Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff

Arkandel · Oct 26, 2019, 10:45 PM

@surreality I'm really sorry to hear that :<

Rinel · Oct 26, 2019, 11:30 PM

I am going to a costume party hosted by close friends and family.

I'm "dressed up" as a woman.

internal screaming

surreality · Oct 28, 2019, 10:39 PM

Our sadness over kitty is one thing.

Tesla -- our remaining kitty -- being the soul of sadness over her sister no longer being with us? Is truly breaking my heart.

She has always been our most social and affectionate kitty, and for her to be the last kitty standing is... oof. Oof, y'all.

When we adopted her and her sister at 3-5 years old -- we still don't know, nor did they -- we were told she hates people. Is antisocial. Will barely let you pet her, and don't even dream of picking her up. 'Should be considered purely decorative and will spend most of her time hiding.'

Wow, were they ever wrong.

She's the dearest trilly cuddleflouf ever, and seeing her like this is just... oof.

Macha · Oct 29, 2019, 4:01 AM

I just found out a long time friend, once bestie, just lost her fiance. No when/why/how. I don't know if there was an accident, if she got hurt or anything. I am so not good at this. It's okay to just message her and ask if she's okay and make sure she knows she can call me if she needs to, right? I don't have to ask anything else or anything, right? (yes. Anxiety is a bitch)

Auspice · Oct 31, 2019, 3:11 PM

well.
I was looking forward to finally getting a full allergy workup done.

But I don't got $2k.
damn 'out of pocket' shit.

Rinel · Oct 31, 2019, 3:26 PM

@Macha said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

It's okay to just message her and ask if she's okay and make sure she knows she can call me if she needs to, right? I don't have to ask anything else or anything, right? (yes. Anxiety is a bitch)

Yes. It is more than okay to do this, but absolutely make sure that when she calls, you are available to speak with her.

If you live close by, waiting about a week or two for the flood of food to die down and then delivering some easily frozen, easily reheated meals will be amazing (if drowning the bereaved in food is not a tradition outside of the American South, make it one! It's a huge load off of people who are struggling, and it's a sign of caring).

ETA:

@Auspice said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

well.
I was looking forward to finally getting a full allergy workup done.

But I don't got $2k.
damn 'out of pocket' shit.

I feel you. An unexpected medical bill from an unexpected hospital visit months ago popped up, and while I feel Very Adult and Proud that I could immediately pay it, I now feel Very Adult and Sad that I am completely fucking broke.

Auspice · Oct 31, 2019, 3:32 PM

@Rinel said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

I feel you. An unexpected medical bill from an unexpected hospital visit months ago popped up, and while I feel Very Adult and Proud that I could immediately pay it, I now feel Very Adult and Sad that I am completely fucking broke.

I'm roughly $500 (might be closer to 600 tbh) down just the past 3 weeks from doctor and car shit. I had a healthy savings. I do not anymore. $:\$

JinShei · Nov 1, 2019, 8:26 AM

Anxiety. That sudden response to nothing where your body goes on alert, and you just feel like you are about to die. Out of the blue. No reason. 24 hours and counting for NO REASON. Fuck you, brain, fuck you.

Wretched · Nov 1, 2019, 9:28 AM

@JinShei Mt condolences, been similar. Hang tough. NKOTB

JinShei · Nov 1, 2019, 10:41 AM

@Wretched said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

@JinShei Mt condolences, been similar. Hang tough. NKOTB

Saw therapist. Turns out a lot of her patients are rocking up like this because... Brexit. And medications.

I am not alone,... Yay?

Wretched · Nov 1, 2019, 10:43 AM

@JinShei Trump is doing it to us out here. It's exhausting.

JinShei · Nov 1, 2019, 11:30 AM

@Wretched said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

@JinShei Trump is doing it to us out here. It's exhausting.

Just the perpetual terror of what might happen, calculating supplies, and just background rationalisation! I'm considering saving up for a boat, and going to be a nomad... Perhaps a yellow submarine

Auspice · Nov 1, 2019, 1:43 PM

@JinShei

All the hugs.
Anxiety is the worst.
I recommend tea and puppy slobber.

JinShei · Nov 1, 2019, 1:43 PM

@Auspice said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

@JinShei

All the hugs.
Anxiety is the worst.
I recommend tea and puppy slobber.

I'll take that, and added a top up of chocolate and West Wing.

Rinel · Nov 4, 2019, 7:22 AM

I went to bed last night really excited for today. It's one of those two or three weeks of wonderful weather that we get in Louisiana per year. I had so many ideas. Maybe I'd even get out of the house and go to a coffee shop to work on nanowrimo!

Enter depression.
Followed by dysphoria.
Followed, of course, by anxiety, because why should I power through the depression by getting out of the house.
Even OCD has made a rare but entirely unwelcome appearance.

I want to take the week off and drink hot chocolate and cry.

JinShei · Nov 4, 2019, 7:22 AM

@Rinel said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

I went to bed last night really excited for today. It's one of those two or three weeks of wonderful weather that we get in Louisiana per year. I had so many ideas. Maybe I'd even get out of the house and go to a coffee shop to work on nanowrimo!

Enter depression.
Followed by dysphoria.
Followed, of course, by anxiety, because why should I power through the depression by getting out of the house.
Even OCD has made a rare but entirely unwelcome appearance.

I want to take the week off and drink hot chocolate and cry.

Argh that is grim, and unfair in contrast to the night before I'm sorry, mate.

Rinel · Nov 4, 2019, 7:42 AM

@JinShei

Thanks. Hopefully tomorrow will be better! At least I hit 5k on nanowrimo, so I'm on track.

silverfox · Nov 4, 2019, 11:59 AM

I'm 99% sure that I've caught strep... again. My last bout was two months ago. I've taught for 9 years and worked with kids in summer camp/ volunteering for 7 years before that. I NEVER got sick.

Apparently this is just my year.

Thank God for tylenol and ibuprofen. The worst thing about strep is that it makes every part of my body ache like someone has been drumming on it till it resonates with a return beat. I was all set to just curl in a ball all night till I remembered that last time the doc told me to alternate tylenol and ibuprofen every three hours or so. Still hurts, but nothing I can't ignore. I just hope it doesn't mess with the tests.

magee101 · Nov 4, 2019, 1:31 PM

Howdy, how's everyone doing, looks like some are okay and other suffering, it also took a really long time to read this thread.

So I'm a person some of you may recognize, others maybe not so much, at the end of the day mostly I've been dealing with pinched nerves up and down my back for the last two years and the last six months my SI started getting pinched up as well and I've been near hobbling almost wheel chair bound during that time. Hence why I've been cropping back up here, because.. I ain't got much else I can do anymore.

Healthcare in America sucks, and I'm poor and I cannot get assistance anymore due to policy changes, nor can I work to afford the healthcare to get fixed. So there's that! So, welcome back to MU'ing for me!

Ganymede · Nov 4, 2019, 1:31 PM

@magee101 said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

So I'm a person some of you may recognize, others maybe not so much, at the end of the day mostly I've been dealing with pinched nerves up and down my back for the last two years and the last six months my SI started getting pinched up as well and I've been near hobbling almost wheel chair bound during that time. Hence why I've been cropping back up here, because.. I ain't got much else I can do anymore.

Don't take this the wrong way, but for the reasons above I am not happy that you've returned.

I sincerely hope that you receive the care you need soon, so that you can get back to doing what you want to.

Otherwise, welcome back, and this is the right thread to discuss medical stuff.