Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff
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@Macha Someone close to me lost their dog some time ago and ended up with a new one about a year later. She still grieves for the loss of her first dog. Doesn't mean she loves the new one any less. Each relationship is its own.
Also, I think it was kinder of Remy's first family to keep the older dog who'd have more trouble adjusting and letting the younger one go to a good home.
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So Remy is just.. destructo dog. I played ball. I played Tug, we went out 4 or 5 times. And he's still just.. destroying things. Specifically, plastic things, almost to exclusion.
I am at my wit's end. He chewed a plastic hanger to bits, while his big, gnaw worthy bone was less than 2 feet away.
Add in the fact my PCP contacted me to say my urine tests were problematic for kidney disease.. just shoot me now. Pls?
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@Macha IO know for cats, certain plastics have scents they just LURVE.
As for pet timing, I had to put down my Winston on XZmas eve many years ago, we got Lily on Jan 2, She's 6 now and the happiest cat ever, I loved Winston and remember that furball very fondly, but its isnt a replacement. Having someone there to take up all the love you have to give is healthy, expecially a good boy who needs the love. He can help you heal.
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@Wretched said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:
@Macha IO know for cats, certain plastics have scents they just LURVE.
Quoted for truth. I have a 19 year old cat that will actively seek out the plastic wrap from my paper towels or toilet paper, including ignoring the cat food.
I lost her brother 3 years ago. Undiagnosed heart condition, threw a clot, by the time we got to the vet it was in his lungs. Nothing we could do. 6 months later, I got George. George is now 15, a big puddle of purrs, and I am delighted to have him. He can't replace Val, nobody can replace Val. But he is his own delight and I'm never going to be sorry for getting him.
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If he can't learn when it is not okay to be 'talkative', it's going to be an issue (what with working from home for me and the roommate) . He can't be trusted if there are a roll of paper towels around. He wants to just.. chew on things, and I give him all the good things for him to chew, and he just.. ignores them for things he's been told not to chew on. His separation anxiety is possibly going to be a problem.
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He's what, a year old pit mix? They're giant balls of nervous energy. Those behavioral issues are pretty common for those kinds of dogs living in confined spaces where they don't have room to run. They need LOTS of exercise.
This is just how they are, until they're about 3. When he starts to chew on something that he isn't supposed to, use your markers (no, wrong, uh-uh, whatever), take it away, and replace it with something you do want him to chew on. If he's being overly vocal, there are other things you can do to work on that.
It might be challenging, but that's just their nature, and it's part of raising them. They're essentially toddlers with sharp teeth. They aren't going to be super chill. That's just how they do. THe best you can do is direct them to something productive with that energy, and it's even worse since you live in a small space. Not a bad place for dogs, but definitely going to lead to some behaviors that require a lot of supervision.
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@Derp No, he's almost 2.5. Will be in a month. And no, not all Pits are like that. In fact, the last 2 I had, were kinda couch potatoes. They /would/ run around and play.. and then pass out hard.
And I DO run him (though I am not running with him, because Ow.) I played with him for my entire lunch break today, making him chase the ball, back and forth and round and round. I got him doing the zoomies up and down the length of the apartment for 20 minutes. Right now? He's passed out on the floor, not far from my desk. But it doesn't stop the constant destructo.
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Okay, so I've had to keep Remy out in the living room with me when I work, usually leashed to me/my chair/my desk, so I can make sure he's not destroying things he should not. (I do not have a crate, that is being fixed today. Provided it gets here today.
My roommate, knowing I was going to get another dog, has had nothing but attitude since Remy came home. Now, Remy is higher energy than Logan. He is used to cats being used to him, so when he sees the cat, he wants to play. She complains about this. (The roommate, not the cat)
This morning, someone on the work crew was waving and making faces outside our patio door, and Remy was barking. So she started yelling at him. THEN she brings the cat out into the living room, where he's connected to my desk, and lets her wander around, despite the fact he is going wild - making all the puppy play barks, trying to play bow and get closer to her. Meanwhile, I am on the phone with new job IT. Finally she walks over and is getting into Remy's things (the dog bed, the rope, his ball, his bone), and Remy jumps up and tries to run over and play, jerking my whole desk. But I am clearly in the wrong for asking her for help/to put the cat back in her room.
NOW, I am not saying the cat should be prisoner. But SHE locks the cat in her room almost her every work day, because the cat will cry if she's not paid attention to when she wants it, or will climb up her legs and claw her up. SO WHY would she do this, other than to cause problems for me, because she thinks Remy isn't 'going to match up with my lifestyle'.
