Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.

[Ghost]

@Arkandel said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

Pet peeve: Couples sharing their social media accounts. The "Nick and Laura" Facebook page kinda deals.

Ugggggggggghhhhhhhh those are the worst, because I always kinda feel like that happens because one of the two wants to monitor the other's activity.

[Aria]

@Ghost said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

@Arkandel said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

Pet peeve: Couples sharing their social media accounts. The "Nick and Laura" Facebook page kinda deals.

Ugggggggggghhhhhhhh those are the worst, because I always kinda feel like that happens because one of the two wants to monitor the other's activity.

I've usually seen it happen with the aforementioned old couples and also with middle-aged couples where the husband absolutely gives no shits about social media, like, at all and his wife is using it for keeping up with social calendars scheduled via FB or discussion groups for their kid's school or whatever.

Which still weirds me out because like.... yes, Brenda. We all know you're carrying the mental/emotional load here. No one thinks that the birthday message came from Fred and we all know that asshole never looks at this, or remembers when parent-teacher conferences are, and is just going to tell us he "needs to check in with the wifey, haha!" if we ask him about next Saturday's barbecue. It's fine. It's fine. Stop making this more awkward than it already is.

[ZekeTheG33k]

@Ghost said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

@Arkandel said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

Pet peeve: Couples sharing their social media accounts. The "Nick and Laura" Facebook page kinda deals.

Ugggggggggghhhhhhhh those are the worst, because I always kinda feel like that happens because one of the two wants to monitor the other's activity.

This happened with my Sister-in-law. Her boyfriend at the time was demanding access to all of her accounts, they had been together for nearly 13 years. We discovered some bad shit about him and he's out of the picture, but he used to get pissed off when we would say "Not talking to you asshole, mind your business." Then he would block her brother or mother on Facebook, only to make her have to go back in and unblock them.

[Auspice]

The one example of this (shared acct) that I know in my extended family is my uncle. He made one for him and my aunt to engage with his grandkids and ... well he keeps hoping he'll get great-nieces and nephews but there's me and my siblings (and we're all too fucked up to have healthy relationships sorry uncle Doug) and the next oldest set are still teenagers themselves.

Poor guy went hard at grandad mode. He loves being a grandad. He loves having a huge family.

I don't mind it though. He's actually the best relative I have and the first time I got to see him post-divorce and having him open up to me about HIS divorce (which I HAD NEVER KNOWN ABOUT BEFORE I NEVER KNEW HE HAD A WIFE BEFORE MY AUNT HOORAY FAMILY SECRETS) was probably the thing that set me best on my path to healing. He's the family member who has always been the most uplifting, most vocally proud, so y'know what? Get on with your shared-account-grandad-self.
(Both his daughters live in another state and are big instagram users for posting photos of their kids, so I know that's why he did it.)

[Ganymede]

@Seamus said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

Her boyfriend at the time was demanding access to all of her accounts, they had been together for nearly 13 years.

I think we can all agree that this is horribly abusive.

You have no right to access your significant other's personal accounts. None.

Your spouse is entitled to privacy. Period.

If your spouse is not forthright about how or where they spend their time, that is an issue; however, that issue may and should be resolved in ways that does not require them to give up their privacy. It is theirs inasmuch as their body is theirs.

I wish people had more dignity than turning themselves into simpering, sniveling cowards, but here we are.

[Ghost]

@Ganymede said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

I wish people had more dignity than turning themselves into simpering, sniveling cowards, but here we are.

Uh-oh.

[ZekeTheG33k]

@Ganymede said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

@Seamus said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

Her boyfriend at the time was demanding access to all of her accounts, they had been together for nearly 13 years.

I think we can all agree that this is horribly abusive.

You have no right to access your significant other's personal accounts. None.

Your spouse is entitled to privacy. Period.

If your spouse is not forthright about how or where they spend their time, that is an issue; however, that issue may and should be resolved in ways that does not require them to give up their privacy. It is theirs inasmuch as their body is theirs.

