Realms - Sir Kay - Lotherio

Lotherio

Its coming to my attention that there are a lot of rumors flying around about me and on-line dating and having a history of making games and dumping them and starting staff OOC drama.

You have me confused with other people and I keep having to explain myself to multiple people, many of them long time friends who hear these rumors now and raise an eyebrow at me. Please stop.

For a record of my staffing:

Current:

Coral Springs, ongoing since the close of Realms.

Past:

Realms Adventurous: Admin/Head, 4 months, Dec 2015-Mar 2016. An experiment and was pretty up front that it was a try at Pendragon in Mu* format. Couldn't continue the experiment, too much OOC drama coming to staff, asking us to fix relations between the players.
Marvel Untold/Age of Heros: 2 ~2012-~2014, off and on, I help with their wiki, I advise currently for their new incarnation, Marvel Reborn
Strife in the Age of Steam: 2013 or 2014? short lived steampunk project, only had 3 active players at its ends, and I as head was idle due to work related audits, host closed the server as no one was logging in a month later (I came back four weeks after being gone, hoping to try and relaunch it and boost activity finally, the 3 players left already)
Faction Head: Redemption., Mid to late 1st decade 2ks Redemption, Czeryn Faction - developed the faction theme from scratch with the three admin. I was not staff, had no relationships with staff (other than knowing one from Dragonlance Mux, and a slight knowing of Paradox from her staff time on the original Shadowrun Mu* (seattle, before Denver as even used in the 3rd ed). I started no drama with staff here, if this is the confusion that people are saying , this place died for other reasons. See the history of Crossroads for a fuller history, part of the falling out there came with staff.
Judge: Star Wars 1: ~2002-2004'ish?
Agent Thunder: ~1999-~2001? Erebus Sector - a cross between an old 80s game called Erebus Expanse and Star Wars
End of line - that's all my experience staffing

If you think I'm someone/staff from some other medieval game or something, by all means ask. But the above list is my history of staffing. I learned coding from the early days of Mus when everyone was given a quota and expected to contribute to the growth of a Mu, not from staffing at lots of places. I started on Star Trek: TOS in the days when a Mu* was seen as an educational environment and they used to bring on actors from TOS for fan Q&A, I was around for George Takei and Leonard Nimoy's visit to the games.

Whoever you have me confused with, I don't know, but please stop slandering me.

Three-Eyed Crow

I remember Strife in the Age of Steam. Sad it never took off (by the time I had the ability to sit down and make a character, its time had already passed).

There's a lot of staff/player-base incest (perhaps appropriately) in the Lords & Ladies genre of games that Realms Adventurous seems to have gotten lumped in with (maybe unfairly, from what I read it always seemed like you were at least trying to do something a little different). It's one of the things that made me cool on those games, I'll admit. Always felt like the same characters and drama just migrating around to new sites (this is not uncommon in genres of MU*s, I know).

This bs is never fun. Hope the back-talk ceases.

surreality

Haven't heard any of this, but I'm not actually playing anywhere at the moment. Sorry to hear it's happening, though, and hope it knocks off soon.

Misadventure

I haven't heard it either.

I would suggest that it is a conflation from Realms, or malice from there.

Lotherio

Thanks all, could just be genuine confusion too. But I'm here to clear it up if people want to ask my anything.

I miss Strife in the Age of Steam. Some love went in there, but niche theme too I think, hence low interest. The DB is still here, waiting for me to download it onto a server and hit ./restart ...

Arkandel

@Lotherio said in Realms - Sir Kay - Lotherio:

Its coming to my attention that there are a lot of rumors flying around about me and on-line dating and having a history of making games and dumping them and starting staff OOC drama.

Ethel Barrett once said, “We would worry far less about what others think of us if we realized how seldom they do.”

It is quite true.

Lotherio

@Arkandel said in Realms - Sir Kay - Lotherio:

@Lotherio said in Realms - Sir Kay - Lotherio:

Its coming to my attention that there are a lot of rumors flying around about me and on-line dating and having a history of making games and dumping them and starting staff OOC drama.

Ethel Barrett once said, “We would worry far less about what others think of us if we realized how seldom they do.”

It is quite true.

This doesn't stop the pages I keep getting asking if I did x, y, or z, of which I have noclue.

