This is a really enragingly bad video & I've deleted it from my watch history because youtube's algorithm already subjects me to too much puerile whining from gamers who think they've been wounded by the existence of perspectives outside their own.
It's just not that hard to communicate with the players you're at the table with, be it a tabletop table or a MUSH table, about their comfort levels.
I'm impressed with all of you sharing your stories. I'm sorry I don't really feel comfortable enough with mine to share it in a broad way right now. I have a weird diagnosis that is neither fish nor fowl and the short version is that I am frustrated about it. I'm being treated instead for the concomitant depression and anxiety that come with being an untreated neurodevelopmental problem. 
I have played bigoted characters before. It was in an acknowledged way that recognized that bigotry OOC, though, written into part of his concept. I wanted him to be able to work towards development on-camera and eventually change over time, and in some ways he grew; in other ways I'm not sure it ever got addressed in part because the game in question ended but it was an important part of his arc.
I think that one of the most important things about playing any kind of asshole who has the capacity to be hurtful to other characters is to double down on being nice OOC while you're doing it. If you can't do this, you shouldn't be playing an asshole in my opinion.
That said, if you're going to give people a lot of IC shit for things your character is bigoted about -- race, sexuality, whatever -- you absolutely should not be flinging it at them in metaposes. It must be respondable. There should be a very clear IC/OOC divide about where the stuff begins and ends. And if someone really is OOC uncomfortable with it, keep it out of their face.
I have no need to force someone who deals with this shit OOC on a day to day basis to deal with it in a game if they aren't up for it. It's all about being sensitive to the collaborative nature of what we're playing here.
What you've described is very different from how jury trials work, too. But even in the bizarre world where that's a jury trial, lemme explain something here.
Trial by jury exists to ensure fairness in fact finding beyond a reasonable doubt. Reasonable doubt exists as a standard of proof because of the belief that restriction of personal liberty is the hardest thing a government should ever be able to do to an individual person.
To compare "not being able to play on a game anymore" to the restriction of fundamental personal liberty in real life goes beyond myopic to actually offensive. I'm gonna be in a jury trial next week to defend a person who is accused of ending the life of another human being. He's facing years in prison. That justifies the tremendous effort and expense of a jury trial.
No one, in the history of justice, would call a jury trial "efficient". It is one of the least efficacious ways of administering justice there is. Because the rights at stake are so important. Human rights are important so we sacrifice efficiency in favor of protecting them.
You know what isn't an important right?
The privilege of playing a pretendy game on someone else's server.
Misbehaving on a game doesn't entitle you to a jury trial. This is similar to misbehaving in a restaurant and being told to leave. You know those signs that say "we reserve the right to refuse service to anyone"? Totes legal. And when you harass another customer and get thrown out of the restaurant, there's no appeal because this is a free goddamn country and that's a private business.
I see a whole lot of arguing against what no one is saying on this thread.
It is fine to have a concern about a thing you observe and to check in with a person accordingly.
It is fine to play IC creepers and many of us do so.
Obviously, you don't start a crusade against a person based on some poses you didn't like without any other evidence.
Is anyone actually disagreeing with any of this?
@groth You have no idea what someone else is feeling; you don't know their trauma or their disorders. You can only interact with them according to your own capacity. Your assumptions here about the suffering of others are frustrating because many, many people on this forum struggle with various kinds of disorder.
Empathy does not require commonality of experience - it is empathy. I can respect, even understand, the feelings and emotions of someone different from me without experiencing them. Many people have great capacity for empathy and imagination. When I can't, I can recognize the limits of my own perceptions and still recognize the validity of their emotions and feelings.
I can empathize with another person whose struggle is wildly different from my own. That empathy does not require that I twist myself into a pretzel trying to subordinate my needs to theirs.
It's not anyone's job but my own to manage my mental health. And in my experience, people attempting to use MU** as their therapeutic outlet - it's as unhealthy for them as for everyone around them. It not only isn't fair to the rest of the game, it doesn't work.
@silenthills man get your passive aggressive stuff out of the genuine positivity thread come onnnnnn we have a whole hog pit for this
I guess I've never done one of these.
