Best posts made by Too Old For This

@silverfox Yeah, we had the meeting to 'update' his IEP, but its like... the things he needs he still can't get because they refuse to acknowledge that he needs in-person assistance despite his IEP stating that pretty clearly.

@aria So I am someone who also stresses over whether or not things are going good enough that I have a chance at the job I've applied for. But then, I also remember... people who aren't interested in you professionally don't tend to reach back out. Or at best, they'll send you a form letter/email/voicemail stating that they thank you for your time but they've decided to move in a different direction or are pursuing other candidates. So I would take any sort of personal response as a good sign.

@wretched Yeah, I used to get accused of that when I worked retail. While actively holding up a display for another associate to fix into place so it will stop falling over every time a customer touches it.

@auspice Yours look almost exactly like mine! XD One big fat white/tabby and one skinny black (well dark brown in my case). And yes, the 20 lb asshole wants me to hold and cuddle and scritch his butt all day long. And if I do not, he will go loudly complain to my housemate.

Know what sucks? Being braindead and wanting to go to sleep... and then realizing that the insomnia is biting hard tonight and sleep will not be coming for a good long while, but even a movie seems too much effort. I truly understand the Norman Sigh now. For it echoes within me.

@testament I have my son return the cart.

@faraday It leaves others feeling put-upon and unappreciated and overworked. Why is the cart-pushers issue any less valid than yours? It might be a big deal, but its still something that can be accomplished. As you said, empathy works both ways, but you're only asking for empathy on your end. You're expecting the worker to just 'suck it up' so that you don't have to.

@wretched said in The ADD/ADHD Thread (cont'd from Peeves):

Double this when the 'hi' comes in text form and you're overanalyzing if they used or didn't use capitalization or punctuation because both will change the tone of the message to you.

@tinuviel I will stay up here in icy, snowy, no snake land. And toast you with my coffee and crackling fire.

@silverfox My son's school is actually going to have one when in-school teaching resumes in Feb. An emotional support dog who will be kept in a specific area (so kids with allergies or fears won't be put in his sphere) and kids that just need a few minutes can go cuddle a dog.

@nyctophiliac YES. Trying to shop through Amazon this last year has been PAINFUL. Buying eight things just to send seven of them back because I can't stand the way they feel or the fit is 'wrong'. Clothes shopping was always a nightmare, but doubly so now that I can't just go to the store and touch everything to find out what's okay. The skinny jeans trend made me straight up cry because its one of my 'never wear this ever' things.

Sadly, most of my 'comfort zone' clothes actually fall into men's clothing, because they use common sense when making them.

@wretched All of these, so much. I'm struggling extra hard with 1, 2, 4, and 6 right now because I'm sick. So everything has been amplified, because even though I'm sick I feel like I should be doing more. Those dishes should have been washed two days ago. The floor needed vacuuming but standing up hurts right now. I'm sleeping when I know I should be doing laundry but I can't seem to do anything but sit at my PC until the pain drives me back to bed.

Or the person cooking could just... cook. And let the person not cooking enjoy a well-earned respite from anything cooking-adjacent.

@sunny Having spoken to my mom, who is the most executive functional minded person I can think of, apparently the running playlist at the back of the head is actually an ADD thing. She seemed surprised to find out that I can a constant stream of favorite songs and scores that run through my head. And then asked me how I managed to get anything done with that. And then I had to explain to her that the music is what allows me TO function. That without it the thoughts and ideas and anxieties will pile up faster than Bellatrix Lestrange's vault at Gringots.

And then I had to explain the reference.

@macha I can't do anything else. I went through the exact same thing when I was his age. I was told I was brilliant, tested high all around... but my grades suffered because I never turned in homework. In class, while engaged WITH the class, I was fine. But as soon as it went to 'quiet work time'... out came the books, the headphones (walkman at first, portable cd player after that). I was constantly in trouble for being 'lazy' or 'unmotivated' and 'not living up to my potential'. I would also skip classes that I deemed 'unnecessary'. Like chemistry. Science and I have a LONG mutual hatred of one another. I refused to take PE and got an academic waiver, loaded up on stuff like accounting classes, computer classes, technical drawing courses. Things that might actually be useful to me in life. I was 2 courses shy of graduation at the end of my sophomore year despite everything.

School has changed. My son doesn't have the opportunities in his school system I did in mine. This schooling from home has hurt him so much academically. PE is no longer a required, full-time course he can opt out of in favor of something that might be more beneficial to him. I get it. I hate that he's stuck in this. I hate that he's being forced into this by an antiquated school system. So I do everything I can to advocate for him, to stand up for him.

@faraday Thankfully mine is in high school, so his zoom meetings demand a level of attention and response. But yeah, as soon as it moves to 'work time', he just sort of zones, or starts playing a game. And I don't know how to help him engage in the work.

@crawfish Of course! ^_^

And instead of doing any of the things on the wheel, you spend 8 hours staring at a video game*, having made almost no progress despite the time that has elapsed.

• video game being interchangeable with pretty much anything that should have a productivity level or emotional/logical resonance to it. i.e. binged a show, worked on a project, etc.

@crawfish SO AWESOME!

@crawfish Everyone I've spoken to has said that they've had to call off or call out after the second shot because of how they felt. I'm wondering if the Johnson & Johnson one is any better since I've only heard from people who got the Pfizer vaccine.