Misadventure

Perhaps if you aired the examples, or where they are supposed to have taken place, people here can correctly identify who they are talking about?

Also +finger may help: No I am not XX@blah place.

Cobalt

I'm super confused too! I hadn't heard anything.

mietze

It's easy to say "don't worry about what other people think," but the truth is when you land on a new mush, chat with people and the conversation moves to where else you've played, and then they say "oh shit! You are the person who forced rape play on someone I know and were skype sexing the head staff to get away with it and get bumped up stats!!!" When you did no such thing? It feels pretty gross. Horrible in fact. And people do not give others the benefit of the doubt, until the lies start about them. which if you're smart you're not around for! But it's still a really gross feeling.

Anyway, I concur: please state the incorrect rumors here. At least it's a record.

Lotherio

Here are the rumors that I am hearing:

I have a history of making games and leaving them shortly after their start.
I started another medieval game, and was involved with another staffer on this game and I caused so much OOC drama it caused some staff split or some such.
I specifically try to meet women through games and have a history of using them and leaving them in a purely online fashion (I don't know how that even works, but I've supposedly dated numerous girls and dumped them on-line).

I put them in order of concern, I don't want a reputation of making and leaving games before they get going, if I make something new I want people to try it and I want to play it. The staff drama too, if I offer someone to staff with me, I don't want them to think I'm a drama bomb. The dating stuff is just bizarre. I've made a few friends RL through this, that I can count on my hand, that knows my real name, I theirs and we stay in touch to keep up on each others lives. Most don't play are play limited and on other places these days, just friends.

Auspice

Based on those rumors, I know who people are confusing you with.

And I can confirm, for anyone reading this: he is definitely not.

Lotherio is awesome. I had a great concept on Strife in the Age of Steam, but between some RL issues and the fact that when I was able to be around, no one else was... alas. If it's ever revived, I'd love to pick my char up again.

TiredEwok

@Lotherio

Ah. I think I know who you're being confused for as well as far as the medieval game and the dating/staff split thing goes. I am sorry if what I am assuming is correct.

Sanguine

Wow. It sounds like you're being confused with my ex-husband and for that you have my deepest sympathies. Though to be honest you sound a a bit more intelligent.

deadculture

@Lotherio The dastardly Lotherio, crusher of hearts and the devourer of medieval games! Hark!

This, though:

@Lotherio said in Realms - Sir Kay - Lotherio:

I started another medieval game, and was involved with another staffer on this game and I caused so much OOC drama it caused some staff split or some such.

I specifically try to meet women through games and have a history of using them and leaving them in a purely online fashion (I don't know how that even works, but I've supposedly dated numerous girls and dumped them on-line).

What the fuck?

Cobalt

@Lotherio said in Realms - Sir Kay - Lotherio:

Here are the rumors that I am hearing:

I have a history of making games and leaving them shortly after their start.

At first I thought you were being confused with @tragedyjones
But then you said:

@Lotherio said in Realms - Sir Kay - Lotherio:

I started another medieval game, and was involved with another staffer on this game and I caused so much OOC drama it caused some staff split or some such.

I specifically try to meet women through games and have a history of using them and leaving them in a purely online fashion (I don't know how that even works, but I've supposedly dated numerous girls and dumped them on-line).

And now I have no clue who you are being confused with! But other people seem to know so, uh. Well. Sorry people are saying weird things about you.

Deleted

The same thing happens to me all the time. People constantly confuse me for other people.

I let them get me confused though. Because I'm a way bigger asshole than the people they think I am.

Alzie

I specifically try to meet women through games and have a history of using them and leaving them in a purely online fashion (I don't know how that even works, but I've supposedly dated numerous girls and dumped them on-line).

I don't know how this works either but that someone has a reputation for it gets filed away in the skills folder.

Lotherio

Thanks all, yeah its just confusing. I'm approachable, I don't try to hide anything about myself, I'm not trying to get on Catfish any time soon. I like to think its purely confusion, but if I did anything to upset someone ... well, still, I'm approachable.

Three-Eyed Crow

@Apu said in Realms - Sir Kay - Lotherio:

@Lotherio

Ah. I think I know who you're being confused for as well as far as the medieval game and the dating/staff split thing goes. I am sorry if what I am assuming is correct.

Oh God, he's not being confused with the crazy person who ran 'Game of Kings', is he? Because that would be horrific.