Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff

[Aria]

@Rinel said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

ETA: speaking of people not seeing stuff. Swimsuits. While transitioning. Oh my gosh the unrelenting horror

Swimsuits designed specifically for trans folks and other non-binary types in various stages of "out"-ness.

I, personally, am just a fat woman who hasn't been okay wearing a bathing suit in almost twenty years, so I definitely feel some of your cringe albeit for totally different "I am not comfortable with my body and the way people are going to stare at me" reasons. You have my support.

ETA: There's also some stuff on Etsy that (not trying to be rude or assume to much or be all up in your bizniz) includes bottoms designed specifically for transwomen and also this article with some general advice on shopping.

[Auspice]

The day I discovered I could buy swimsuits by bra size was pretty much the best thing. That's always been my #1 issue. Oh sure I can FIND a swimsuit that fits all the rest of me but then my boobs are everywhere and-

nope. I'll pay that $120 for a swimsuit by Panache that's got a freakin' bra built into it. Gimme.

[mietze]

That company is amazing. It was a livesaver for my son who loves actually swimming, but not so much the inherent risks in using a binder while you're doing that. He felt comfortable enough to happily wear his high-compression rashguard even outside of the community bubble (like at Silverwood/Idaho, for one example).

[Auspice]

https://www.cbsnews.com/news/saharan-dust-plume-gorilla-dust-cloud-drifting-united-states/

Here I am fighting to recover my ability to breathe from covid and this is incoming. Oof

Please be careful anyone else who is in the path of this cloud. They're saying it's dangerous even if you don't have pre existing conditions that affect the lungs.

[Rinel]

@Aria

Thanks! I'll look into it in a couple weeks since I kindaaaa just dropped all my discretionary income on terrestrial clothes.

Was that wise? No

But am I going to rock the hell out of this adorable top?

Also probably no

[SuperiorHuron]

Epic mom fail. I accidentally flipped off my 13 yo son. Thank god we all have a sense of humor.!

[RightMeow]

@SuperiorHuron

I mean... I feel like it's not a fail. You used it right. I mean if you read it as sarcasm. Thanks a lot.

It's teaching proper emoji usage. Yeah... that's it. It's fine. Perfectly acceptable.

[silverfox]

Grump. Apparently my underwriter (we're buying a house) can't believe that a teacher would get a massive pay increase from one year to the next. So I have extra hoops to jump through before we can close. Unfortunately right now our HR is at skeleton levels between the virus and summer break. So it'll be a bit difficult to get the paperwork filled out.

In previous years I could just drive up there and stand at the front desk till someone could see me but not this year. Soooo many phone calls and emails now. >.>

I wish they'd given me more than 5 business days before we close to do it. >.<

[Quinn]

@silverfox I feel you. We were on edge all day today because we needed the buyer of our place to sign an amendment moving the closing date up so that we could prove to our underwriter we really would have the money we needed at closing on the house we wanted to purchase. I barely slept all weekend.

At 4:47 they finally got the paperwork done. I AM STILL A BUNDLE OF WOUND NERVES!

[silverfox]

kick feed idly

I'm understanding suddenly why most plumbing companies out here charge for their service visits. Once you pay for that then you feel obligated to stay with them to not loose that cost.

Also, I do not want your service warranty please. I just want you to install a new one and take away this old water heater. Then I intend to invite my father, who does this business, to come up and teach me how to do all the nifty gritty service and maintaince work. Then I'll do it myself tyvm. I grew up in rural colorado and we did our own house work. I've laid pipe, insulation, framed walls, installed deep ceilings, bathtubs, tile, hardwood flooring, carpet, painted, yardwork, etc. I intend to keep doing this despite being a city dweller. Don't upsell me gdi!

(These are things I'm too polite to say to the technician trying to sell me their service bundles.)

[RightMeow]

@silverfox said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

I've laid pipe

(insert childish laughter here)

Sorry you are having 'a day' though.

[Macha]

Pain, pain, and more pain. I can't get away from it, and it is exhausting. I am trying to find a new place to move to, that I can afford and maybe even save some money, and I'm just stressing myself out, which doesn't help me sleep, especially with pain. It's just an endless cycle, and I need to wake up when I /can/ seem to sleep, because work. Bleh.

