"I can see that the database is already built and operational, but everything I want I can get with that spreadsheet that you send out and Power BI, so I don't see why we need a database at all."
Where the bloody hell do you think I get the spreadsheet, out of my arse? And why didn't you say something 18 months ago, before I built the bloody database? Or in March, before I started putting data in it?
@mietze said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:
I love crisis work and I thrive it it but apparently not constant sales goals crisis.
There's a difference between an actual genuine crisis and a manufactured eternal 'crisis'. The first, something happened, something needs to be done about it, you pull out all the stops and somehow get it done, and peoples' lives are very much improved from what they were. You have the feeling of a job well done, and people are grateful. The second, someone simply hasn't hired enough people to do the job, and when you pull out all the stops and somehow get it done you have to do it all over again tomorrow because they somehow think 110% effort is sustainable.
It isn't.
Don't confuse the actual crisis with the manufactured crisis. One of them isn't real and you know it, and the constant pressure to throw everything you have at it will just burn you out.
@SinCerely Oh, yes, sorry. Necromancy, carpentry, robotics, yarncrafts and/or baking.
@HelloProject Right, that's you down for necromancy, carpentry, robotics and/or yarncrafts, then?
@LWhiskey To me it looks like a vicious sort of trap. Either it gets approved, at which point someone has approved a hideous caricature of a character, look aren't they racist for letting it in - or it doesn't, at which point they won't approve a black character, look aren't they racist for not letting it in.
I don't believe that app was made in good faith.
I call this having a mind like a cat on a hot tin roof.
The first roster I picked up on Arx was unambiguously bi and hasn't yet been mentioned. I definitely played Dycard that way, too.
@JinShei To be fair, the American standard pancake does seem to be a bit more complicated than ours.
@Tinuviel There's plenty of anti-Pole sentiment from the Russian side, too.
@Auspice If I'm writing a book, I can get people to help make sure I haven't screwed up. By the time anyone can check that in RP, it's too late.
I tend to play things I think I understand or can reasonably extrapolate. I understand or can reasonably extrapolate the experiences of white men and white women in the UK across many time periods, sexualities, etc. I can reasonably extrapolate on a more narrow basis for a few other backgrounds and cultures, too, either because I have enough data points, or because no-one who isn't an expert has enough data points to say I'm too far off base.
I don't have enough data points to extrapolate for a not-white character of US descent in the modern era. I just don't. There's a whole lived experience I don't have, and if I have no starting point I won't learn anything in the process. I barely have enough data points for a white character of US descent, never mind a non-white one.
MMOs, though? I've developed a habit of playing darker-skinned characters in the last year or so. Because fuck it, why not.
Great. Now my subconscious is working on structural designs for corsets for the well-endowed, as well as on cheapo insulation monitors, sound as a form of fault detection, and a new form of wind turbine.
I love you and I hate you all.
Kestrel. Kestrels are the ones that hover like that.
@Rinel Speaking as someone who got a diagnosis for a different-but-related condition? I was fine that afternoon, but then it usually takes time for me to have these things sink on. It was the next day that it hit me, and it hit like a ton of bricks. Had to take a day off work, and everything.
@A-B said in Tips for not wearing out your welcome:
There's just too MUCH. Too many possible variables. I mean I see where you're coming from - but are you sure that asking what you did wrong or apologising is always a bad thing? (Faraday didn't seem to think the same. Is that conflicting data?)
Asking what you did wrong is not always a bad thing. Asking what you did wrong when you've just done it invariably irritates. Apologising isn't always a bad thing. Apologising and then doing what you just apologised for again tells people you don't actually give a shit, you're just putting a 'nice' coin in a slot, turning a handle, and hoping more 'nice' falls out.
Humans are complicated.
@A-B The most important thing in this world to learn is It's not always about you.
You can accept that you did something wrong without accepting that all the wrong is your fault.
When you accept that you did something wrong, part of taking responsibility for that is analysing it and working out what it was that you did wrong. The next part is trying to do better.
You made a mistake! Congratulations, you're human after all. Now work out what that mistake was and try not to do that again. Me, I have a long and convoluted script running inside my head for 'what not to do in X situation'.
And get help with this analysing stuff. Seriously. Find someone who'll help you pick apart what people were saying and what they were meaning, what you said and what other people assumed you meant, and just how it all came crashing and burning down around your ears. Other people do this shit instinctively, but we have to learn. The good news is that we can.
