@too-old-for-this I am sorry you did not have a choice, when you were 16.
I am grateful you now have a choice, and you decided to be AWESOME to your kid.
I never stopped hearing about how 'lucky' I was to have somewhere to live, something to eat, etc. How I should be 'glad' I wasn't being 'worked as hard' as people my dad knew growing up. (No kidding, my dad used to tell me I was lucky we had a washer and dryer in the house, as my bio mom at the same age - had to take her stuff to the laundromat).
Irony? My parents used money from my bank account at times, to pay for their cars, the mortgage, etc. Yes, the social security checks from when my bio mom died were meant to take care of me. But they'd put what was left every so often in a bank account, and then crack into it later for things... while spending plenty o' money on cigarettes, and drinking, etc.
Same people that wouldn't fill out financial aid paperwork for me so I could apply to college. Because I didn't 'deserve' to go to college, I hadn't 'applied' myself enough in school. (Hello, untreated ADHD)