[mietze]

I have been non-ethical vegan now for about 3 months and feeling pretty good.

And I am working on my resume and seeking a job that's going to allow me to support the kids in their schooling since the district is going 100 percent remote in the fall but with no flexibility or accommodation for parents that must work during weekday mornings. I feel sad because I love my coworkers and 90 percent of the job, but the stress level from being forced into cold calling and now cross sales pressure rising means that I can't deal with it anymore on top of the brick wall of emotional burnout plus understaffing. I love crisis work and I thrive it it but apparently not constant sales goals crisis. Looking is helping me get through things. I'm pretty sure if I can get an interview I have a good shot at getting a new job.

But I am unbelievably tired and fraying at the seams right now. I am hoping having a week and a half off (starting the middle of next week) will help me put one foot in front of the other for the next while.

[Grayson]

@mietze said in Health and Wealth and GrownUp Stuff:

I love crisis work and I thrive it it but apparently not constant sales goals crisis.

There's a difference between an actual genuine crisis and a manufactured eternal 'crisis'. The first, something happened, something needs to be done about it, you pull out all the stops and somehow get it done, and peoples' lives are very much improved from what they were. You have the feeling of a job well done, and people are grateful. The second, someone simply hasn't hired enough people to do the job, and when you pull out all the stops and somehow get it done you have to do it all over again tomorrow because they somehow think 110% effort is sustainable.

It isn't.

Don't confuse the actual crisis with the manufactured crisis. One of them isn't real and you know it, and the constant pressure to throw everything you have at it will just burn you out.

[JinShei]

... and the urgent and the important get mixed up. Because we feel such a sense of urgency generally right now, that's spilling over into the other parts where non-urgent things become urgent, and important things get forgotten... That's my work right now.

[RightMeow]

That moment you work 50+ hours, you have a day off. The game won't work for you because you can't look at anything or go north. No one is around to reset it.... and you just cry. Like ugly cry.

It's not the game or the staff at all. It's my mental blah. Like why can't something go right when I want it to?

Thank you for the grump session.

[Quinn]

We just bought a new house. It needs a lot of work, but it's way better than the one bedroom place we were in that was super tiny. Way too tiny for two people, definitely too tiny for four people. But as a result my kids are NOT used to stairs and this thing has stairs everywhere: front porch, back porch, going to the second floor and basement!

My parents dropped off a set of really cute pink chairs and tables for the kids to have outside. Since the back deck is not up to code I asked that they take them out to the front porch so they can people watch or even better the side yard.

As I walked through the living room I see my four year old move her chair to the edge of the stairs and sit. I start to run and put my hand on the screen door handle as she tips backwards and falls, hitting forehead first, twisting, then flipping down six old fashioned 60's concrete stairs.

I honestly thought I was watching her die or break all her arms and legs or her neck. She was screaming, my older daughter went tearing through the house screaming for my husband, the teenager across the street who watched it all went yelling inside for his mom to help, and I scooped her up and started checking her all over. No broken arms, no broken legs, no broken collarbone. As I walked her to the garage to get the car in case we had to go to the ER she cracked a joke and started laughing.

The only injury she had and I have NO IDEA how is a scrape her to forehead. It's not even bad. That's it. Pediatrician just had us watch her for four hours for any weird behavior (vomiting, dizziness, lethargy) because that's all the hospital would do. She's absolutely, totally fine.

This kid, man. Clumsy as hell but somehow, SOMEHOW has managed to avoid any serious injury. But today we're going to go learn the drive to the local hospital. Just in case.

[thesuntsar]

@Quinn Man, I felt myself just totally stop while breathing this. I'm so glad she's okay. So sorry you had to experience that.

[silverfox]

@Quinn

Just, oh my god. I am so glad everything is okay. That is a parents worst nightmare.

[SuperiorHuron]

@Quinn I don't know if I should like this because she's ok, or...I'm really really glad she's ok! That's so scary as a parent to watch! Or anyone for that matter...Your daughter is going to have bones of steel and the best stories when she grows up!