I'm playing a gay Shadowhunter. And I'm perfectly fine with getting flak for it ICly by other Shadowhunters. Maybe less so from the younger PCs (that was mentioned in the show) but definitely from the Clave which is, basically, old fashioned patriarchy. Raziel went out of his way to make sure I knew it was not accepted ICly and that I would be okay with that.
@Auspice I even mentioned that to Raziel, that Cade would be willing to marry some lesbian and they'd both do their duty to keep the bloodlines going. Though with a tradition of arranged marriages, any woman would work and they could both have a guy on the side.
And I am uncomfortable with the contradictory messages of inclusiveness OOG but not IG. I think that you can have a very fine supernatural game full of conflict and high drama and plenty of actions without this needing to be a facet of these things.
it's the theme of the universe. I understand not wanting to go against theme and, in fact, agree with not doing so. It waters down the feel of the universe when you start changing things, even to make it more politically correct.
Edited to add: And he's not at all closeted. It's a family scandal that, I assume, most Shadowhunters know about given their small number and close connections.