FORMER:
Harper's Tale: Janysi, Araamis, Inamorata, Mnemosyne, Dashvard, Saohlai/Sao
VirtuaPern: C'dien
There were some other people on some other Pern games but I have forgotten them ...
HogwartsMUSH(I think?): Mustrum Wallace
X-Men Movieverse: John Grey, Ellen Dramstadt, Percy Talhurst, Jeremy Wallace, Storm/Ororo Munroe, Wanda Maximoff/Scarlet Witch, Sam Sikorski, Tom Sikorski, Ilad Tal-Shachar (look this was over a long period of time okay); Viola (staff alt)
Firan: Inut, Malatan, Alora, Alarus, Lemachus, Nazina, various others that I no longer remember, aka Eliza/VanillaBuilder
Kushiel's-- ? shit, I forget the name. The Kushiel game I played on! You know!: Thierry, Anna
Steel & Stone: Dmitry Terrick
Second Pass: P'lo, L'lei, Tzaya
Alpha & Omega: Narath, Scipia, Thierry, Christophe, Iko, Sao (staff alt)
Transformers: Robots in Disguise: Breakdown, Ultra Magnus, Chromia, A'Tuin (staff alt)
XFNYC: Jeremy Wallace, Eleanor Rutledge, Sao (staff alt)
Fear & Loathing: Sasha
NOLA: Proux
Valorous Dominion: Beatrice
Sometimes a Great Notion: Beryn Ciro
Transformerrs: Lost & Found: Ultra Magnus, Breakdown, Gearstrip, Whisper, Sao (staff alt)
CURRENT
Arx (current): Aureth, Pietro (rip -- i miss you babe), Tikva
Spirit Lake: Dominica, JC
The Network: Ivan
Hello!
@kanye-qwest I also think "don't take it on yourself to publicly white knight for people who don't put on their big girl pants" would be a good lesson to take from this whole deal.
MU things I love includes players who take negative consequences for their character and immediately turn them into more story -- and immediately reach out to others -- without dissolving into tears, recriminations and blame.
As an anxiety patient who takes medication ... it may not work for everyone but sometimes the self help style solutions are simply not enough if your brain is that much of a jerk. Don't underestimate how shitty your own brain can make you feel or punish yourself for having disordered thoughts when there are potential constructive options out there for getting help. Gaming is social and a lot of the ways that socially anxious people interact with it are self-defeating.
I play on games that routinely post smut with tagged warnings. I have no objection to smut I wrote being shared. In my experience all of this is less weird if people just stop being weird about it.
Actors in television and film who step aside because they are white is very, very different from anything being discussed here. Actors in television and film are involved in actual representation, not virtual representation. Everything in MU** is made up. No actual Black people, for example, will be denied a job if someone changes a Black character to a character with a white PB. That doesn't mean that I will feel OK about it happening, but it's still a different scenario.
Everyone else is having this discussion in good faith.
Oh my God an Oglaf game with cumsprites for messengers would be amazing.
I love when you get a new player who out of nowhere turns out to be SUPER COOL and ENGAGED WITH THE GAME'S STORY RIGHT AWAY. Where were you hiding before, new person??
I GET TO BE MEDICATED FINALLY OMG
I used to have more sympathy for this argument, that my character just wouldn't do this that or the other thing, but meh. Take responsibility for your preferences. You wrote the damn character.
There are lots of things my characters will or won't do but if it's inconvenient to the RP, if I can't find a way to make it work, isn't that my responsibility to deal with and not the other players'?
THEY ARE THE CHARACTERS. YOU ARE THE AUTHOR. YOU OUTRANK THEM.
A lot of the times PCs try to bone the npc either because they have a story goal that relates to it or they think the npc is hot. I usually ftb when npc fucking because who even has the time, but I often ftb when PC fucking for the same reason. No more TS for me, I'm old and I go to bed early.
I'm not going to shut down players from the sexy avenue because I'm scared of what people will think, tho.
HONESTLY the puritans have so much to answer for.
