday

I’m sorry, but whereas the majority of gamers may not be dicks I can tell you from almost 25 years of experience that Vampire, as a game, seems to tease out the worst of them.

@too-old-for-this

@silverfox said in A healthy game culture:

I'm actually really torn on if it's vital to have staff who also play.

In my experience, it's fine if there are rules in place. For instance, on Requiem for Kingsmouth, staff PCs could not hold territory or title. It was a double-edged sword, I suppose, because at one point they offered me a position on staff but I declined because I was more vested in my PC, who held territory and a title.

@tek

Especially if they do so, because that’s how they hunt.

@il-volpe said in A healthy game culture:

I've got this theory that the granular and hierarchical structure of the traditional Masq-of-our-own WoD MUSH is a filthy sodden sock nourishing the trenchfoot that is traditional WoD MUSH toxic fuckery.

You need a theory for this?

Any staff hierarchy is comparable to a business' structure. There are owners; there are directors; and there are staff. If your owners are shit, the game will be shit. If your owners are not involved or don't care about the day-to-day operations, the directors can and may get away with murder. Nepotism and cronyism will erode trust between staff, directors, and owners. This is applicable to every game.

Consumers suffer because of the paucity of options.

@sixregrets

The irony is that he works for Media Matters for America, a left-wing political activist group.