Posts made by Rinel

@Derp

I'd actually be more okay with this situation except my boss is my friend from law school who has practiced for precisely one year longer than I have.

Things are awkward right now.

I snorted hard

No, boss, I did not put literally what you said in a motion to be passive aggressive and send it to you with nothing else. I did it because you told me that's what you wanted in the motion and I've never done it before.

Also why are you calling me at 8:30 PM on a Friday to tell me you are disappointed in my work quality?

Also why am I even accepting your calls

Anyone else worried about their parents getting covid-19? I mean, I don't relish rolling the 0.2% dice that is my age group, but my father is in the 10%+ bracket...

Thank God they both stopped smoking decades ago.

Now I'm curious. I realize there are confounding factors here, but do any of you who don't do the picture thing enjoy the building aspects of games like Minecraft?

@RightMeow said in A Lack of Imagination:

I've always been told that I'm a 'visual person' because I have to draw things out to 'see' them. I have to have them on paper.

I can imagine a 3D shape in my mind and rotate it to view all sides. If you can't, then there's probably something different in the way we think.

@Roz said in A Lack of Imagination:

I don't have the voice in my head, though. Like, the idea of that is honestly HUGELY WEIRD for me to consider. WHY DO YOU HAVE AN INTERNAL NARRATOR?! My thought process all feels a lot more abstract. Like, feelings and impressions and such.

I don't have an internal narrator. I am the internal narrator.

@Auspice

Faces I remember very well. Names are a perennial nightmare.

@Auspice

I do have to be thinking about it. I misplace stuff pretty frequently. But if I'm devoting thought to it, even if it's just "I'm putting this here for tomorrow morning," then it's super unlikely I'll forget it.

@Jeshin

I wish. No, while I can visualize the concept of walking through rows of file cabinets, I don't remember things like that. Like, I'll remember studying for the bar a few years back and standing barefoot on the edge of the bricks at the front of my house because the driveway was too pebbly and uncomfortable while I was talking about mortgages with my friend, and it was probably about 3 or so in the afternoon because of where the shadows were, and the shade was cool and there was a very slight breeze, I think from the south. And when I was taking the bar exam that's how I remembered the timelines for mortgages.

My memories of things are basically a recreation of everything that was going on that I take relevant info from, but they aren't organized like the mind palace is.

ETA: I guess I don't really have the capacity for memories that are restricted solely to information, until they get to the point where it's just thoughtless knowledge. Even then, if I'm thinking about something I know well, like Strickland v. Washington, I'll have the two prongs of the test floating visually in my mind. Things I don't remember perfectly, like 28 USC 2254 and 2255 (just working on a case involving 2255), I remember the Cornell website and layout that I learned the law from.

I have, well, not hyperphantasia, since that's not a real thing, but I'm only a few stops down the line from eidetic memory. I can usually recall exactly where in a paragraph or on a page something I read was, and when I did the "imagine a ball" test I not only had the image of the pink rubber ball in my mind, but its texture (eraser-like) and its smell. Same with the wood grain of the table it was on (rough, unpolished, no lacquer).

A weird maybe side effect is that imaginary places are structurally related to real places in my memory. This is actually one of the reasons I like Arx so much. I get a seed of description and it explodes into vividness. The Great Cathedral of Arx is a combination of my childhood church and, oddly enough, Bath Abbey. Rinel's house is, I just realized while typing this, a version of my kindergarten art room, down to the location of the door and windows. The Queensrest is, amusingly enough, a hyper swanked up version of a dingy seafood joint in town.

This is probably why the confusion over what "open air" means w/r/t temples drives me absolutely mad.

This sort of stuff also leads to weird things like the Shrine of Petrichor and the Shrine of Tehom being OBVIOUSLY to the left as you head towards the Lowers, while the shrine to the Lost and to the Sentinel are OBVIOUSLY to the right.

I have to work on Mardi Gras.

This should be illegal

@tek said in The Work Thread:

I feel useless and worthless.

Your worth is not defined by your job.

Your worth is not defined by your job.

Your worth is not defined by your job.

You are a funny, kind, and creative person who has improved my life simply because I have communicated with you over an extended make-believe session. As my therapist once told me: who the hell do you think you are to pass that sort of judgment on yourself?

I mean we aren't a monolith, but pretty much all trans people just want to live their lives. Just introduce her as ms. whoever, treat her like Ms. whoever, discipline people who are transphobic. Let her know that you don't expect there to be any trouble but that you want to know if there is, because you take discrimination and bigotry seriously.

@Auspice said in Buying Shit:

But here's the thing about women's clothes: they aren't made to fit common body shapes either. They design to 'thin with slight curves' and then just add fabric for larger sizes. So if you're flat? Stuff won't fit right. If you've got an ass or if you're curvy? Stuff won't fit right.

Yeah but it looks nice

@Derp

Ain't nobody in the States wearing colored shirts other than point collars or buttoned ones. If you're looking at fancier stuff, you're wearing a white shirt with a suit.

Meanwhile there's stuff like THIS http://imgur.com/a/fpuChfY

ETA: yes those are my measurements yes i am a board no i am not buying that dress yes i very mich want to

ETA2: WEAR THE CUFFLINKS YOUR FATHER GAVE YOU

@GreenFlashlight said in Buying Shit:

What did you find sucky about it, though?

Button down

Button down

Button down, but checkered

Button down

Jacket

Jacket

Jacket but with pinstripes

Jacket

Grey suit

Grey suit

Navy suit

Black suit

Black suit but with pinstripes

Ties were, like, the only remotely interesting thing to buy.

Women's sizing is absurd, yeah, but again: eShakti

ETA: @Auspice men's clothing looks awful if it's not tailored.

While I still haven't gotten into shoes...

Y'all. The whole "guys don't like clothes shopping" thing? I lived as a guy for 28 years. It's not a guy thing. It's a men's clothing sucks thing.

On a somewhat extremely related note I need to uninstall the eShakti app from my phone before I bankrupt myself on dresses and blouses

@Admiral

I'm so sorry. Are you okay?

@Admiral said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

I ask this as a non religious person but... Pray for me. Please.

There are a lot of people doing that for you right now. There will be even more doing that tomorrow. You have a lot of good vibes incoming.

Keep your head above water. This, too, will pass. I've been there. I know how it feels. It gets better.