I wish people had more dignity than turning themselves into simpering, sniveling cowards, but here we are.

I couldn't agree more. When I first joined the family over 10 years ago, she was.... shall we say in need of some help. With some careful guidance and encouragement, she went from a person who had no drivers permit, to someone who finally got herself a job, a high school diploma, a job, her own car, and some savings. The destructive influence of her ex still lingers as we are having to do with the psychological fall out on the children, but I am sure, given time, they too will become productive members of society.

All though the youngest one is a wild child, so we always say "Saving for both college and bail bondsmen" where she's concerned.

[Ghost]

It's unfortunate and all, and it sucks when someone gets reduced to that, but I think it's more apt to rage at the people who abuse people to that degree more than get annoyed with them for being sniveling cowards and all...

[ZekeTheG33k]

@Ghost said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

It's unfortunate and all, and it sucks when someone gets reduced to that, but I think it's more apt to rage at the people who abuse people to that degree more than get annoyed with them for being sniveling cowards and all...

Well his current release date is 2045. So I am satisfied he will learn his lesson.

[Ganymede]

@Ghost said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

It's unfortunate and all, and it sucks when someone gets reduced to that, but I think it's more apt to rage at the people who abuse people to that degree more than get annoyed with them for being sniveling cowards and all...

I'm not sure if you understood what I was saying, but I was saying that people who invade others' privacy are sniveling cowards who we should rage at.

[Ghost]

@Ganymede aaaaaaaaaaaaaah gotcha. When I read it it looked like it went one way, then I reread it and I see that. Derp.

For a moment I was like "Run for your life, Gany"

[Ganymede]

@Ghost said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

For a moment I was like "Run for your life, Gany"

It wasn't clearly communicated, I'll admit. The misreading became evident with the comment before. Sorry about that.

[Ghost]

@Ganymede All good. I'm A-OK. Thanks for the clarification

[Macha]

@surreality I love that house. Some of the decor choices are weird as hell which makes me think haunted - like the rocking horse at the top of the stairs on the ledge with no railing? Haunted.

I still want to win the lottery and buy it and live in the guest house.

[surreality]

@Macha I have to go to the next dental surgery appointment tomorrow, which seriously sucks... but that place is right on the way there, so I think I'm gonna make my husband drive past it so I can swoon at it anyway. Because that would make dental hell suck way less.

[Macha]

@surreality I admit I would sage the fuck out of the place and tell ghosts to fuck off for some of those old fashioned tubs. -swoon-

[surreality]

@Macha With the way my luck has gone with places I've lived, I'd do that anywhere I end up.

Admittedly, the place I lived that had the most business being haunted... totally wasn't. I did get cheap rent because of its history, though! And it was a gorgeous apartment.

The person before me was the first to rent it after an incident, and it had sat vacant for a year in a college town with awful places 1/3 its size going for a lot more than it did even when it got to me.

[Macha]

@surreality To quote a classic. "I ain't scared o' no ghost."

I'm not, either. I've lived places 'known' to be haunted. I believe in ghosts, as well. There was one that I was told about - how they'd just make noise. I would just yell 'Stop it, shut up, I'm concentrating here.'

[surreality]

@Macha My folks' house is super trippy, and I've had weirdness wherever I live. It just doesn't tend to bother me for much the same reasons.

I have known people more seriously messed with, so I have some caution, and there are places I've been I would not go back to... I just kinda have the same 'take zero shit from dead folk' attitude. I'll respect them -- I observe a not-any-specific-tradition 'respect the grancestors day' every year as well -- but I expect them to respect me, too.

The folks' house has messed with some of my friends, though. That I have little patience for. Partly it's them being not accustomed to it, but I grew up in that house for most of my life, so it's just normal to me.

[Macha]

@surreality So when we win the lotto - we buy haunted house. I call the Carriage house, yo lol