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@Macha said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:
SO WHY would she do this, other than to cause problems for me, because she thinks Remy isn't 'going to match up with my lifestyle'.
Because you brought Remy in.
Sure, your roommate knew you were getting another dog. She was probably thinking of another dog like Logan. It does not seem like Remy has the same chill personality. I would be pissy too.
Hopefully, the crate will help solve the work-day issues.
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@Ganymede honestly, when I came home from putting Logan to sleep, she had let the cat roam free. And had not shut my door, so I found the cat in my room, into Logan's things.
I think she thought it was going to be just the cat, and she was going to have a built in cat sitter. (She's going away next month for a trip. She has not checked with me if I will watch the cat, or if I will be here (there has been talk about me going away for a weekend). But the piss poor way she's been treating me as of late (Even before Remy), she can fucking whistle Dixie.
ETA: I am rehoming Remy. I can not take the stress of trying to handle/train him, and her being this way. I'm sugar crashing from it. And yeah.
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Remy was taken in by a rescue. A friend of a friend, and another friend, all made calls to the lady who runs it, explaining why she needs to make an exception to their rules. I am fortunate to be able to reach out to kind-hearted people.
The roommate said something awful, when I came back in the house after he was handed off. "He wasn't right for you. He wouldn't have fit your lifestyle, and it was too soon. MY Heart isn't over Logan, so yours can't be. That's why I was such a grump to him since you brought him home." (Read: Bitch.) She wouldn't pet him, she wouldn't give him the time of day. All she ever did was yell at him and ignore him. But Remy will be found a perfect home for him, I have no doubt.
Today is Logan's birthday. He would have been 11. I keep finding myself crying. Please scritch/love/treat your non-human babies a little extra for me today.
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Tomorrow I have an appointment (application approved) to go meet this dog that I have inexplicably fallen for. Sadly, the rescue 'forgot' to tell me I was approved, and I called to follow up today, so I am not his only meet and greet tomorrow.
Wish me luck that he's as chill as 'advertised' and he likes me?
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So, that dog did like me, and was very sweet, but was adopted elsewhere.
I met with.. a lot of dogs. A lot of them made me feel guilty, but that was because they weren't for me. I went back to the local SPCA a few times, and thought I found the one. But he doesn't like cats, and since the roommate has one...
But the other one I had a meet and greet with, does okay with cats. I had second thoughts, he didn't seem to interested in me during the meet. But I decided it was worth a shot.
OMG y'all. This dog is WORLDS away from the one on Saturday. Much more chill, less distracted, listening when commands are given. (He acted like he didn't know them, on Saturday), and he is already a shadow.
ETA: His adoption was sponsored, and now I know why. His owner was rushed to the hospital, and was not going to be able to come back and care for him. Owner's brother signed him over to the SPCA, and funded the fee when someone chose him.
So I lost my doggo, and he lost his person. We might make this work. (Also, he's a snuggle buddy at night.)
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So new dog was cuddled up, and somewhat under covers cuddling the other night. I dozed off, woke up at about 3am, and about had a heart attack. His ear that has a colored patch on it (He's almost all white) was flipped back, so all I saw was the white part of his face.
Despite this dog being much smaller than Logan, I freaking did a triple take and freaked out. It looked just like Logan would, passed out next to me. I took a picture, to make sure I wasn't crazier than I know I am.
I showed several people who all agreed, if I hadn't told them it wasn't Logan, they would have thought it was.
My one friend says Logan was just coming on by to say hi, and tell me he approved of me springing a new doggo out of jail. That thought makes me want to cry.
Pet tax:
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Just so y'all know, I'm not around right now. I was gifted with a case of COVID and I am exhausted.
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I have come down with an awful case of people demanding that I fix the shitty situations they created immediately.
It’s exhausting too.
“It is better to live doing the things that you like. It is foolish to live within this dream of a world seeing unpleasantness and doing only things that you do not like.” -- Yamamoto Tsunetomo.
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@Ganymede said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:
I have come down with an awful case of people demanding that I fix the shitty situations they created immediately.
It’s exhausting too.
Are you charging your full attorney rate?
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Life is so weird. My car broke, my birthday went all awry, and work is all over the place from awesome to sucking. I try to keep a sense of humor, and keep busy... and yet I still miss Rp.
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I am super excited. Tonight I get to see Trae Crowder live!!
